Breaking up

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So me and my girlfriend recently decided it was time to move on and we broke up. we had been going out for an entire year and it was almost our anniversery. She just started to not like me anymore and i was way to close to her. I got hurt pretty bad but i still like her. we were nice about it theres no hurt feelings between us but i just cant stop balling my fucking eyes out i feel like such a chick. i was hoping the wonderful people of smogon could give me some advice
 
sucks dude, most decent guys go through it at some point and i guess the best thing i can tell you is that it will get better. time heals - just make sure you occupy yourself - it's actually a good opportunity for self-improvement. use your negative emotions to motivate yourself!

god i sound like a third-rate hasbeen celebrity trying to promote my new self-help dvd haha
 
good thread. I'm still stuck in super-destructive relationship because we broke up over the summer and it fucking sucked. so at least I can wake up in the mornings and go 'hey, we could still get married!'

sucks.
 
Breaking up (especially when you have that kind of left behind feeling) is pretty much never fun. One of my old (and easily most serious) girlfriends moved to hawaii about 6 months after we started dating, so I'd know. My advice is to maintain a good relationship as friends with the person in question, if possible. You'll discover that the best opisite gender friends are often exes.
 
i love her personality but boy does it hate me. Im kind of bipolar almost (not really but hopefully you get it) Im a really chicky kind of guy but i tend to act like a hardass especially during baseball season and Packers season. She is so ...thick i geuss and hard to read and shes always sarcastic. Last week her bird died and she wasnt at school. twice she told me as a random excuse that she wasn't gonna come over bc her bird died. So i asked if she was sarcastic and that -ticked- her off lol. I geuss she was close to her bird, something she never told me.

The latest news though is her friends say she still likes me. I hope so. she told me she still cares. idk what it means but ima hope its good. thanks guys...and akuchi-who im assuming is a girl if not i am deeply sorry lol
 
Akuchi is a girl.

Why don't you try letting go, even though it's hard, instead of pining to get back with her? You guys broke up for a reason, assuming that reason isn't totally stupid, you shouldn't get back together just because neither of you is ready to move on.
 
If she was really close to the bird I could understand but at the same time I would think she would want you there. My bird I had for nearly 8 years just died and I was pretty upset at the time ans Syberia though I was going to get really mad and take it out on him which did make me upset and I wanted to be left alone, but part of the time I did want company to make me feel better.
Do something nice for her regarding the bird. Make her something nice that she can have a memorial for the bird if they really were close. Showing her that you care and understand how she feels mike make her feel better.
 
Mormoopid said:
Akuchi is a girl.

Why don't you try letting go, even though it's hard, instead of pining to get back with her? You guys broke up for a reason, assuming that reason isn't totally stupid, you shouldn't get back together just because neither of you is ready to move on.
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I agree. She hurt you once and it can happen again. Just try staying friends, if that isn't enough then i suggest you avoid her. I wouldn't get back with her.
 
man dude she just said that shes happy we are still talking.

Im the kinda guy who will let myself get jerked around if it means ill get what i want. it sounds weak but honestly i just want this chick back so bad. im going for the gold i got the plan all ready. my fav thing to do when we would fight was to let her step back and think about it for like 2 days and i tihnk ill do that again now and hopefully she still likes me after that. thanks a ton guys

edit: yeah i understand how everyone would tell me to gtfo of this relationship but im a really overreactive and sensitive guy (lol i feel like such a (BAN ME PLEASE) atm) and i think i might have overreacted seeing as i posted this like 30 minutes after we broke up. idk we'll see im gonna make sure she likes me and im gonna make sure i dont get in to close bc it was mainly my fault i think
 
Option three:

Try talking to her about what happened. Be forward with her about how you feel but make her understand that she can't pull shit like that if you are going to stick around.

Understand that breaking up is never 'just a fight', so you shouldn't compare it to that. If it is stemming from a fight, the breakup is bogus but probably has underlying issues; these issues mostly come from people failing to communicate properly with each other. The number one killer of all relationships is lack of communication- infact, most problems can be attributed to this.

So, in short, try communication. At the very least, you will become closer friends in the future from this and you won't have regrets about not saying what you should have.
 
I feel for you. Whoever said that any decent guy goes through this is right. I tend to only think about future possibilities in a relationship because I think it sabotages the relationship to put restrictions of "well, this will never happen" when with someone. I'm not saying I've expected to marry every girl i've been with... but it's hard for those things not to cross my mind. It makes the breakups hurt more though and you feel like even more of a jerk when YOU'RE the one to lose feelings.

Breakups hurt, but they usually happen for a reason. I think people get back together with ex's so much because when you're broken up and separated you miss them and you only remember the good times that you might have passed over before. But when you get back together it usually ends with both of you going through the same thing that happened the first time only a lot quicker. If you're really wanting to get back with her, give it a lot of time and evaluate your own feelings.

From my own experiences, two failed relationships with the same person make it that much harder to just be friends. I went through a really bad breakup with a girl who at that time was the closest i had ever been to any person at a really bad time in my life. I broke up with her but regretted it within a week and went back to her. I'll spare all the details about the situation I was in, but i'm pretty sure that if I had just stuck with my first decision I would have been a lot happier and there wouldn't be such bitterness. Chances are if you give it some time you'll find someone you care about even more. I'm not going to say completely rule out getting back with her, but she did break up with you for a reason.
 
well WE broke up. as in it was a mutual thing that we needed space. I said it too. She wanted space. I was prolly getting really annoying bc i would pour myself into her and get back nothing, except "im to tired ot talk etc." Idk she went to bed, ill give ti some time and we'll see. I tend ot get way to happy or way to sad and right now im prolly way to happy lol.
 
Step 1: Get, "I Don't Want to Get Over You," by The Magnetic Fields
Step 2: Listen to, "I Don't Want to Get Over You," by The Magnetic Fields
Step 3: Repeat step 2
Step 4: After a while it'll be ok. :)
 
Crying doesnt make any less manly, my gf of 2 years and I broke up and I cried a bit the first few weeks, 3 or 4 months later we got back together and its been all gravy since then. Now I dont want to instill a false sense of hope in you of getting back together with that girl specificly but just try and focus on the whole "it'll work itself out for the best one way or the other' eventually.
 
We got back together on the 28th of novemeber and its going pretty good. im surprised this was top page. thanks a ton guys.
 
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