Your race/ethnicity (I have questions/analysis)

Ancax

I need some advice on this subject. As time goes on, I begin to realize that I have no close friends of my own ethnicity.

It does not matter what race I am, but I always seem to have the worst experiences with people of my own race. Whenever I was made fun of, it was often by someone of my own race.

Also, I don't really fit the stereotype of my race very well, and if you met me without knowing my race, you wouldn't know what race I was.

Also, people at my school tend to generalize and stereotype my ethnicity. Also, whenever I ask my mother what other ethnicities we are, she just says we are one race, even though most of my immediate family has traits that can't possibly come from the one race she identifies as.

I don't know, it seems like I get less and less friends of my ethnicity as time goes on. Don't get me wrong, there are some great people of my own race, but a great majority cause me to roll my eyes at how stereotypical they are, and how I feel like a "freak" because I don't really fit into the mold of my race at all.

I just wanted to see what other people thought of my "dilemma". Do you have any experiences similar to mine? Can someone provide some insight, becuase sometimes I feel bad for feeling this way, like I am a "traitor".
 
Ancax said:
I need some advice on this subject. As time goes on, I begin to realize that I have no close friends of my own ethnicity.

It does not matter what race I am, but I always seem to have the worst experiences with people of my own race. Whenever I was made fun of, it was often by someone of my own race.

Also, I don't really fit the stereotype of my race very well, and if you met me without knowing my race, you wouldn't know what race I was.

Also, people at my school tend to generalize and stereotype my ethnicity. Also, whenever I ask my mother what other ethnicities we are, she just says we are one race, even though most of my immediate family has traits that can't possibly come from the one race she identifies as.

I don't know, it seems like I get less and less friends of my ethnicity as time goes on. Don't get me wrong, there are some great people of my own race, but a great majority cause me to roll my eyes at how stereotypical they are, and how I feel like a "freak" because I don't really fit into the mold of my race at all.

I just wanted to see what other people thought of my "dilemma". Do you have any experiences similar to mine? Can someone provide some insight, becuase sometimes I feel bad for feeling this way, like I am a "traitor".
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Wow I'm kinda the opposite a way because I'm Dominican and tend to have alot of Dominican friends. Although I'm Hunduran from my dads side people will tend to be shocked at that. Dont feel like a traitor. Its like saying all asians look alike when they're clearly not. Ypu dont have to follow stereotypes because of your personality. No hell in chance will I change the way I act because of stereotypes. Although I kinda am how people view my race but its because I am load at times but I was like that way before I knew the stereotype of my race.
 
There is a lot of Domincans in my area. My town is like 50 percent Dominican/Ecuadorian, even though my mom's boyfriend is half Puerto Rican.
 
Haha dude you're just like me. I'm the opposite of the stereotypes of my ethnicity, and I've only ever had one friend of that ethnicity... and I generally don't get along with them well either.

Don't feel bad, its not your fault and its probably just coincidence that they're like the stereotypes of your race, and you're not a traitor for not being like them. Its generally the exact same for me, though quite frankly I'm not known for showing my heritage much/at all in any way lol nor do I go out of my way to do so. A person is a person, no matter what their ethnicity is. Thats how I see things.
 
thing is, I like the typical music that my ethnicity, but I like music from all ethicities/races. There's a certain TV station dedicated to my ethnicity that I don't really watch much anymore, even though I could tolerate it two years ago.

Also,the types of drama my ethnicity goes through tends to be the same from most, and all the things other races assume about us end up being somewhat true.
 
Wow. You would hate to live where I do. About 18/20 people here are white. Even the people who arrent make fun of their own race. I just try to ignore all the negative air around the subject... My whole school voted McCain, if that makes any difference. And none of them had any support for him except that their parents liked him because they were racist. And most of the people at my school arrent truly racist but pick it up from their parents. I don't get why people have to be racist... It really just makes no sense to me...
 
