seriously? the distinction between romantic and sexual attraction harms no one. it's just a fact of human sexuality. when someone chooses a label for themselves, it does not impact you in any way. it doesn't hurt you, either, when that label becomes something more than one person uses that label. just because labels are descriptive rather than prescriptive and people wanna try different ones doesn't mean people are obsessed with them, and pointing out that these nuances exist doesn't sexualize queer people. that's bullshit. straight people have a sexual orientation too and their own individual nuances. they're allowed to have labels too lol. the point of queer liberation is to let people live and love on their own terms, and when you imply that people are hurting you for deciding what terms they live on, it's honestly no different from like telling bi ppl to "just pick one" cause it makes gay ppl look bad. just cause some kid on tumblr is exploring their sexuality and using words you don't like doesn't mean they'd find their True Orientation TM if they just logged off and thought a little harder about it. that's so condescending dude. i wouldn't have found out i was bi and nonbinary if i didn't meet people on the internet who told me i could even feel that way. i would probably still be unsure of myself if i didn't get the chance to think about who i could be, or hear people describe their experience in a way that resonated with me. being gay was unthinkable 100 years ago, too. but oh, one conservative made a joke about neopronouns so i guess i gotta throw my whole identity out and start from scratch!!Again, there is a distinction between people's personal use of labels etc. to understand their personal identity and generalising that as a model of attraction or as something with any worth beyond that specific individual. You are saying that the former is often good and fine. I have said repeatedly that I agree with this. I am saying the latter is bad, and this post misunderstands my argument entirely.
Also, I still don't get why the people who have responded are so obsessed with the last line of my post rather than the substance of my argument.
If they had actually read my argument about why the distinction between romantic and sexual attraction is particularly harmful for gay people then maybe they would reconsider this.