Parents Idiotic, or Un-wavering?

[DT]

So I'm really pissed of right now, because I believe I was born into a family of idiots here is a conversation I just had with my mom.

I will post my actual thoughts under the dialouge, I was on the phone for the first portion.

DT: Mom there is a foot and a half of snow outside can you pick me up from school?

Not in a million years

Mom: No, I don't care if you have a jacket on you will be fine

I hang up, Yea a jacket helps keep my ankles warm

I walk home.
I arrive home.

Mom: So you think you're smart?

DT: HUH?

Mom: I texted you saying I was going to pick you up.

Mind you I have asked her a million times on previous dates and she has always said no.

DT: Well you said no, I'm not going to call you a million times asking for the same thing.

Mom: Stop being, smart, I advise you to lower your tone.

Mind you she is yelling 3 times louder while I'm speaking at my normal tone.

DT: I'm not being smart, I'm just telling you what you asked.

Mom: GTFO my face.

I'm sane so I say nothing, and go up the stairs blown out of my mind at the stupidity of my mother

About 2 minutes later, My mom walks up the stairs

To my sister

Mom: Go clean your room

DT: Huh?

Thinking she was talking to me I say "Huh",

Mom: I said go clean your room

DT: My room is clean.

Mom: Don't talk back to me, shut your mouth and just do what I say, your going to get slapped.

The ignorant part of this is, If I would not have responded and continued to do nothing, she would have yelled at me for that, but when I asked her to clarify it upset her.

So this is really just a little mini-rant since my father believes everything she did to be of logical sense, I really want to know your thoughts are parents mentally incapable of logical thought, or do they just hate admitting they're wrong?

I guess i should mention another part, apparently it was a joke my mom was playing on me and the whole thing was set-up to make me mad which worked, but then she got mad at me when I walked after getting the answer no, and not taking my phone out every second to check if my mother had changed her mind, my Grandma who is visiting asked her to pick me up, but she just left because her mother had a stroke.

I made my mother's language a bit more understandable, and cleaned up the astonished studders in my own, other than that it's pretty much exact words.

 

[THE_IRON_...KENYAN?]

It's ok they just love you.

It happens.

TRUST ME.

 

[Silent Storm]

Depends really, but with me, my parents are both just as crazy if not worse than your parents.

My mom for instance, cooks unnecessary amounts of food and complains that she is stuck in the kitchen all day when nobody asked her to cook the damn food in the first place.

My dad also believes that when I am on the internet, I am playing games, when in fact I am doing to research for college or just researching on stuff I didn't know about.

They are also control freaks, to point of stopping me from moving out when it is clear that they blame me and my brother and sister for 'ruining' their lives, quite sad really.

 

[mingot]

When she mentioned the text message why didn't you just say "I'm sorry I did not see it, if I would have I would have waited there, thanks for trying"? Conversation over.

By not answering her question you basically said "Yes, but I decided to be a passive aggressive little shite and walk home to spite you". Unless you left out the part where you told her you did not get the text message.

 

[DT]

When she mentioned the text message why didn't you just say "I'm sorry I did not see it, if I would have I would have waited there, thanks for trying"? Conversation over.

By not answering her question you basically said "Yes, but I decided to be a passive aggressive little shite and walk home to spite you". Unless you left out the part where you told her you did not get the text message.

Yea I got the text message, 30 secs before I walked in the door, not really helpful to get a 50 foot, drive home, but I honestly had no reason to believe she would, she does ignorant crap like this all the time and never takes the blame.

 

[IcyMan28]

My parents don't really bother me anymore. As much of control freaks that they are, and as annoying as they are, I know that college is on its way so whatever happens now isn't going to affect me significantly. They don't want to pay for me to go to college out of state, though. Still, I usually get amused when they try to "discipline" (the word they use when they are being ridiculously unreasonable) and it only makes them angrier.

And to answer your question, of course they don't want to admit they are wrong. At the same time though, they do tend to see things in a 1-sided manner.

