I eventually want kids, but I'm in no hurry tbh (just as long as I have them before like 35, I'd rather not be some ancient guy while they're growing up I mean). In contrast, my younger brother knocked up his first serious GF at 21 (she was 23), but they are happily married and are expecting #3 now, so different strokes for different folks I guess. I'm fine with entertaining my nieces for now.
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Serious Who wants kids?
- Thread starter Death Phenomeno
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I think I'm not really in a place to say whether or not I want kids and I don't think there's any reason for me to say yes or no right now, because I am sure that whatever answer I say, I'll change my mind.
Personally, I think the reason why most people my age don't want kids is because they don't want that kind of responsibility, which is understandable. But, I think people who hate kids just for being kids are a little unreasonable. like, it's fine if you aren't a huge fan, but don't be rude or mean towards kids for no reason. It's not their fault they aren't adults.
Personally, I think the reason why most people my age don't want kids is because they don't want that kind of responsibility, which is understandable. But, I think people who hate kids just for being kids are a little unreasonable. like, it's fine if you aren't a huge fan, but don't be rude or mean towards kids for no reason. It's not their fault they aren't adults.
jpw234
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I already have this planned out. I will have two kids, a girl and a boy, twins. I will never tell them which of them is older because older sibling/younger sibling is an unfortunate relationship dynamic. They will both be the coolest kids ever and will be best friends to each other. I wish I could skip the years between 0 and 2 (I don't really like babies) but I'll deal somehow.
So basically unless scientists figure out how to engineer twins of specific genders, I'll probably just end up adopting.
So basically unless scientists figure out how to engineer twins of specific genders, I'll probably just end up adopting.
The Original Syn
Banned deucer.
Since my girlfriend and I can't have kids ourselves, we'll most likely adopt.
As an incredibly irresponsible person and overall failure of a human being, I've already decided that I'm not going to have kids. The thought did come across my mind the other day at work when interacting with a customer's kid, and for that moment actually gave me the feeling that I wanted my own. Then I remembered how awful of a child I was and decided I probably don't want to go through that (or have a possible s/o go through with it either).
I find pretty interesting how much the mentality of many has changed. it used to be almost mandatory to get married and have kids, even if you felt like it wasn't for you, you were considered a failure if you didn't have kids and/or get married. I think it's amazing that all things are acceptable and becoming a parent is not something that you must set as a goal in your life-and that if you're a girl, you don't need to find a guy; if you're a dude, you don't need a woman. we're every day more open minded and I find it wonderful.
I do want to be become a mother one day-I love kids. but my only rule is that I must be economically stable. I don't want to raise kids in a shit enviroment, for the sake of the kids and not just myself.
I do want to be become a mother one day-I love kids. but my only rule is that I must be economically stable. I don't want to raise kids in a shit enviroment, for the sake of the kids and not just myself.
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I would totally want to be a father one day because I feel like I would love raising a bunch of mini-ununs but I, like anto, would want to be financially stable because I don't want my kids to grow up with their parents struggling to make ends meet
that must suck
that must suck
The Original Syn
Banned deucer.
I'm gonna have to adopt and as much as I want kids of my own, adopting from other mothers and fathers in bad situations seems to play on my conscience. I don't know that I can give them a better life. But I'm damn sure gonna try.
That thought crossed my mind quite often a few months back, being a parent seems like the best feeling ever but i guess i'll have to deprive myself of it because i'll just be a horrible father, i'm irresponsible and selfish af and i dont even see myself changing over the next few years. Even in the distant future where im married to the woman of my dreams, economically stable,employed into my dream job, i still wouldn't want to be a father. Don't wanna fail an innocent kid.
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The most important thing you can give a child is love and attention imo. You don't have to be rich, super-mature, or have a perfect life to deliver on those things. Having a stable income and level head helps a lot when times are trying but literally anyone can raise kids into healthy adults, if they so desire. Just because you dont foresee a change over time, does not mean it will not occur. If the time comes that you feel like a child would bring you lots of joy and you know you can provide that child with a stable home and loving parents then go for it!
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Always wanted to become a parent to atleast 2-3 children. I'm now 28 and only now see myself to be in a comfortable situation to make that happen. I would have much prefered to have been a much younger dad i.e 20-24 but life never works out the way you like and a few failed relationships later i'm now 28 and now with the partner i think i was destined to be with.
We both would love to be parents, Only been together for a year and a half so we have decided to keep things the way they are living together and saving money to make sure we can provide and give our children everything we can. Trouble we are having atm is her mother pressuring her into having a child because she is 60 and hasn't got a grand child yet which i can completely understand, but feel its unfair to pressure her so.
My younger brother has had a child and being an uncle is great, My nephew is such a character, can't help but feeling green with envy though.
Anyways this is my little piece sorry if it's all over the place. Literacy never has been my strong point xD
We both would love to be parents, Only been together for a year and a half so we have decided to keep things the way they are living together and saving money to make sure we can provide and give our children everything we can. Trouble we are having atm is her mother pressuring her into having a child because she is 60 and hasn't got a grand child yet which i can completely understand, but feel its unfair to pressure her so.
My younger brother has had a child and being an uncle is great, My nephew is such a character, can't help but feeling green with envy though.
Anyways this is my little piece sorry if it's all over the place. Literacy never has been my strong point xD
I have been economically stable for many, many years. I think I'm quite responsible, even responsible enough to take care of kids. I used to want kids with my last serious couple, my ex-wife, having a family life and all that.
However, after my breakup, I had an epiphany, kind of. I don't really want kids anymore. I need a lot of time for what I want to do in life, I need a lot of work as well, so I know I'd need to either sacrifice that or have kids with less attention than they deserve.
However, after my breakup, I had an epiphany, kind of. I don't really want kids anymore. I need a lot of time for what I want to do in life, I need a lot of work as well, so I know I'd need to either sacrifice that or have kids with less attention than they deserve.
I voted other because I don't plan on having kids but I would like to adopt one day. I have panic issues and I don't know how I would make it calmly with a child inside me. I would hate to be a mess during a pregnancy and have the child gain my negative and fearful energy. My fiance feels the same way. We both want to adopt. We don't need to have our own. Being able to give a nice home to a child who has no parents sounds rewarding to me.
I hope to become a father at some point in the future but I need to make sure that I meet someone first and have a stable relationship with them first. The last thing that I want for my child is to go through his parents breaking up. As a kid who grew up with this crap it isn't exactly enjoyable and as such I wouldn't want to put junior through such a heartbreaking experience.
On the lighter side, I'd love to have a daughter so I can become the cliche father who makes her boyfriends sqirm >:)
On the lighter side, I'd love to have a daughter so I can become the cliche father who makes her boyfriends sqirm >:)
I want kids but if and only if I'm financially stable and in a loving marriage with no chance of divorce. But that's a long time away so I don't think of it much. Plus I'd need to get myself a girlfriend LOL
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I've really wanted kids since my teen years, it's just always been a thing for me - but I'm not really fussed about having biological kids? I find the idea of adoption to honestly be beautiful, and I can't wait until I have the opportunity to bring love into the lives of children that need it. I'm still finishing up my bachelor's degree though, so I'd like to wait until that's all done and I've found a stable source of income before starting a family.
I've really wanted kids since my teen years, it's just always been a thing for me - but I'm not really fussed about having biological kids? I find the idea of adoption to honestly be beautiful, and I can't wait until I have the opportunity to bring love into the lives of children that need it. I'm still finishing up my bachelor's degree though, so I'd like to wait until that's all done and I've found a stable source of income before starting a family.