So here is the deal, ~BLOOM~ is not dead, and he actually responded to my post
however, he asked to fight on Monday, but did not log on at all until Tuesday, when he said he could play on Wednesday, apparently we missed each other (in spite of the fact I was on for pretty much the entire evening barring eating dinner and we have like the same timezone (1 hour off)). So he asked me to be online Thursday so we could get it done, I was for some of the evening, but not as much and missed him being online. In summary my opponent missed 2 scheduled times, while I missed 1, and I will only be on for a short while today until deadline (if you see this ~BLOOM~ message me or something if I'm still on), on top of missing 2 times my opponent really failed to give me more than a couple hours in advance to plan, where as if he had given me a specific time a day in advance I could for sure be there. (This is pretty much all on his wall if you want to look).
TL;DR: I personally believe I deserve the activity win as my opponent was extremely difficult to schedule with and missed two times, however I understand if you decide to flip it because I did technically miss a "scheduled" time.