 

[Trax]

If any of my parents had done that to me after I turned 15 I'm pretty sure I would've punched them in the jaw.

 

[mingot]

Yea I got the text message, 30 secs before I walked in the door, not really helpful to get a 50 foot, drive home, but I honestly had no reason to believe she would, she does ignorant crap like this all the time and never takes the blame.

Then why not answer the question? "Yes, but not until I was coming up the driveway, thank you for offering". Still, problem solved. Not answering the question is what got you into trouble here. Trust me on that one. Evasiveness when answering questions always leads to the worse case of the situation. Think about that the next time. Do I want to escalate this and be pissed off at my mother or do I want to just answer the question and let it drop?

 

[DT]

My parents don't really bother me anymore. As much of control freaks that they are, and as annoying as they are, I know that college is on its way so whatever happens now isn't going to affect me significantly. They don't want to pay for me to go to college out of state, though. Still, I usually get amused when they try to "discipline" (the word they use when they are being ridiculously unreasonable) and it only makes them angrier.

And to answer your question, of course they don't want to admit they are wrong. At the same time though, they do tend to see things in a 1-sided manner.

That's all i can look foward to thankgod I'm above average in school, sadly I'm a sophomore.

Then why not answer the question? "Yes, but not until I was coming up the driveway, thank you for offering". Still, problem solved. Not answering the question is what got you into trouble here. Trust me on that one. Evasiveness when answering questions always leads to the worse case of the situation. Think about that the next time. Do I want to escalate this and be pissed off at my mother or do I want to just answer the question and let it drop?

I guess you have compromising parents because it doesn't work like that in my family she was mad at me, because I didn't wait for her to come get me after she said no, I wasn't mad at her when i got home, she yelled at me the second she walked in the door, I had no pretenses of trying to make her feel bad, she was trying to flip the whole situation, on me when everything was on my side.

She said she called me, I told her I didn't get it until i was at the corner 50feet away from home, then she blamed me not checking my phone every second to see if she had changed her mind, on me.

If any of my parents had done that to me after I turned 15 I'm pretty sure I would've punched them in the jaw.

I need them until I go to college, or else I won't be able to finish school, I have built up an immunity to most of the ignorance, but this situation really pissed me off.

 

[mingot]

I guess you have compromising parents because it doesn't work like that in my family she was mad at me, because I didn't wait for to come get me after she said no, I wasn't mad at her when i got home, she yelled at me the second she walked in the door.

She said she called me, I told her I didn't get it until i was at the corner 50feet away from home, then she blamed me not checking my phone every second to see if she had changed her mind, on me.

Then learn people people skills. Especially how to defuse someone who is angry at you (irrationally, or otherwise). It really sounds to be like this could have been handled, but got escalated instead. Let me ask you, though, if you're so smart and your parents are so stupid why can't you manipulate them into being a bit more docile?

The bolded part was important. You probably should have mentioned that earlier instead of making me drag it out of you over a series of messages. If that's the sort of thing you do no wonder she's always snapping at you :P

 

[DT]

Then learn people people skills. Especially how to defuse someone who is angry at you (irrationally, or otherwise). It really sounds to be like this could have been handled, but got escalated instead. Let me ask you, though, if you're so smart and your parents are so stupid why can't you manipulate them into being a bit more docile?

The bolded part was important. You probably should have mentioned that earlier instead of making me drag it out of you over a series of messages. If that's the sort of thing you do no wonder she's always snapping at you :P

Seriously trying to using logic on my mom, will be about as succesful as trying to get a dog to say 'Hello my Name is Spike'.

Logic, reason, intelligence doesn't work in my family I'm constantly looked down on by my family for being the smartest for not being like the rest of my rap loving, ain't saying, ghetto family.

My dad for example, I believe is angered at me for being smarter than him, whenever I contradict something he said to me with a fact or logic, I'm yelled at for 'actin smart' or 'thinkin I'm smart', my dad in ways reminds me of Mark Twain's character 'pap', he download a false antispyware program which in fact was a program than infects your computer, and gives you ton of spyware, and pop-ups I told what it was he got mad at me for I don't really know it's just illogical.

