second question is easier to answer - etiquette is subjective, and it's anonymous pokemon on the internet, so you can only do so much to please people. make the response that, in your head, expresses the respect you think it should, close the match, and move on *shrug* pokemon hasn't established "standards" of politeness, like say starcraft where not gging is considered rather rude
as for your adamant SD loom - you can drop the speed if you want, but you only save ~40 EVs at the benchmarks you're observing, which, for something as frail as breloom, will make really no practical difference. you need BIG amounts of EVs if you want breloom to take hits better than a paper bag, and seeing as you're carrying LO, the "bulk" will fade away pretty fast anyway. in comparison going for the extra speed EVs will let you outrun other creepers and who knows might save you in a clutch situation - perhaps not often but definitely more so than having a tiny bit of extra health. getting spores faster is also useful.
<~aldarOFF> alkines is gay
<&Theorymon> aldaron you've done it
<&Theorymon> now everyone in this channel has been insulted by you at least once
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