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that's a good question. i would say try joining discord servers for the things you're interested in and try to meet people there
also a lot of people had a crush on vampcakes so it's not surprising. happens all the time with girls on the internet lol. i thought she was kind of boring to talk to lol, but I can understand it because I've felt that for others