He also believes that because I download IE8 our computer is slow, not because it's about seven years old with no Firewalls, Anti Spyware Programs, and sits on the floor where dust fills the vents.

In other words my parents are Stupid, but aware of how much smarter than them I am, and do everything to make sure I feel that way, and not to show their own stupidity.

 

[Goodbar]

You know my good friend has a mom just like yours. She likes me and is nice to me but has gone "crazy" on her kids before in front of me. Almost exactly like yours, it's eerie. I always thought why is it that she's like that, like she's bipolar or something. And I wondered how she'd respond if I actually told her how irrational she was acting towards her children. And she's not even always like that around them, but the tiniest thing will offset her. Do you see your mom act nice around other people?

 

[Master Mikaruge]

Wanna hear two retarded things MY mom said?

"Greg, go clean your room, the maid is coming."

"Greg, walk the dog, he took a shit in the living room."

I told these to my friends and they rofl'd.

 

[DT]

You know my good friend has a mom just like yours. She likes me and is nice to me but has gone "crazy" on her kids before in front of me. Almost exactly like yours, it's eerie. I always thought why is it that she's like that, like she's bipolar or something. And I wondered how she'd respond if I actually told her how irrational she was acting towards her children. And she's not even always like that around them, but the tiniest thing will offset her. Do you see your mom act nice around other people?

My grandma was just here as I mentioned and the way she acts around other people is completly sane, but to her friends she tries to sell off my sisters and I as the worst children ever.

A comparasin between Me and my sisters and her friends kids.

Does Drugs? Her friends kids

Been Arrested? Her friends kids

Ran Away? Her Friends kids

Stole? Her Friends kids

Hit their Parents? Her friends kids

Been Suspended? Me once for hitting a teacher I was 6,
Since 1st grade? Her friends Kids

Bad Grades? Her friends kids

Expelled/Flunked? her Friends kids.

To my mother we are evil little children because,
1) We dont do chores perfectly
2) We eat to much I'm 6'2 and weigh 140 pounds, FUCKING SKINNY, and hungry right now
3) We talk back, and correct them when they are wrong

*When I say talking back I mean, answering question in an 'improper tone', or responding smart alecly.

 

[Not Scicky]

My friends dad has choked him if that makes you feel any better about your own parents :S

 

[Kagster123]

My parents are wierd, but were perfectly fine with each other.

Except my mom is way to overprotective. If I got out at like 8 at night to starbucks with friends, she'll call me and be like "I heard police sirens on *street name* get home immediately." It can get so annoying at times, but i guess it's better then not caring at all. It also sucks that we live on a hill and she can hear those sirens from miles down.

 

[az]

i appreciated you echoing the "actual" goings-on of this scenario with your own no doubt entirely truthful and deserved thought-process.

it made reading this horribly one-sided and most probably fraudulent account no longer a case of wondering if you were being a little one-sided and unsympathetic in your retelling to making that pain-stakingly obvious.

 

[DM]

Um, yeah. What ^ he said.

I wish I still had mod powers to close this thread. This isn't a case of your mom being crazy, or her being illogical, it's her being your fucking mother. Quit whining.

 

[DT]

i appreciated you echoing the "actual" goings-on of this scenario with your own no doubt entirely truthful and deserved thought-process.

it made reading this horribly one-sided and most probably fraudulent account no longer a case of wondering if you were being a little one-sided and unsympathetic in your retelling to making that pain-stakingly obvious.

If you want my mom's real thoughts I can probably articulate them to you, My son is right, but I wont tell him or else I will look like a fool, and I can never admit I'm wrong.

There really is no other side, sympathy towards my mother is odd, as I'm the one being scolded.

You can't really say I'm being whiny when you haven't lived my life. It's not me saying wahh my mom didn't pick me up from school, It's me showing you guys, well those that see it, how my mom doesn't accept logic, or reason, and does not accept mistakes.

