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What's your biggest problem with your gf?

Lee said:
I'm the only one who can see her.
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Crud. That's almost word for word what I thought when I saw the topic title.

Anyway, I guess my problem is that I'm not interested in any of the girls I meet. It seems like they're all vapid, thoughtless, and/or self-obsessed. Maybe all the anime I've watched over the years has caused me to have ridiculously high standards for girls, but, well, I take relationships seriously, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who's just decent, you know?
 
In b4 some (BAN ME PLEASE) that says "Stick it in her pooper" for a lack of anything funny to say!

My only problem with my girlfriend is I think she's a bit too boring for me =/
But I love her too much to break up with her.
I'll probably be stuck with her the rest of my life ;_;
 
In b4 ten million people tell you to suck it up and break up with her. I know its hard, my 1st time breaking up with a lady i put it off for like 2 months, during which i was totally makin eggs with another lady.
but i mean if you will admit to an internet forum that you find your lady uninstresting, it's probably time to call it qwitz
 
Lutalo said:
Okay you Smogon chick expert/relationship gurus, help a brother out here:

Last spring I met this girl randomly and dated her for a little over a month. Thing seemed to be getting serious but she left and went home for the summer once the school year ended. We had an unspoken agreement that once she left, that was it, but speaking a bit over the summer I realized that I missed her more than I thought I would, and she did me. But now that she's come back, we've hung out three times and all I've gotten is a peck on the cheek.

What do I do?!?!
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I've seen this happen to other people a thousand times... couple breaks up, the guy wants the girl back (or vice versa), but is worried the feeling isn't mutual, and so does nothing... months later it turns out it was but its too late etc...

Unless you want to be #1001, I suggest you talk to her; you can be "subtle" and bring up the past, then eventually ask her how she thinks things would have been if she never moved away. Or you can just come out and ask if she still has any interest in you. If your not very good with the subtle thing, or if you guys have a relationship were you are honest with each other and say things like this often, then the second choice is for you, but otherwise I would go with the subtle thing. I had more to say but something distracted me, hours passed by, and now I totally lost my train of thought. so... *posts*
 
I didn't want to get into it this much with a pkmn forum but what the hell..

My only reason I have so much problem with it is, I see her everyday. And we've been together almost a year now. Not only all this, but she's constantly sad over something. Theres almost never a good time to. Not that breaking up is ever a good time but you know what I mean.
I actually, about 3 months ago did try breaking up but she came over crying and then I just couldn't do it.
Now she does anything I tell her, which I hate. I feel like one of those guys that beat their girlfriends and they are just quiet and do everything they say and agree with everything, because that's how she is.
I mean I'm not too mean to her, but I'm not as nice as I should be.

I think the issue with her is, I miss having fun. I'm still 16 and I just feel like I'm missing out on a lot. But I'm honestly just too pussy to do it.
 
I don't have a girlfriend but there are two girls who I have been thinking about recently.

One is my ex-girlfriend who I had to end it with due to university a year ago. She came back this summer with a boyfriend so it was pretty awkward and I rarely spoke to her. Yesterday my friend told me that they've split up, but now she's back at uni I still won't have the chance to talk to her properly. Should I keep my hopes up for Christmas when I'll see her again, or move on properly?

The other girl I am less involved with. I'd seen her around school and always thought she was hot, then a few weeks ago she told me she liked me and we shook some booty on the dancefloor. I've asked her out on two 'dates' since and although I thought they went pretty well, she seems to just not be interested at all. She's off to uni in a week (the same time as I go back). Was it something I did or was she just being fickle?
 
My boyfriend doesn't seem to be willing to put any effort into any part of our relationship. This includes basic things like, you know, talking to me. I know he's a depressive but really he could at least send me the occasional email.

Bleh.

My girl trouble is that well, I don't have one. Yet.
 
akuchi said:
My boyfriend doesn't seem to be willing to put any effort into any part of our relationship. This includes basic things like, you know, talking to me. I know he's a depressive but really he could at least send me the occasional email.
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Maybe he's afraid that if he makes a move, he won't be able to stop himself and he'll become too clingy or pry into your life too much. It's not a common problem, but it does happen. It's usually because they had really domineering fathers who constantly nosed into whatever they were doing when they were growing up, and they're afraid of doing the same with their girlfriends. If this is indeed the problem, you have to communicate to him that you want to spend time with him of your own will.

So... yeah. Sorry I couldn't explain it well, and that might not even be the problem anyways, but I thought it might have been worth it to at least throw that out there.
 
I can't stand girls... I'm 14, I don't know if this is typical for my age, but I just can't stand them. I can't stand them saying all this immature crap about Inyashua or whatever in real life, and I CANT STAND THEM TYPING LIKE THISSSSS OMG!!!! on Facebook or MSN. It pisses me off. I mean, there's the sexual appeal, for sure, but I haven't met a single girl who isn't either retarded or mentally stable by my standards so far.

