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What do you look for in a partner?
- Thread starter The 1 and Only Lady Gaga
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For some reason, I find it really attractive if there is a cute girl who is just as tall as me.
And pretty much what other people have said. (Agree with McGrue on this, those non-smoking would have to be a must)
And pretty much what other people have said. (Agree with McGrue on this, those non-smoking would have to be a must)
Well I do wanna move closer and I will at some point - I have the options to change this. But it's only 110 miles or so. 2 hours by train.
I want to reply to this because this is -almost- exactly how I felt (minus 3 and 4 for different reasons), only reverse the gender. Really, it's uncanny.
It didn't turn out like that, though. While my fiancee is 1 and 2 which I could never drop, after a while I found the rest just didn't matter so much (though I am the same with #7, so it remains an issue -- but it's something to work through). And we don't even discuss philosophy seriously -- or if we do it's just me mentioning something. I've found that I don't mind, though. Love is just funny like that, I suppose.
My standards are not exactly high only because if you are expecting perfection, just forget it, its not happening.
But in all honesty,
what I look for in a lady,
1) On the same level of the same faith: I'm not interested in super religious or even religious for that matter. I suppose Christian is the closest label you can put on me, so no I would not marry a Muslim
2) Sense of humor: The girl doesn't have to be funny, this is my job. If she doesn't find me funny though, forget it, because I spend about 80 percent of my energy getting people to laugh. Also, annoying laughs will instantly be terminated.
3) Looks: Like a 5,6,7 out of 10 will do. I also prefer "cute" over "hot", but if I were to run into "hot", I'm not going to say no.
4) Frugality: Or in other words, not wasteful. This will be the hardest to find, because I am enslaved by the stereotype that women waste more money then men. Men can also waste money, but I do not, so naturally I see everyone as being more wasteful than me. On a scale of 1 to 100, 1 being the cheapest, hording bastard possible, and 100 being the most wasteful person possible, I would prefer someone in between 25 and 50. I'm more like a 12 or 17, but I'm trying to get better.
5) Intellegence: A must, however, if this is too high, this can breed arrogance which is NOT cool. I'm not a huge judge on this category.
6) The confidence meter: On one end is depression and on the other end is arrogance. I would like a lady in the middle. Arrogance is a total turnoff and well so is someone always feeling sorry for themselves.
Besides that I don't really care.
EDIT: I'm a real jerk, aren't I?
But in all honesty,
what I look for in a lady,
1) On the same level of the same faith: I'm not interested in super religious or even religious for that matter. I suppose Christian is the closest label you can put on me, so no I would not marry a Muslim
2) Sense of humor: The girl doesn't have to be funny, this is my job. If she doesn't find me funny though, forget it, because I spend about 80 percent of my energy getting people to laugh. Also, annoying laughs will instantly be terminated.
3) Looks: Like a 5,6,7 out of 10 will do. I also prefer "cute" over "hot", but if I were to run into "hot", I'm not going to say no.
4) Frugality: Or in other words, not wasteful. This will be the hardest to find, because I am enslaved by the stereotype that women waste more money then men. Men can also waste money, but I do not, so naturally I see everyone as being more wasteful than me. On a scale of 1 to 100, 1 being the cheapest, hording bastard possible, and 100 being the most wasteful person possible, I would prefer someone in between 25 and 50. I'm more like a 12 or 17, but I'm trying to get better.
5) Intellegence: A must, however, if this is too high, this can breed arrogance which is NOT cool. I'm not a huge judge on this category.
6) The confidence meter: On one end is depression and on the other end is arrogance. I would like a lady in the middle. Arrogance is a total turnoff and well so is someone always feeling sorry for themselves.
Besides that I don't really care.
EDIT: I'm a real jerk, aren't I?
I've found that I'm really attracted to personality "quirks;" Which is what I'm attracted to most the time. Although I guess I should admit that their looks are one of first things I notice but I really don't have high standards (although I love short chicks ;p). Another thing that I look for is similar religious views. Also a girl that isn't afraid to go outside and go kayaking or other activities like that is just so awesome.
She has to be shorter than me, for starters. I don't want to go out with a girl taller than me, that makes me feel uncomfortable.
Laughter has to be essential. She has to laugh at good jokes and point out bad jokes for me.
Brains come first. I won't go out with a girl who doesn't know how to spell "mercury" correctly.
Boobs are a bonus. If a girl has a great body and the brains to go with it, then she's just made it into me "Top 10 girls" list.