You can't really say, I'm whining not once did I say, feel empathy for me, but I asked people opinion on rather or not they think my mom was being logcial, and should parents accept mistakes.

Mod-Powers dont belong with someone who cannot see that, but then again you're the one whining, Hypocratic maybe?

 

[Bologo]

Uhh, dude...

So this is really just a little mini-rant since my father believes everything she did to be of logical sense, I really want to know your thoughts are parents mentally incapable of logical thought, or do they just hate admitting they're wrong?

Why did you even ask this question if you're not going to even listen to anyone who doesn't take your side? We're trying our best to help you, but you aren't helping yourself by rejecting people's advice when they're just being honest.

You probably shouldn't be making personal attacks toward someone like DM either, or anyone for that matter. Don't take out your frustration on people.

 

[DT]

Uhh, dude...



Why did you even ask this question if you're not going to even listen to anyone who doesn't take your side? We're trying our best to help you, but you aren't helping yourself by rejecting people's advice when they're just being honest.

You probably shouldn't be making personal attacks toward someone like DM either, or anyone for that matter. Don't take out your frustration on people.

Did I simply dismiss his arguement as idiotic, and move on No I don't think so, all you did was quote my Question further proving my point, I asked a question I looked at advice I refuted it. Wasn't making an attack, he accused me of whining I did the same to him, a badge or a high post count does not earn my respect, intelligence does.

I explained to him, what he obviously didn't see, I respect his opinion, but that doesn't mean I don't think he is correct in some aspects. Mignot helped me out, although he didn't completly agree with me on the topic, I'm not thrashing any clashing opinions, but commenting on them just as they did to mine problem?

I'd like to restate, that I made no attacks on anyone, and if I did then for what reason did you not warn DM not to either, as he did the exact samething.

 

[umbarsc]

I don't like to say "the parents are always right", because there are many stupid parents out there, but this sounds a lot more like you're angry and twisting everything around than your parents being dumb and stubborn. Maybe the reason they don't bother justifying themselves to you is that they know that you are stubborn, and will just continue to argue with them for something that they know are doing in your best interests?

 

[Wishy]

My parents are wierd, but were perfectly fine with each other.

Except my mom is way to overprotective. If I got out at like 8 at night to starbucks with friends, she'll call me and be like "I heard police sirens on *street name* get home immediately." It can get so annoying at times, but i guess it's better then not caring at all. It also sucks that we live on a hill and she can hear those sirens from miles down.

Sounds exactly like my mom. :\

You just sound like a whiny teenager TC, but as everything 'unfolds' it seems you come from one of those shitty houses where the parents are total shitheads and could careless. Though, it's probably just a case of 'blown up 1-sided situation'.

It's hard to tell when you only hear 1 side of it, I guess.

 

[DT]

I don't like to say "the parents are always right", because there are many stupid parents out there, but this sounds a lot more like you're angry and twisting everything around than your parents being dumb and stubborn. Maybe the reason they don't bother justifying themselves to you is that they know that you are stubborn, and will just continue to argue with them for something that they know are doing in your best interests?

Honestly I am twisting nothing, this is not the first time something like this has happned it happens weekly same old same old situation, My mom is wrong about something, blames it on me, I saw why it's not my fault, she gets mad.

I am in no way stubborn, I'm not overly submissive, if I'm wrong, which like all humans I am quite a bit, I'll accept it say I'm sorry. Answer me this how is me walking home in 20 degrees best for me, how is constantly trying to make me look like an idiot, and degrading me best for me?

I guess it hard for you guys to see things, with only 1 side of the story.

Try and think of it like this.

Your mom unknowingly breaks a vase. You tell her she did it. She then yells at you and accuses you of being a smart mouth for alerting her to the fact.

 

[CaptKirby]

Your parents being stupid does not preclude you from being so. Everyone commits stupid actions and intelligent actions. In this case, it seems like your mother is not too hands on and you are petulant and hasty, which is not a good combination here, even if they might not be bad personality traits in general.