Warning, may be tl;dr
Alright, first a little background about me.
I am Aussie, and am in Year 11 at school (junior high I think it is in the US, whatever the second last year of school before college/uni is). I am a decent student, have gotten mostly A's in the past but have slid as of late to get more B's and the odd C (i still get my share of A's though), which didn't happen before.
Anyway I constantly clash with my parents over many things. My father is a perfectionist to the point where seeing the rumpus room slightly messy makes him have a fit. He often repeats things many times as if to emphasize a point, although it has clearly been understood the first 10 times. My mother is also a perfectionist, although that is more in a different area. She isn't as quick to anger generally as my father is, although she is louder about it. My parents are overprotective and have only just loosened up slightly in that regard. Where my parents are strictest though is in the area of schoolwork and organisation in general.
Lately they have been a constant nag to the point where they are a drone. They say I have no self-motivation and I hate to admit they are right. I don't have a clue what I want to be once I finish school, so I don't know what marks I want or need. I don't have a goal as such, and don't enjoy schoolwork. I do it because I have to in most cases rather then because it will help towards my future. I think I am very narrow minded in this regard, but I honestly can't see myself or what I want to be doing anytime after 2009. I am also generally disorganised. I lose things often, don't keep my school folders as tidy as I should and get to places late. I forget about assessment sometimes which forces me to play catchup when I should be starting the next piece. I don't panic easily, which seems to infuriate my parents as the rest of my family of 5, them included (barring my younger sister) are born panickers in terms of getting work done.
Despite what I have written, I do my work a few hours each night regardless of my extra-curricular activities such as my state basketball and my job. This is all I really seem to do however, which makes each day all the more tedious. The most annoying thing is that if I have an outstanding piece of work, they won't let me take a few hours off to relax (such as today when I wanted to watch the State Representative Rugby League Match; State of Origin). If I do take time off, they allow me at the cost of lots of shouting and a huge guilt trip. I am in good stead to finish these pieces most of the time (albeit with not a lot of time afterwards) which is one thing that really annoys me. According to my parents, if I finish my assessment earlier, I will have more leisure time during the week.
Anyway this ties into my original ideas of being self-motivated and being organised. I want to be organised enough so that I can have more leisure time to enjoy and self motivated enough so that it isn't tedious for me. That and the fact that I am worried about my future. However, no matter how hard I try, I cannot motivate myself enough on the premise alone that good results = success because I don't have any goals in terms of my future career.
The point of this thread really is to ask for the advice and the opinions of those more experienced or those going through the same thing as me. I want to know how you achieve(d) a balance of work and play through this time through organisational skills and tips in that regard. Most of all, I want to know what drove you and motivated you to aspire to succeed at school, and for tips on how I can do the very same (whether it is by finding something I love or with my current situation in terms of having no clue as to what you want to be.)
Anyway I don't expect most of you to have read this, but if you did thankyou for taking the time. I eagerly await your responses.
MS
Alright, first a little background about me.
I am Aussie, and am in Year 11 at school (junior high I think it is in the US, whatever the second last year of school before college/uni is). I am a decent student, have gotten mostly A's in the past but have slid as of late to get more B's and the odd C (i still get my share of A's though), which didn't happen before.
Anyway I constantly clash with my parents over many things. My father is a perfectionist to the point where seeing the rumpus room slightly messy makes him have a fit. He often repeats things many times as if to emphasize a point, although it has clearly been understood the first 10 times. My mother is also a perfectionist, although that is more in a different area. She isn't as quick to anger generally as my father is, although she is louder about it. My parents are overprotective and have only just loosened up slightly in that regard. Where my parents are strictest though is in the area of schoolwork and organisation in general.
Lately they have been a constant nag to the point where they are a drone. They say I have no self-motivation and I hate to admit they are right. I don't have a clue what I want to be once I finish school, so I don't know what marks I want or need. I don't have a goal as such, and don't enjoy schoolwork. I do it because I have to in most cases rather then because it will help towards my future. I think I am very narrow minded in this regard, but I honestly can't see myself or what I want to be doing anytime after 2009. I am also generally disorganised. I lose things often, don't keep my school folders as tidy as I should and get to places late. I forget about assessment sometimes which forces me to play catchup when I should be starting the next piece. I don't panic easily, which seems to infuriate my parents as the rest of my family of 5, them included (barring my younger sister) are born panickers in terms of getting work done.
Despite what I have written, I do my work a few hours each night regardless of my extra-curricular activities such as my state basketball and my job. This is all I really seem to do however, which makes each day all the more tedious. The most annoying thing is that if I have an outstanding piece of work, they won't let me take a few hours off to relax (such as today when I wanted to watch the State Representative Rugby League Match; State of Origin). If I do take time off, they allow me at the cost of lots of shouting and a huge guilt trip. I am in good stead to finish these pieces most of the time (albeit with not a lot of time afterwards) which is one thing that really annoys me. According to my parents, if I finish my assessment earlier, I will have more leisure time during the week.
Anyway this ties into my original ideas of being self-motivated and being organised. I want to be organised enough so that I can have more leisure time to enjoy and self motivated enough so that it isn't tedious for me. That and the fact that I am worried about my future. However, no matter how hard I try, I cannot motivate myself enough on the premise alone that good results = success because I don't have any goals in terms of my future career.
The point of this thread really is to ask for the advice and the opinions of those more experienced or those going through the same thing as me. I want to know how you achieve(d) a balance of work and play through this time through organisational skills and tips in that regard. Most of all, I want to know what drove you and motivated you to aspire to succeed at school, and for tips on how I can do the very same (whether it is by finding something I love or with my current situation in terms of having no clue as to what you want to be.)
Anyway I don't expect most of you to have read this, but if you did thankyou for taking the time. I eagerly await your responses.
MS