She has to know how to play games. If you don't know how to hold a 360 controller, then don't talk to me.
She has to know how to kick ass. And stay a delicate flower along the way. Bulky women with muscles are a HUGE turn-off.
Laughter has to be essential. She has to laugh at good jokes and point out bad jokes for me.
Brains come first. I won't go out with a girl who doesn't know how to spell "mercury" correctly.
Boobs are a bonus. If a girl has a great body and the brains to go with it, then she's just made it into me "Top 10 girls" list.
She has to know how to play games. If you don't know how to hold a 360 controller, then don't talk to me.
She has to know how to kick ass. And stay a delicate flower along the way. Bulky women with muscles are a HUGE turn-off.
She has to have a GREAT sense of humour.
She has to have a nice laugh and nice hair <--- you can tell if she takes care of herself.
Body wise, nice legs (little to no scars), boobs are a bonus. Doesn't have to be porn-star worthy but not super small.
She has to know how to have fun, make me happy and have fun when we're spending time together.
She has to act like a lady. Sitting with legs wide open might be a turn on for some guys as they can see some undies, but its a huge turn off (unless you catch a glimpse of a super hot girl).
She has to have a nice laugh and nice hair <--- you can tell if she takes care of herself.
Body wise, nice legs (little to no scars), boobs are a bonus. Doesn't have to be porn-star worthy but not super small.
She has to know how to have fun, make me happy and have fun when we're spending time together.
She has to act like a lady. Sitting with legs wide open might be a turn on for some guys as they can see some undies, but its a huge turn off (unless you catch a glimpse of a super hot girl).
Don't you live in the Netherlands?
Anyways, I tend to go for the more anorexically skinny girls (although actual anorexia is really gross). Brains are a bonus, but not required, since my goal is to hit and quit anyways.
Then again, that's just sexual frustration talking, so wtev.
but you seem like a "normie."
For girls and boys alike, I look for independence. I want to be an independent person with an independent partner. I have no time or patience to play mom or deal with selfishness or with anybody holding me back.
I need somebody secure and adventurous who isn't affected by 'what people might think' of them if they do something fun or silly.
I need somebody secure and adventurous who isn't affected by 'what people might think' of them if they do something fun or silly.
I like a girl that's secure. like the opposite of insecure.
other important traits would be:
amazingly dressed..i always wanted a chick who was flyer than me
ability to roll blunts, or at least a willingness to learn
please don't care what other people think
being motivated to do something with your life, perversion :D
other important traits would be:
amazingly dressed..i always wanted a chick who was flyer than me
ability to roll blunts, or at least a willingness to learn
please don't care what other people think
being motivated to do something with your life, perversion :D
Actually, I have no idea. It seems to be sub-conscious for me. With some girls I just go into alpha-mode and show off and try to make the other guys look like wimps. What stands out is when I do it, which isn't often.
Before I had a gf and started working out, I was skinny and still stood out as one of the tough guys in high school. You don't want girls feeling unsfae around you whether you're the weirdo or you couldn't stop a bad guy bothering her.
I like 'em healthy and realistic. If they like Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks then there's no way, same thing with ridiculous plans that will never happen/work (lotto player as a full-time career).
Before I had a gf and started working out, I was skinny and still stood out as one of the tough guys in high school. You don't want girls feeling unsfae around you whether you're the weirdo or you couldn't stop a bad guy bothering her.
I like 'em healthy and realistic. If they like Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks then there's no way, same thing with ridiculous plans that will never happen/work (lotto player as a full-time career).
Basically what he said. Oddly enough I rarely have trouble making friends with girls while most guys piss me off. Ergo, being friends with a girl is a huge plus, when finding them attractive.
I like loud girls with colorful hair and a flair for the dramatic. Pretty much if you seem like you're out of your mind, I'll find you attractive.
idk my standards are pretty high. I want a woman who's amazingly beautiful, strong at heart, dedicated to both her goals and her relationship, sweet, caring, considerate, and supportive of me and everything I do. there's a bunch of small stuff too that I can't really put into words, but to sum it up, near perfection is actually kind of what I'm aiming for
maybe it's a little to ideal, idk, but if I can't get that, I'm cool with being single for a nice long time
still, meeting "the one" before i hit my 30s would be awesome so that we don't have to be all bills and goals and srs bzns. I've only had a taste of young naive romance once and I'd very much like to experience it again.
not now tho, but sometime in the near future when I have all my shit together
maybe it's a little to ideal, idk, but if I can't get that, I'm cool with being single for a nice long time
still, meeting "the one" before i hit my 30s would be awesome so that we don't have to be all bills and goals and srs bzns. I've only had a taste of young naive romance once and I'd very much like to experience it again.
not now tho, but sometime in the near future when I have all my shit together
I look for someone that knows how to give me my own space, i require lots of time for being alone, privacy. I'm a very introspective person.