Well I'm a mess of different ethnicities. I'm mostly Serbian with some Croatian and Slovenian thrown in there. Apparently Native American blood is also present among other things I'm not sure about. I'd just go with "predominately Slavic" if I was ever asked.

I rarely find anyone around me who is even a little Slavic where I live in America except of course for my family.

But stereotypes? Let me check what they apparently are for us, I don't even know! XD
 
I'm Asian with some French roots.
I get along with everyone just the same, probably because I grew up with a lot of white people.
 
All my life, I've been around every kind or nationality, so race isn't a big concern to me. Even though I have mostly Asian and black friends irl, I still have white and Latino friends. Me having an Indian dad and an American mom is weird sometimes, because I have to be apart of two different cultures.
 
Ukrainian - born and raised, and proud of it.
It's kinda cool since Edmonton has a fucking huge population of Ukrainians since it was one of the first places of recidence for Eastern Europeans. Nobody I have ever spoken with has ever has a problem with their own ethnicity or race, since you can always find people to relate to.
 
You cannot be a race traitor. Maybe your genetic composition is different than other humans in some way, but culture as pertinent to large groups of people is all self-propagated and continued.
 
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But anyway, I do appreciate and understand sometimes what you are going through. My father talks about things the same way... about how Blacks that are portrayed in rap videos, etc. are making things harder for Blacks that are trying to do right, and I totally agree with him. As for me, I have a lot of... Friends!!! I have a lot of white friends, I have a lot of hispanic friends, and I have a ton of black friends. However, what all my friends share in common, especially the minorities such as the Black and Hispanic friends is that we don't fit those stereotypes. We are all college students trying are hardest to go out and do the best we can, not be thugs or cause trouble... meh.. my two cents.

@ above, culture is somewhat equal to race, but not really. Its more like, culture is your socioeconomic background and demographics. For example, I knew a black girl who grew up in a neighborhood that was less than 3% minorities and she would not even talk to black people and wouldn't talk to me because I was black (rumor is she only likes white guys) and I tried to talk to her because she was gorgeous, lol.
 
Haha right behind you RL. I'm half white and half black, so i have a pretty interesting perspective on things. I find it quite funny that while most white people immediatley identify me as a black person, most black people see me as a mere halfling. Haha, not that it's a bad thing, it's just interesting that the slightest ounce of color can eliminate the possibility of you being white, but a ton of white in you still means you're black. Whatever, it's late and i'm tired/ bogged down thinking about raikou's girl problems lol.
 
I don't know...I just haven't found a black person who likes Pokemon, Degrassi, Puma shirts, and Japanese music.

Im down with pretty much anything, but all the blacks around here tend to drink and smoke weed a lot, and I dont do either. I'm probably the only black virgin in the class of 2009.
 
ASIAN!

I would say at least 90% of my firends are asian. but then again, I've been going to the same school since kindergarten (in 10th grade btw) and my school is like at least 80-85% asian.

however, my younger brother has nearly no asian friends. mostly black and hawaiian (I live in Hawaii.) very few asian.
 
I am saying that most of what comes with 'race' typically is merely differently created cultures. I mean, there are some parts that come from longstanding history, but then there are also some parts that come from, for instance, modern black youth trying to be like rappers, and white youth trying to be like the black youth...
 
I have very few friends that are the same ethnicity as me. Most of those few are family friends (kids of my parents' friends) that I've known since I was 3 or 4 years old. Most of the rest I'd rather actively avoid to be honest.

Most of my friends seem to be Chinese for the most part. Might have to do with the schools I went to.
 
Born in Australia, with Italian roots on my father's side as well as Irish and Scottish on my mother's side.

The group of people I hang out with is pretty diverse in terms of ethnicity too.
 
I'm pretty much as white as they come and I live in a predominantly white area. The only thing that really differentiates me from anybody else is that I used to live in the north and I have bit of an accent.
 
Purely Dutch ethnicity, many Dutch friends. I have a couple of other ethnic friends though.
 
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