Virginity

[The Plant]

I'm 19. I am not a virgin. I've only had sex with my current girlfriend who I started dating when I was 18. Before this relationship I was not a virgin by choice.

 

[Deschain]

so Bam, what's the verdict?

 

[Curtains]

i bet a lot of these ‘ derpppp wait till married my penis is special and a gift’ comments would'nt be here if they actually did it.Im a virgin and black and 18. i just have shitty game. i would actually find like foreplay to be more of a want because with sex it would be a chore trying to hold it in. lap dance and a blow/hand job maybe i can please her some give her head maybe. pantyjob? ok ok fuck that shit the bottomline is all this gushy nonsense (no pun intended) about ‘hurrr save my first time for when im 30’ is preposterous . go out and get some. noone cares about your penis history.

 

[Ouro]

Are you a virgin? If so, then why are you still one? If not, then what made you decide to lose it/give it away?

I lost my virginity when I was 15. It was with a girl I had just met and at the time I thought nothing of it. My friends knew she liked me and kept pressuring me to have sex with her that night. While I could have refused, at the time I don't believe I had enough will to shrug off the peer pressure.

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As a Dominican male growing up in a predominantly Dominican neighborhood on the east coast I was often pressured by my peers. You have to have Nikes, you had to keep up with all the clothing trends, and a bunch of ridiculous things. You were teased for liking "white people music" or for even speaking proper.

It should not surprise anyone that the hyper-masculinity rappers are famous for is very present amongst the immigrant communities of the east coast. It is bad enough our culture is very chauvinistic but these new elements make it worse. Its disgusting how these boys act. They objectify women, hurl insults without a thought of how the words might hurt the girls. When parents see this behavior they go on blabbing about how they should have never moved here and how the American culture corrupts their kids all while overlooking what they have been teaching their kids from an early age. You're aunts and uncles make jokes about your penis when you're a kid, the wife has to work, cook, and clean while the "man" sits back watching the Yanks or Soxs play. To the men, women are often portrayed as property who only exist for three purposes, food, sex, and cleaning.


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I felt an awful guilt for having relations with the girl. While the sex wasn't special I gained a new perspective. That was the last time I gave in to peer pressure. I did come to regret the experience senior year in high school when I deflowered my girlfriend. It would have been more special if we both lost it together.

What are your views on the idea of "casual sex" or, in general, the value of virginity? Is it something worth keeping?

Losing your virginity should be something memorable. You don't want the memory to be something you can not share with other people. It should be with someone you like. After that you can have all the sex you want as long as you are being responsible :|

Do you think there's a certain dogma about being a virgin? Is it generally accepted, approved upon, or criticized?

Only those who have not matured will tease you for being a virgin. Being a virgin symbolizes purity and what not. This is something repeated in many different cultures all around the world.

If you are not a virgin, what would you say to a virgin friend who is considering giving it up? Would you encourage him to lose it or keep it, and why?

Ask yourself how much you like other person, how you think they feel about you, how they will go about it.

What emotional and relational requirements do you think there are for being ready to have sex for the first time?

You have to like someone for it to be special.

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Your views on sex will change as you age and have more experiences.

 

[TrainerJon]

I totally agree with you and think you should wait! ha ha. Old Thread bumped but I had to say something. As a Christian myself, even though only 15, premarital sex is wrong. So watch you step and make sure to do it when you get married since you know that is the person you will be with one for life. WTL. and WWTL :D figure it out :D

 

[popemobile]

probably not the strongest way to bolster your statements

it does explain a lot though

 

[Robert [old]]

While "Casual" sex can be risky (By casual I mean a different person every other night or so. I realize this is outside the norm which is why I don't see it as a threat.) I don't really care because it only affects the individuals participating.

I find the notion of not having premarital sex ludicrous. If you've been with a person you love for a long time, why does a silly ceremony have to be done before you can do it? To be honest, "saving yourself" sounds harmful because you'll have built up expectations and you'll wind up disappointed. I'm not married though, so this is pure speculation on my part.

Also, does masturbation count? I don't mean to be crude, but I honestly cannot fathom a person going without relieving themselves for extended periods of time without it driving them insane.

 

[mf]

Humans are glorified animals, marriage is merely a social construct - it is pretty ridiculous to deny yourself the pleasure of sex just because of... well, nothing really. Casual sex is not wrong, it's not bad, it's just two people having fun together. If you're sensible about it, nothing bad will come of it.

 

[az]

As a Christian myself, even though only 15, premarital sex is wrong. So watch you step and make sure to do it when you get married since you know that is the person you will be with one for life.

if you're going to make a statement like this, you're going to have to justify it. just saying is so is meaningless, and hardly conducive to discussion

 

[cim]

if you're going to make a statement like this, you're going to have to justify it. just saying is so is meaningless, and hardly conducive to discussion

eh there are so many "i'm a virgin" "im not a virgin" pc++ posts in this thread that at least this one generates discussion, kind of, compared to everyone else who pretends we care how much sex they had!

that being said, you're wrong and you're missing out! sex is the reason you're alive, so you might as well enjoy it! with modern birth control, risk is lowered to an amount most people are willing to take, and i fail to see how something done between two consenting adults, privately, is a morality issue at all

 

[Obsessed]

So watch you step and make sure to do it when you get married since you know that is the person you will be with one for life. WTL. and WWTL :D figure it out :D

Yeah, because I'm sure the divorce rate for couples that remained abstinent until marriage is 0%.