I love you Smogon, for being the only place I can just vent and not feel completely stupid or make a further ass out of myself. But I'm really trying to figure out if I am really depressed, or if my psychologist is just telling me this to get me to take drugs. I hear they diagnose people pre-maturely alot.
But anyway, I have been feeling like complete shit for most of college now... and even showed signs in high school I think. Naturally we have our ups and downs, but nothing that lasts this long. Let me be more specific...
I don't feel sad all the time... in fact I feel happy at times, albeit it only for a few hours at a time. However, for about the past year I have felt a general looming emptiness... like my life has no direction and I'm trapped in this void. I was once a confident person, yet now I have serious self-esteem issues stemming back to this overwhelming feeling of shame. I've been talking to this girl for a few months, and despite how much she tells me she likes me and shit, I retract even though deep down I love her. She tries to hold my hand when were out... and again, something keeps me from letting her do it. I'm in the best physical shape of my life... I run 3 times a week for at least 3 miles, and play basketball and lift weights on 2 more days out of the week. After I do it, I feel a brief sense of happiness, but it wears off very quickly so I think its really just endorphins and not me.
But to the more important things... school and family. My parents just got divorced four months ago after living with me (I am the only) happily for 19 years. My GPA has dropped from a 3.25 last year in engineering to a 2.8. Yes, it is supposed to get harder, but I went from getting all As and Bs for a whole year to straight Cs and Ds in one sudden semester. The work load has gotten a little harder, but not to the point where I just can't manage it anymore which is what happened. I have no out on weekends, I just study more... which burns me out and makes the semester seem like a 15 week long single week, rather than 15 straight weeks. So when I'm burnt out I have trouble concentrating both inside and outside the classroom to the point where sometimes I miss a class. We all miss classes, but after I miss one, the shame and embarrassment of missing that first class makes me miss subsequent classes to the point where I may end up going for a week, then skipping for two. I mean people shouldn't care right? But I can't help but think that everyone doesn't look at me when I am one of 3 black people in a lecture hall of 60. Its gotten to the point where I am so far behind in my work, that my psychologist has recommended that I completely withdraw from the semester on a medical leave (which would not affect my financial aide status or GPA). However, in my curriculum doing so would mean I would probably have to stay an extra year, or at least an extra semester because of how semester-sensitive engineering course offerings are. Then I have to live with the embarrassment of not graduating with all of my classmates and getting over the fact that I feel like I've failed.
Then, its 70 degrees out and not a cloud in the sky and everyone is out on the green on campus sitting outside sunbathing and playing football and frisbe. So I've been taking long walks the past few days to try to soak in the nice weather hoping it would affect my mood and it doesn't. For some reason watching everyone having fun and seeing couples together just makes me feel worse about myself.
I guess the main point is that... there are so many things in my life that make me feel like shit that it makes me feel like a walking pity pot.. which because of my personality and the way I was raised just makes me want to hate myself even more because I hate people who mope and bitch all the time about how bad life is. My psychologist says that this is a reoccuring depressive cycle in which males get upset for feeling like shit.. which makes them feel like shit, which makes them upset again. And to top it all off, things that I used to be able to do for fun like Pokemon, soccer, and other things, just don't give me the same pleasure and fun that they used to. Almost to the point where I feel like nothing can bring me out of this funk..
But anyway, I have been feeling like complete shit for most of college now... and even showed signs in high school I think. Naturally we have our ups and downs, but nothing that lasts this long. Let me be more specific...
I don't feel sad all the time... in fact I feel happy at times, albeit it only for a few hours at a time. However, for about the past year I have felt a general looming emptiness... like my life has no direction and I'm trapped in this void. I was once a confident person, yet now I have serious self-esteem issues stemming back to this overwhelming feeling of shame. I've been talking to this girl for a few months, and despite how much she tells me she likes me and shit, I retract even though deep down I love her. She tries to hold my hand when were out... and again, something keeps me from letting her do it. I'm in the best physical shape of my life... I run 3 times a week for at least 3 miles, and play basketball and lift weights on 2 more days out of the week. After I do it, I feel a brief sense of happiness, but it wears off very quickly so I think its really just endorphins and not me.
But to the more important things... school and family. My parents just got divorced four months ago after living with me (I am the only) happily for 19 years. My GPA has dropped from a 3.25 last year in engineering to a 2.8. Yes, it is supposed to get harder, but I went from getting all As and Bs for a whole year to straight Cs and Ds in one sudden semester. The work load has gotten a little harder, but not to the point where I just can't manage it anymore which is what happened. I have no out on weekends, I just study more... which burns me out and makes the semester seem like a 15 week long single week, rather than 15 straight weeks. So when I'm burnt out I have trouble concentrating both inside and outside the classroom to the point where sometimes I miss a class. We all miss classes, but after I miss one, the shame and embarrassment of missing that first class makes me miss subsequent classes to the point where I may end up going for a week, then skipping for two. I mean people shouldn't care right? But I can't help but think that everyone doesn't look at me when I am one of 3 black people in a lecture hall of 60. Its gotten to the point where I am so far behind in my work, that my psychologist has recommended that I completely withdraw from the semester on a medical leave (which would not affect my financial aide status or GPA). However, in my curriculum doing so would mean I would probably have to stay an extra year, or at least an extra semester because of how semester-sensitive engineering course offerings are. Then I have to live with the embarrassment of not graduating with all of my classmates and getting over the fact that I feel like I've failed.
Then, its 70 degrees out and not a cloud in the sky and everyone is out on the green on campus sitting outside sunbathing and playing football and frisbe. So I've been taking long walks the past few days to try to soak in the nice weather hoping it would affect my mood and it doesn't. For some reason watching everyone having fun and seeing couples together just makes me feel worse about myself.
I guess the main point is that... there are so many things in my life that make me feel like shit that it makes me feel like a walking pity pot.. which because of my personality and the way I was raised just makes me want to hate myself even more because I hate people who mope and bitch all the time about how bad life is. My psychologist says that this is a reoccuring depressive cycle in which males get upset for feeling like shit.. which makes them feel like shit, which makes them upset again. And to top it all off, things that I used to be able to do for fun like Pokemon, soccer, and other things, just don't give me the same pleasure and fun that they used to. Almost to the point where I feel like nothing can bring me out of this funk..