Lifestyle The Mental Wellness Thread

[qbking3]

Today was my first day of college and just... Wow. I was NOT supposed to make it this far with the decisions I've made in my life. Until 2ish years ago I just accepted that I would become a statistic like so many others in my position but I'm somehow making it through. Still have all the same issues that have haunted me over the last decade and I'd be lying if I said I am doing well (I doubt I ever will be) but I can at least recognize that there is a small light at the end of the tunnel. I just have to keep my head on straight and make better decisions. Easier said than done lol

 

[Krockodile]

Are there any good mental health books that anyone can recommend?

I found a book called "Taking care of yourself and your family" by John Ashfield Phd, PhD. From some of the content I could read at the bookstore, I thought it looked pretty good. Unfortunately, I wasn't sure how good the book actually is, considering I couldn't find a reasonable number of positive reviews for it.

I was thinking that, considering that these books would help us get out of depression and anxiety, it would be well worth it.

 

[Krockodile]

It's better to do something rather than nothing, it sounds like you'd benefit a lot from talking to someone. As far as making excuses goes, one of the first things a psychologist should do is push you to do things you know you'll enjoy, even if you don't feel like it. Even when you come up with excuses, a lot of the time they can be dismantled with logic.

Another big factor is that if you don't do the thing (social event or whatever), what are you going to be doing instead? My experience is that if when I skip out on things due to being depresso or whatever, whatever I do instead (e.g. doomscrolling, playing the same games over and over again) is likely to a) be a waste of time and b) either doesn't make me feel better, or actually makes things worse. Things could be different for you, but that's a powerful factor to consider imo.

First, I want to say thank you for the time to respond to my message earlier.
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When I mean social event, I should've clarified that I don't have a lot of them. Most of them are like extended family ones, like weddings and birthday parties and the other kind of social events would just be parties.

I also should mention that I don't have that many friends and even then, I don't think we meet up for much. The only times we do are when we hang out in my place (which usually just resorts to buying food and me beating them at games - which I deem to be a bit unfair), going to the movies (which isn't often considering there's not many good ones out there), or going out for dinner (which is the best for both worlds, but I unfortunately can't drive there).

It doesn't help that I sometimes keep forgetting basic stuff about them, like where they work or what majors they studied in. I also don't wanna tell them my possible mental struggles because I don't want to burden them and have them helpless on what to do. Plus, it's not fair if I can't remember much stuff about them, or even if they're going ok in spite of their problems, which could be worse than mine.