NOC Two Mafias Mafia - Won by The Pack

pulsar512b said:
i really do want to adopt a kid in my future too tbh
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Adoption is also very cool, at this stage in my life I’m like full send fostering is cool where it’s mostly temporary but preferably on the older side and helping with the psychological stuff, but also actually raising a young to adult seems so cool
 
Celever said:
Adoption is also very cool, at this stage in my life I’m like full send fostering is cool where it’s mostly temporary but preferably on the older side and helping with the psychological stuff, but also actually raising a young to adult seems so cool
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yeah i should give fostering more of a look too
ideally id adopt like an 11 or 12 year old or something i dont want to deal with diapers
 
Psypsypsypsypsythe said:
so true and its like im far from a stable person any sort of response i have could grievously traumatize this person
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This was massively me but my Dad basically did the family thing again except with a real mother (I was his youngest, my sister is now 3) and they tell me like daily how good I am with kids meanwhile I’m like “am I traumatising them by existing?” so idk it’s a nuanced thing and real trauma tends to be intentional
 
pulsar512b said:
yeah i should give fostering more of a look too
ideally id adopt like an 11 or 12 year old or something i dont want to deal with diapers
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Ok like me being told I’m great with kids but every time my 5 month old brother needs a nappy change I hand him to my Dad’s girlfriend :row:
 
Celever said:
This was massively me but my Dad basically did the family thing again except with a real mother (I was his youngest, my sister is now 3) and they tell me like daily how good I am with kids meanwhile I’m like “am I traumatising them by existing?” so idk it’s a nuanced thing and real trauma tends to be intentional
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maybe not trauma but i definitely think parents do a lot of things thinking theyre helping that absolutely do not help and cause detrimental impact on their children later in life
 
Psypsypsypsypsythe said:
maybe not trauma but i definitely think parents do a lot of things thinking theyre helping that absolutely do not help and cause detrimental impact on their children later in life
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I think I agree with this, but I also think it’s like it’s impossible to be a parent who doesn’t give some kind of life long issue, literally the perfect parent would still do this. Adequacy is the dream because it’s the maximum anyone can attain
 
i wasnt like capital A Abused but there was definitely some things in my childhood i look back on and go Wow That Was A Little Fucked Up and my parents are definitely generally horrible people
 
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