I hope I do not end up single and lonely as a middle-aged man. =(
 
akuchi said:
I know he's a depressive but really he could at least send me the occasional email.
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dump him. not your problem plus you are not having a good time

cutefish said:
ladies
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1st lady prolly woulda come in contact with you soon after the boyfriend breakup. best bet is to play it by ear when you see here
2nd lady sounds frustrating because she prolly just is worried about getting attached before leaving. ladies do this.

I haven't met a single girl who isn't either retarded or mentally stable by my standards so far.
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all 14 year old girls are retarded, except the ones who ont talk to 14 year old boys. give it 2-3 years.
 
^I dont mean to be a jerk here but It's a bit naive to think that having a lady makes you instantly happy and makes all your other problems nonexistant/trivial.

the way I read it the dude has problems and doesn't communicate well. While this is too bad, it's not really your problem. and if you aren't getting a whole lot out of the realationship, you need to converse pronto or dump, or both probably.

In short dump him because his personal problems are taxing the realtionship, not because he has problems.
 
my probelm with girls is that i like to flirt with all of them, its my personalitly. like i dont want to date one because then iam tied down to that one girl. cant flirt with other girls anymore....but still do...i guess my problem is i just like being single
 
Heh, well I don't have a gf, and I never had, and I probably don't plan to until I at least have a job, but I guess there are a few stupid things that have lead to that, although I'm not sure if they're necessarily bad...

First off, well this one is bad I guess, but I'm just bad at asking anyone to actually hang out with me, because I'm someone who has a really big fear of getting in the way, and as such, it's very demotivational, and then I can't ask. I don't know what to do about having a fear of getting in the way, that's something that's been with me my whole life. Yeah, so any help on that would be nice, and any help on how to ask someone to hang out with you without the insane pressure.

Second off, I don't necessarily think this one is bad, but I seem to have this big opinion that I need to be really good friends with a girl and hang out with her a few times as friends before I try anything. Yeah, that doesn't seem like a bad thing, but isn't it true that if you become too good of friends with a girl and then you go for it and she doesn't like you in that way, then it'll be really awkward? I guess "high-risk, high-reward" applies to stuff like this.

Heh, and third, the right words never come out of my mouth unless I really overthink which causes a lot of pressure. Like, I don't mean to sound like an asshole most of the time, but sometimes I don't really know what's gonna piss someone off or not. I also cannot read minds, so I don't know if someone's gonna be pissy about the slightest thing because they've been having a bad day...gee sorry I can't read signs...I thought I could, but heh, I stopped trying to.
 
Well, we have good communication and we really love each other, not to mention our interests are the same, but there is still this feeling i have of, let say, insecurity, i don't know, like i don't trust some things, also i tend to misunderstand many of the things she does, like take them as aggressions against me, when they are not.

What i mean is if i should go further or stop there, because we are going very bloody serious atm but i have my doubts, i have to repeat myself: i never meet anyone that liked almost everything what i like, and that could talk just about everything with me,this includes both our pasts and presents, things which nobody else knows or other very personal, you can say "intimate" stuff, we spent like 5 or more hours just talking sometimes (i think it's something good, since some couples doesn't talk at all).But in the other hand it is maybe because we see each other like once or twice for a week, since well, there are other activities and i'm a bit more affected by it, because i honestly would love to see her on a daily basis.
 
I've got absolutely no problems with my girlfriend of 3++ years right now. Though certainly on a few occasions we've had our problems, but we deal with them really well and the relationship is well near perfect. On that note, I have some words of insight when it comes to women (or girls for those of you who are too young for women =P).

If you don't have a girlfriend..
1) Don't worry about it. Make friends, meet people, enjoy life, play pogeymanz, w/e. The right girl will come (hopefully before you're 40 =D) and you'll enjoy your life at the same time.

If you do have a girlfriend...
2) Don't worry about it. Seriously, don't stress so much over little crap. Yes, there will always be some differences.. but if you find yourself constantly worrying about little insecurities and doubts or what-not then its probably not meant to be for the long run, so just enjoy it -- make-out, hold hands.. blah blah, hang-out. If its not meant to be then good news: you can date more girls, meet more people and have a better chance of finding someone right. (see 1. above)


3) Don't worry about it.

As a wise man once said: I got 99 problems.. but... a bizzlenitch ain't one.
 
well i got a nozzle but you know there aren't any cars with big tanks around, i'm in a deserted area
 
Wow. I have almost the exact same problems as Bologo.

I guess the only advice I can give pertains to the second paragraph. I wouldn't worry about becoming friends with girls before trying to start a romantic relationship; it's a benign difference compared to just immediately hitting on girls like some do. Also, if you're truly good friends and she turns you down, your relationship should be able to overcome any temporary awkwardness. It might even make it stronger.
 
Heh, oh, now that chaos posted in here, I just remembered something. The thread labeled wooing had incredible advice on what to do on a date and such all given by chaos. His advice would be an awesome read in that thread. Anyone who's having problems with the actual date and such should read it.
 
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