I feel like that's part of it, certainly - like, there are people who are all right with the concept of people having gender identities and sexualities which do not match how they perceive the world, but have much more of an issue with people who fall into either/both of these camps when they're in the presence of it. For example, there might sometimes be sincerity in the line, "you can be and do whatever you want in the bedroom". But I think that beyond this, there are two important factors: that queerness can be seen by those who have questioned their gender and/or sexuality as totally steering into those identities which they see as perhaps alien to them and therefore try to rebuke within themselves; and because of the association of sexuality and gender identity with gender norms can cause some people to see queerness as some sort of threat. They're wrong for doing so, and it's clear evidence of toxic culture, but I think that's where it comes from. Like, a guy shouldn't be TERRIFIED that someone will try to sleep with them just because that other person is gay; a big part of it, I think, is indeed this lack of understanding of what's different (being gay=/=liking EVERY guy under the Sun, for starters)...but more importantly, it's a confrontation of their own sexuality and their perceived sense of like...masculinity. It's really annoying. It doesn't help that guys tend to think that guys who are interested in other guys will behave the same way toward them as guys who who are interested in chicks. Perhaps there's some truth to it, but for me personally, as an example, if I give you a compliment, I am NOOOT flirting; I just want to say something that I genuinely believe to be praiseworthy. Frankly, it feels offensive to be treated like everything I do and say is an attempt to sleep with another guy. Generally, if you're that worried about something, it's reflective of some sort of issue going on in your own head (not necessarily that you're gay, to be clear; just that it's not about the person in front of you so much as something bothering you internally).The only real explanation I can really come up with is that people are afraid of change and things outside of what is considered the "norm". But, change is another fundamental aspect of human society and growth, so I suppose it comes full circle. I guess I just wish people were more accepting of LGBT folk, because at the end of the day, we just want to be secure with who we are and what we want to be. Threatening people's lives and trying to tear people apart just because you don't want to understand them is not only ridiculous, but hypocritical at its core.
That was totes a thing yes, and we're still seeing the effects of it today. I'm hearing far less of the slippery slope argumentation and there is LESS of the "My GeNdEr Is AtTaCk HeLiCoPtEr, LOLOLOL", which is good. (Probably helps that social media platforms seem to have less overlap between leftist and rightist camps nowadays, I'm sure.) But there's been overall less judgement and opposition to homosexuality which also means less organised opposition, whilst bi erasure is still very real and there's been real pushback against trans people, like that whole gender & sports debate. The Overton Window is shifting, but I don't know the extent to which that'll lead to positive change. It's been pretty slow in The Netherlands (though public spaces now GENERALLY use things like, "dear passengers" instead of "ladies and gentlemen"), but I'm optimistic - at least there's some good stuff baked into Dutch healthcare for people who are. In the US, it's a shame that it seems a lot needs to be done politically, not just socially; the former is worrisome, especially if the Supreme Court would get involved.If you live in the US, notice how when gay marriage was legalized, there was a complete shift over to oppressing trans people? It’s because they knew they were facing a losing battle and now the same arguments made against gay people a decade ago were copy pasted for trans people. It’s all been a cycle from the Civil Rights movement, to gay rights, and now trans rights. And they’re still under the impression that if [insert minority group here] gain more rights it will then move to supporting pedophiles or beastiality which as mentioned before, are inherently harmful to both parties of such affairs.