I know it’s not an anime, but I feel practically obligated to mention Aang in this kind of discussion since I really started to see a bit of myself in him when I finally got around to watching The Last Airbender back in college with my roommates. The writers did an excellent job illustrating the contrast between his innocent, often playful side and more complex emotional side, reminding me of what had felt like a disaster of a sophomore year I had prior to my introduction to the show and ultimately helping me reconsider my stance on the subject. Throughout the series but especially in the later arcs, Aang starts placing unreasonable amounts of burden on himself beyond what his spirit and body can both really tolerate, and what strikes me as especially relatable is just how often he stubbornly tries to deal with his inner conflicts entirely on his own because he’s so afraid of causing problems for the people he’s closest to.
Even Aang’s titular role as, you know, the last of the Airbenders, resonates with me somewhat not just as a neurodivergent person, but a neurodivergent person who specifically loves and wants to make my entire career out of working with other neurodivergent individuals. The common factor here between me and Aang is that lack of a sense of belonging he feels for a good portion. Yes, Aang has Team Avatar, and I have my friends I grew up with, but both me and his character have regularly asked ourselves questions about our role in the world and what it is we’re really meant to do. This comparison only gets even stronger when you consider Aang’s noticeable fear of firebending that shows up from time to time- to me, that reminds me of my own fears of uncertainty and discomfort, whether that be sensory overload or anything generally too far outside of my comfort zone.
Seeing Aang really come into his own as a character and as the leader of Team Avatar in the final season following the conclusion of Book 2 gave me something I almost never get to see from a work of fiction. For the first time… maybe ever watching a show, I felt understood. I felt reassured that whatever I was meant to do in life, I would be able to rely on the situation I’m in, the people around me, and make the most of my values and beliefs, and I think that ultimately sums up why Aang ended up as one of my favorite characters in any show I’ve ever seen. Book 3 actually ended up being the first season of any show I’ve seen I feel comfortable giving the elusive 10/10 rating to, because it honestly deserves it.