Jealousy

DiamondDust

Have you every had problems with jealousy? Or someone having a problem with you due to jealousy?
I have been jealous of some people, but not in a bad way.
I didn't grow up in suburbia so i always become jealous when i see suburban kids, living the good life. =/
I have had alot of people jealous of me, for many reasons.
 
Eh I've used to be pretty bad, then just realised that there has always been and will always be people with an attribute or wealth greater than me, whether it be intelligence, looks, wit, penis-size or just all the cool stuff they can buy.

Be thankful for what you do have (see m0nkfish's last line) is pretty much how I run now.

Also saying loads of people are jealous of you comes across as fairly arrogant imo, not a particularly redeeming feature.
 
Jealousy is just another fact of life; if you don't get jealous sometimes then you're not human. Of course, it's important to think of where you stand in the world and be grateful for what you have. I'm a young white middle class male in a good university and I'd be stupid to be jealous of people in day-to-day life!
 
m0nkfish said:
Jealousy is just another fact of life; if you don't get jealous sometimes then you're not human. Of course, it's important to think of where you stand in the world and be grateful for what you have. I'm a young white middle class male in a good university and I'd be stupid to be jealous of people in day-to-day life!
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but if you think about it, some people may not be jealous.
bill gates for example. who would bill gates be jealous of? i dont think he cares if he isnt as good looking as some celebs, after all, he gets women anyways X.x
 
dark-war-cloud said:
but if you think about it, some people may not be jealous.
bill gates for example. who would bill gates be jealous of? i dont think he cares if he isnt as good looking as some celebs, after all, he gets women anyways X.x
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Maybe he's jealous of the people who don't have to stress about work 24/7. Maybe he's jealous of normal, not-so-rich people. You never know.

Jealousy can develop into a huge problem if you let it control your life. Usually it's just material jealousy though, but if you a person doesn't realize that they should be satisfied with the life given to them, then jealousy takes control.
 
Maybe he's jealous of young people who have their whole lives ahead of them
 
I wouldn't say that I get jealous, honestly. It sounds like bullshit, but like... yeah, I mean I guess I just understand I can't be/have the best at/of everything. I respect people who are very talented, but I'm never jealous. Sometimes I want to surpass their ability, but jealousy almost implies a passive sort of "I wish I could be as good as him", whereas with me it's more like "I need to be better than him, so now I practice several hours a day." It's either that or "Yo, that's cool." If I have a desire to be better than someone at something, I'll work at becoming better. Sometimes I won't become better, but then I just keep practicing, I never really get jealous.

I've also never really been jealous of attractive people or people with attractive girlfriends or whatever. I'm fairly attractive, certainly not the hottest guy in the world, but it's a lot less important when it comes to getting girls than people make it sound. I also get my fair share of attractive women.

This sounds like a really egotistical post, but I think it's not all people that get jealous, just certain personality types. I guess I might be kinda jealous if like my friend won the lottery or something... no, not even. That would be hella awesome, what am I saying? Yeah, pretty much no jealousy here.
 
Jealousy is probably one of the worse traits to have, with laziness being at the top, IMO. It makes you dislike people you used to love, and can lead to criminal activity.

However, I like to view it as a way to push yourself harder so you can achieve the thing you want. For example, if your friend has Halo 3 and you want it really want it like them, you'd work harder for the $50 (I think?) that it'd cost to pay for it. You'll feel accomplished and your jealousy will be gone. Or if your jealous of, say, Seph or Jibaku's mad skills at D/P pokemon, you'll work hard to get awesome tactics like them.:happybrain:

On a personal note, the one thing I'm typically jealous about is girls. Other than that, there's really nothing else, and even at girls I'm learning to deal with it.
 
I only get jealous when people are better than me at something or in some aspect and there is no way I can change it. That's fairly rare imo as you can change most things in your life with hard work.
 
husk said:
I only get jealous when people are better than me at something or in some aspect and there is no way I can change it. That's fairly rare imo as you can change most things in your life with hard work.
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Looks? Intelligence? Height? etc etc
 
Jealousy is something natural about people, like apathy and greed. You've been jealous once in your life, and to be so is not a bad thing. Although, like greed and apathy, it's something that can be controlled.

I used to be jealous of people, but I just decided to fuck it and be happy with what I have, and approach life with a sense of humor. Besides most people suck anyways.
 
I get jealous very easily, because I'm quite competitive and insecure by nature. The good thing though is that it sometimes motivates me to better myself, but if it's something I can't change then I just try to ignore it and remember what I already have and what I'm good at.
 
Sir Spanky said:
Looks? Intelligence? Height? etc etc
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Right. Those and other similar things. There are less of those than say: ability in x video game. Plus, personally, I'm pretty secure about the three mentioned . Further, hard work can overcome innate intelligence in many cases and if you put more effort into your appearance you can improve how you look substantially. Or at least, I believe so.
 
I rarely get jealous. I'm just not one of those people. There's a place for everyone, I guess.
 
I took a class two semesters ago where the professor defined jealousy as "the negative feelings that arise when one has an inability to understand the relationship that exists between one person and another person." (And then I think he defined envy as the same, except it's the relationship between a person and something non-human, like a certain skill or material possession.)

I think as long as I (or anyone else for the matter) keeps that definition in mind, it's easier to not be jealous or envious. Why? Because we will never know the whole story behind how that person got to be so good at playing violin or why that person happens to be going out without the most beautiful person we've ever seen.

I suppose it also helps to keep in mind that the only situation you can change is that of yourself. Since you can't change the situation that the object of envy is in (or at least, you probably can't without doing something horribly devious), the only thing you can do is improve yourself.

As for myself... currently I find that I have little to be jealous or envious of. Sometimes I get a little bitter over how most of my friends here at college have so much more free time than I do, but that feeling comes and goes. Especially when I realize my entry-level paycheck as an engineering major will probably be close to (if not, more than) two times of theirs as a communication major.
 
well alot of the above posts said its inspiration to better ourselfs as a whole. i think thats true. but, there are two kinds of jealousy IMO.
good and bad jealousy. good jealousy would be you respect and admire the person who betters you in an aspect, and you want to exceed them in that aspect. bad jealousy would be hating someone for having a talent, and to exceed them so you feel you are better than them.
 
Some people are more jealous than others, but as those before me have said it really is a natural feeling that you should not worry about. Only start worrying if it's so severe that you start hurting people in your envy.

m0nkfish said:
Of course, it's important to think of where you stand in the world and be grateful for what you have. I'm a young white middle class male in a good university and I'd be stupid to be jealous of people in day-to-day life!
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I find this line of thought incredibly difficult. I've often suffered from depression and would constantly beat myself up for it because of how good I had it, especially compared to people who are, say, starving and dying of AIDS in Africa. I don't think constantly reminding yourself of that makes for healthy living.
 
Surgo said:
I find this line of thought incredibly difficult. I've often suffered from depression and would constantly beat myself up for it because of how good I had it, especially compared to people who are, say, starving and dying of AIDS in Africa. I don't think constantly reminding yourself of that makes for healthy living.
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so you were fortunate, so you beat yourself up to make yourself feel equal to people in need? or do i have it wrong ._.?
 
No, you have that very wrong. It's more like I felt like shit because I was depressed and I knew that I still had it so much better than those people.
 
That's pretty much self-perpetuating. If you focus on making the most of your opportunities and abilities then you should feel guilty for nothing.
 
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