1. In your thread, it says it's female.
Female pokemon are, generally, rarer than males (like 8:1 for starters, for example).
There are abilities and moves that make the opposite gender fall in love, and have a chance of not attacking.
2. Thanks for the trade! Sorry for the difficulty!
1. If you don't have a female one, you'll want to change your thread. Female > Male is better because of "love" effects...
2. Instead of this, can I get your Misdreavus (Timid) [Isa]? I'll be back online in a moment!
I'm online now - but I don't see you - can you send me your FC just in case I have the wrong one in?
Later, you should edit your signature (go to pms, on the side) to have your FC and a link to your trade thread...