Red Raven
I COULD BE BANNED!
As someone who has been struggling in this near exact range because of tilting, the best advice I can give is identify when you're starting to tilt. When you finally see the signs that you're getting tilted, finish your current battle and take a few hours or days break. The last thing you want is to play this or any game when you're tilted because you are more prone to making bad decisions. I learned this the hard way in dota 2. So, take note of when you are starting to lose it. For me, when it gets to the point where I slam my table, I just block showdown on my browser and not play for a week
With the defog and hazards conundrum, I've just been solving this based on my team and the enemy's. If the other guy's team is more vulnerable to hazards than mine, then I won't defog. This is where the sack defog comes into play. If what I said earlier is true, then you are not gonna want to defog most of the time so feel free to sack your defogger but if you really need it because you have something like band Weavile with scarf Blacephalon, then don't unless you really need to. I just find that it would really depend on how much hazards would affect your team
With the Lando toxic, there's next to no guaranteed way to deal with it without Ferrothorn or Corviknight. You can be ballsy and send your steel type in against Landorus but the above two are usually the safest ones since they don't mind eq that much. From my experience, the best way to figure out if Lando is gonna click eq or not is by seeing how free eq is against my team. If it's not free, like 80% of the time, that Lando is not gonna eq. Of course, this is still a gamble but then again, we're literally playing a game where the fate of the battle lies in the hands of a 70% hurricane
For Tornadus, you really can't do anything to stop this. The only true way to stop Tornadus from spamming knock off is by putting Zapdos on every single team. Yes, Zapdos might still lose its boots but Torn cannot do the one thing it is supposed to do, spam knock off and u turn. A paralyzed Tornadus is pretty much dead weight but this isn't the most ideal. I find that the best way to deal with this obnoxious knock off spammer is by having at least one mon that doesn't really mind losing its item like metal birb, who has roost, and metal durian, who can infinitely annoy you with leech seed
On Lele, it's usually the same reason as Lando. Essentially, how desperate would that Lele be to use focus blast? Would it have only limited chances to do so because of offensive or hazard pressure? If yes, it's probably gonna focus miss but if not, it's probably gonna go for its stab. While that can end up being guessing games, regenerator mons is usually the safest answer for this. If Lele goes for focus miss then your regen mon is probably not gonna die to it ever but if it goes for stabs, then you'll be able to respond accordingly. Of course, you can't always put a regen mon on your team so what I've been personally doing is simply checking how my team matches up against Lele. If Lele can punch a hole by clicking focus miss, it would probably want to do that first chance it gets but if not, then its usually gonna try to wear down my team
That's the thing about Ferrothorn. If it's on the field, it will find a way to annoy you no matter which pokemon you have. Unless you have you're own durian to even the spikes game, the only other way would be taunt. My personal favorite is using trapper Fini. That mon pretty much exists to remove Ferrothorn from existence but again, this ain't ideal because you're not gonna put Fini on every team. I guess the best way to deal with this thing is by offensive pressure like low kick Weavile or flamethrower Garchomp. Durian has no recovery so you might as well exploit that but you are gonna be leech seeded at least once. Essentially, don't be afraid of leech seed. That's what Ferrothorn does and the reason why it's so damn obnoxious
Lastly, the advice I have for that mindset stuff you mentioned is don't tilt. Since you mentioned tilting, you are probably starting to tilt and that can cause you to have that mindset. But if you're not tilting, it usually comes down to the state of the game. Based on experience alone, there are two things that can help what move you should choose. First is how free is a certain move to spam and two, how much is a specific mon still needed against your team. For example, if you have a Lele + Melmetal team, the other guy will want their Ferrothorn as healthy as possible so they're probably gonna spam leech seed whenever they get the chance. In the end, there's no guarantee. All you can really do is accept the fact that Tornadus would possibly knock off your entire team and that Ferrothorn will drive you insane. Once you accept that these shit happens, it usually becomes easier to deal with
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