KM
slayification
Heya, welcome to the thread :) It looks like you're very lucky to live in a relatively accepting community, but that doesn't mean coming out is easy or not a big deal - I know that from experience. Don't feel any pressure to come out, but also I think it's worth recognizing that there is a significant difference between "not pretending to be straight" and "being openly non-straight" - for a long while I convinced myself that as long as I stayed true to myself there was no reason to come out, as I wasn't planning on dating. However, your sexuality is more than just your sexuality - there are a lot of implications, and it helps a lot to be open about it if you truly want to be comfortable with it.Welp, this thread could use reviving, no?
It feels more than a bit odd to be posting this here - I guess I feel safer posting this somewhere that people I don't really know and won't have a negative impact on me can, maybe, guide me through this process a bit.
I'm bisexual. It's something I've been increasingly confused about over the last few months, and have finally accepted now. At first, I tried to convince myself otherwise, that it was just some odd hormone thing that came along with puberty, but I can't lie to myself anymore. After that, I tried to convince myself to keep it secret for as long as I possibly could - everything's going rather swimmingly in my 14 year old life right now, and this is one hell of a monkeywrench. With this post, it's just as much of a way for me to come to terms with myself as a way to seek guidance.
This community is the first place I've openly stated this, and while I think some people IRL may have their suspicions, I know most of them don't, and what I'm really worried about is acceptance in that innermost circle of family and closest friends. My mom and dad, while would be more than likely surprised, I like to think wouldn't care much - it doesn't seem like them to treat any person differently based on those kinds of factors. My 7 year old sister, now... either she accepts it or doesn't, and from a young age I'm not sure that opinion can be altered once it's been implemented.
I'm agnostic, so fuck Christians who'll try to shove shit down my throat 0_0 (Especially ironic because I was baptized at birth and went to a Roman Catholic school up until grade 6, but w/e)
I'm not worried about people bullying - Not only could I easily handle myself if they did, but my school is one that is very accepting.
My main question, I guess, is this - How should I come out? Subtly or a bit more outright and to-the-point? My school as an LGBTQ group that I'll begin to attend - is there anything else I should do?
Thanks for your help in advance :]
Krauersaut
The platitude of "coming out will occur naturally" is sometimes true (and was in my case), but that also doesn't mean you can't go right out and do it. It really is your choice - if you feel more comfortable doing it one by one, all at once, by text, by letter, by talking in person, whatever - it's your choice. Do what you feel comfortable with, when you feel comfortable with it.
I do encourage you to do some more research on bisexuality so you can understand some people's misguided concerns / misinterpretations of what your sexuality is and is not. Bisexuals are often misunderstood by both the straight and gay communities, so it's really important to set the record straight - someone might be accepting, but not really understand what it means to be bisexual. Recognize that you are going to have to deal with comments like "it's fine if you're gay, no reason to use bisexuality as a stepping stone!!!!!!!!" or "why are you being greedy? just choose one and stick with it" or just flat out "bisexuals don't exist", and also recognize that these comments often come from a place of ignorance rather than hatred. You seem to have a pretty good handle on yourself and what you're capable of, and I trust that everything will turn out well.
Best of luck, and keep us updated!