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Aerodactyl was not paralyzed because the Thunder Wave missed. Aerodactyl used Fly to avoid the second Thunderbolt. Aerodactyl should be at 82 health, and Rotom should have taken some damage from being hit by Fly.
Aerodactyl used Stone Edge! (378) -6 en, -(10+3+4.5)*1.5=26.25 hp Charmander
Charmander used Iron Tail! (990, 536, 878) -9 en, -(10-1.5)*1.5=12.75 hp Aerodactyl
Aerodactyl used Rock Slide! (403, 629) -5 en, -(8+3+4.5)*1.5=23.25 hp Charmander
Charmander used Smoke Screen! -7 en
Aerodactyl used Stone Edge! (471, 954) -6 en, -(10+3+4.5)*1.5=26.25 hp Charmander
Charmander used Iron Tail! (962, 559, 706) -9 en, -(10-1.5)*1.5=12.75 hp Aerodactyl
Iron tail + iron tail combo - cooldown( iron tail) - iron tail +iron tail combo
IF evasive attack or Fly is used, use Dragon Dance that turn and push actions back.
Assuming that bobbyvaporeon sends out Rotom instead of forfeiting.
Stone Edge-Roost-Stone Edge
If Rotom uses a damaging electric-type move, then use Roost and push back, but only once, and replace all following instances of Roost with Bite.
If Rotom uses Thunder Wave, then use Fly and push back.