However i just like someone which is fun to talk to, that understands my sense of humor and that respects the things that i like to do. I seek someone to hang out and have fun.
Her personality can be anything, but bitchy. Can't stand someone that tries to control you, i hate that. I definitely appreciate sense of humor, humility and being gentle. Open minded too.
Physically i'm not looking for something in particular, like features and stuff, i like several types of women so i don't really mind. I can know at first glance if i like a woman or not.
In a few words, i want a girlfriend that also works as a best friend, if that's even possible (well i meet someone like that once).
However i just like someone which is fun to talk to, that understands my sense of humor and that respects the things that i like to do. I seek someone to hang out and have fun.
Her personality can be anything, but bitchy. Can't stand someone that tries to control you, i hate that. I definitely appreciate sense of humor, humility and being gentle. Open minded too.
Physically i'm not looking for something in particular, like features and stuff, i like several types of women so i don't really mind. I can know at first glance if i like a woman or not.
In a few words, i want a girlfriend that also works as a best friend, if that's even possible (well i meet someone like that once).
I look for someone I'm attracted to, who's attracted to me, and then we figure out via trial and error whether or not the differences between us are stuff we can work through. I don't see how you can really have anything other than that. I don't really have a need to be picky, but I guess if I did it would just be to the person I liked the most. Is it really harder than that?
List time:
1) She'd have to be much more intelligent than me. Technically, it wouldn't take much in terms of brainpower as I am stupid, but I've always found a smarter partner sexy (for lack of a better term.)
2) Must be a hyper-crazy-insane-beastacular-LIBERAL (in all caps, yes) to counter my Conservative attitude (with said prefixes applying to my Conservatism as well.)
3) Cannot be a fan of the following sports teams: Green Bay Packers, St. Louis Cardinals, Chicago White Sox, Utah Jazz, Los Angeles Lakers, New York Yankees, Indianapolis Colts, & Washington Redskins.
4) Must be a fan of the following sports teams: Chicago Bears, Chicago Bulls, Chicago Cubs, & Chicago Blackhawks.
5) In terms of music, I don't could care less about what she listens too as long as she refrains from Country, Screamo/Emo, and mainstream Rap/Hip-Hop/R&B.
6) Must realize that the Rap/Hip-Hop that I listen to is different from the mainstream kind. Music is rather important to me.
7) Must be able to proficiently play three instruments.
8) Must constantly be able to improve upon my initial ideas and not be afraid to challenge/confront/defy me, as long as it is helpful. I always like a bit of sass.
9) A good lookin' woman never hurt. I prefer women shorter than 5'8 (my height) as I don't have to feel insecure about my height that way. long dark brown/black hair is a must. She must be fit, and boobage is always a plus. Hell yes, I'm shallow.
1) She'd have to be much more intelligent than me. Technically, it wouldn't take much in terms of brainpower as I am stupid, but I've always found a smarter partner sexy (for lack of a better term.)
2) Must be a hyper-crazy-insane-beastacular-LIBERAL (in all caps, yes) to counter my Conservative attitude (with said prefixes applying to my Conservatism as well.)
3) Cannot be a fan of the following sports teams: Green Bay Packers, St. Louis Cardinals, Chicago White Sox, Utah Jazz, Los Angeles Lakers, New York Yankees, Indianapolis Colts, & Washington Redskins.
4) Must be a fan of the following sports teams: Chicago Bears, Chicago Bulls, Chicago Cubs, & Chicago Blackhawks.
5) In terms of music, I don't could care less about what she listens too as long as she refrains from Country, Screamo/Emo, and mainstream Rap/Hip-Hop/R&B.
6) Must realize that the Rap/Hip-Hop that I listen to is different from the mainstream kind. Music is rather important to me.
7) Must be able to proficiently play three instruments.
8) Must constantly be able to improve upon my initial ideas and not be afraid to challenge/confront/defy me, as long as it is helpful. I always like a bit of sass.
9) A good lookin' woman never hurt. I prefer women shorter than 5'8 (my height) as I don't have to feel insecure about my height that way. long dark brown/black hair is a must. She must be fit, and boobage is always a plus. Hell yes, I'm shallow.