Stuff happened today, and it's left me feeling kinda perturbed.
So... I have a friend who I haven't seen in a really long time. He calls me one night and asks if I wanna catch up. This was kinda out of the blue, cuz he never calls me.
So we meet up for lunch a couple days later, and we end up in the food court of the local shopping mall. He grabs a table while I go get my food. When I come back, there's a third guy at the table. This guy works with my friend, and was randomly shopping around. So he sticks around, and we eat, shop a little ect.
Come time to leave, this guy offers me a lift home.
I think I should explain at this point. My friend is actually an ex. He's a friend of a friend, so we were a couple in the friend circle. We broke up ages ago, made up, and agreed that we could be friends. We still caught up and did stuff, but not as frequently as when we were going out.
I had met this other guy once or twice, and never really spoke more than exchanging hellos. He revealed that he was gay on the drive home, but in the closet (my friend is out, both at work and with family/friends.) He told me that he liked my ex and had asked him out a couple times (he said no.)
My ex is a decent guy, but he's sneaky. There's always stuff he won't tell you, and he usually has some kind of ulterior motive up his sleeve.
He's my friend though, and I trust him. Normally I'd be fine with it but I feel awful now. He hadn't contacted me in so long, and when he finally does, he's not calling as a friend who wants to catch up, he's playing matchmaker. He didn't mention anything about meeting this guy, which he could have asked me about beforehand, knowing that I'd be fine with having him tag along (As a friend, I don't mind meeting new people.) But now this guy has my number, and he's calling me, asking if I wanna catch up (possibly just the two of us.) I'm not interested in him at all, but I don't feel comfortable rejecting him. I'd like it if the three of us could catch up, go do whatever, but I don't want anything more out of it.
But another part of me says that It was just a random encounter, and my friend is a friend, who wanted to catch up and will in the future. I just can't help feel I've been played.
Part of the reason I'm stressing about this whole thing is because stuff like this happens all the time. I'm a good person. Anyone who knows me will tell you. I'm kinda meek/docile, and I forgive easily, avoid conflict ect. I wouldn't say that I'm a pushover, but people teld to ruffle my feathers more than they would with other people. I'm thinking that my ex might not have done this if he thought I'd confront him about it.
I don't know if I should be angry with myself, my friend, or no one at all.
So... I have a friend who I haven't seen in a really long time. He calls me one night and asks if I wanna catch up. This was kinda out of the blue, cuz he never calls me.
So we meet up for lunch a couple days later, and we end up in the food court of the local shopping mall. He grabs a table while I go get my food. When I come back, there's a third guy at the table. This guy works with my friend, and was randomly shopping around. So he sticks around, and we eat, shop a little ect.
Come time to leave, this guy offers me a lift home.
I think I should explain at this point. My friend is actually an ex. He's a friend of a friend, so we were a couple in the friend circle. We broke up ages ago, made up, and agreed that we could be friends. We still caught up and did stuff, but not as frequently as when we were going out.
I had met this other guy once or twice, and never really spoke more than exchanging hellos. He revealed that he was gay on the drive home, but in the closet (my friend is out, both at work and with family/friends.) He told me that he liked my ex and had asked him out a couple times (he said no.)
My ex is a decent guy, but he's sneaky. There's always stuff he won't tell you, and he usually has some kind of ulterior motive up his sleeve.
He's my friend though, and I trust him. Normally I'd be fine with it but I feel awful now. He hadn't contacted me in so long, and when he finally does, he's not calling as a friend who wants to catch up, he's playing matchmaker. He didn't mention anything about meeting this guy, which he could have asked me about beforehand, knowing that I'd be fine with having him tag along (As a friend, I don't mind meeting new people.) But now this guy has my number, and he's calling me, asking if I wanna catch up (possibly just the two of us.) I'm not interested in him at all, but I don't feel comfortable rejecting him. I'd like it if the three of us could catch up, go do whatever, but I don't want anything more out of it.
But another part of me says that It was just a random encounter, and my friend is a friend, who wanted to catch up and will in the future. I just can't help feel I've been played.
Part of the reason I'm stressing about this whole thing is because stuff like this happens all the time. I'm a good person. Anyone who knows me will tell you. I'm kinda meek/docile, and I forgive easily, avoid conflict ect. I wouldn't say that I'm a pushover, but people teld to ruffle my feathers more than they would with other people. I'm thinking that my ex might not have done this if he thought I'd confront him about it.
I don't know if I should be angry with myself, my friend, or no one at all.
