Yeah, but why didn't you handle this before hand when I wasn't available? Go downstairs in the pokemon center, receive your pen pad. Open it up in your Key Items, and type your Friend code to me.
After that, go down and register me on your pen pad by typing in my friend code (which can be located in my signature or "about me" tab). Make sure you have a wifi access point. Let me know if you can get this far.
You know, it's that way for some mods, but others can be really nice. For instance. I got an infraction from Darkie one time for an "incoherent post", but I PM'd him and explained to him what I meant by the post and that I thought it was unfair and he actually reversed the infraction! 0_0 Super nice guy! Then, of course, I've met Mingnot and Zerowing in real life (at Worlds 09) and they're 2 great guys too. Some other mods (that I won't name) are real jerks though! :P
Trust me, it was that way for me too. It gets better as people get to know you. There are just so many noobs/hackers/scammers that just show up and screw people over that most people here have gotten quite defensive. :)
I totally know what you mean. Here, this is actually the site I get all mine off of. I've tried all the important ones (cloning/pokeballs/vitamins/various items/etc...) Just find which version you're using and copy and paste them in using the software and the cable. :)