Yes, its wrong to use gay and retarded as derogative terms in any sense imo.
I get what people say in that its been vernacularised but that means shit when using the terms, as at their core they reinforce negative stereotypes that make everything harder for anyone who is gay or retarded.
If i ever catch myself saying something is gay or retarded, i feel like shit because it happens that thats how it feels to hear it out of other peoples mouths. especially if you're closeted.
It angers me to no end that people say something homophobic, but add in 'oh im not homophobic'/'i have nothing against gays'. Or any validating clause, like that post by sikh assassin ,
I say gay since most gays are well (BAN ME PLEASE)s and act like ones too, they can be used to be an insult as the majority of them are insulting most religions. Of course, I'm not making fun of jrrrrrrrr or other gay users here since well you guys don't act like (BAN ME PLEASE)s and just keep fucking announcing it and showing it to people and using this as an excuse or interference. It is OK to be gay, but why the hell would you publicly keep showing it?
saying that does not, in any way, validate that ignorant opinion.
the last sentence/question.... its painful to KNOW that that kind of ignorance is peddled with such conviction despite the obvious double standard that it implies of being gay/straight. it reinforces that even though gay and retarded become devoid of actual meaning in some uses, merely using them means that the archaic, outdated and ignorant definition is drawn upon to indicate something is negative
since most people who are saying its ok to use it because its become part of the norm seem to also be saying that they dont use them around certain individuals, highlight that they know the implications are felt despite what the user means
like some have said understanding that words take on different meanings over time is a big part of this, but when those same words still are so strongly attached to the negative base - it means using them is only a few steps away from their 'original' meaning. language is too strong to ......'quit giving [words] so much power'... so we should identify where words are fucking some over others, and fix it - or at least stop adding to the problem
being gay or retarded is not a choice, using those terms to continually describe something or someone leads to things such as the Oklahoma senator Coburns comments, or Prop 8, or Submission 23a right here in Australia [which is one of the most fucked up modern documents ever - in o so many ways]. seems harmless but it works at fucking up 'equality'