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I am shocked do you really have wife ? you might also be the only active pokemon player with a wife that's extremely rare ,rarer than a shiny pokemon infected with pokerus lol
Mods are supposed to share their side of the story in ban appeals against themselves though, so unless somebody already locked then you might want to comment there.