Chou Toshio
Over9000
I grew up a lot in highschool by painfully learning the lesson that "People are important. Without people, you can't accomplish anything by yourself." Also, even if you do, if you don't respect people, you'll never be acknowledged no matter how incredible your achievements. In other words, you have to treat others well. My Mom always said, "you can win the battle but lose the war." It took me a long time to figure out what that meant.
At first I became really focused on improving my social skills, learning to "act" more humbly, and how to show respect for people-- it a way it was a facade, but I really wanted to learn how to treat people well while still being confident and genuine. Eventually "pretending" gave way to genuinely respecting. To me, rather than learning to humble myself-- it was easier to learn to appreciate the amazing things about other people, and let those feelings through. People really are amazing.
I used these skills to turn myself from the isolated prick everyone on my wrestling team hated, to the captain of the team that revamped the whole team's attitude, and left a team that would continue winning repeated state championships every year after I graduated (too bad I didn't get to be on such a team myself! doh!). It all starts at the base-- learn about the people. What do they do? Why do they want to do it? What are their motives, interests? Show you care, and people care in response-- for instance, I made detailed mental profiles of every member of the team, including all the middle school wrestlers that would succeed me after I graduated, and trained with/hung out with the majority of them outside practice and off-season.
After graduating from highschool, I learned to appreciate people even more. In college, I studied abroad several times, in Europe and mostly throughout Japan. I gained a great respect for culture, for seeing how "the other person" does things, and matured some more with that appreciation.
After awhile, I realized Smogon, too, was a group of people that I was around and cared about. Instead of just being in auto-pilot, acting like a douche who cared little for the site, I decided to be serious in caring about Smogon. Really, Smogon is just like any other group-- if you show "you care," and ask "what can I do for you," doors will eventually open. It's not a bunch of cold elite pricks; you just have to care enough to care.
I still have a lot of things to focus on.
Actually, one of my biggest strengths is also my biggest weakness right now-- I "appreciate" folks too much. I have pretty inflated self-confidence, and my "method for being humble" is basically to see the best and highly appreciate the best in other people. Rewording this in a bad way-- I tend to over-inflate my expectations, and impress those expectations on others. People feel a lot of pressure and stress to try and live up to the incredible portrayal I make of them, because I blow up the value of their good aspects too big. Basically, I have a way of stressing people out because their self-confidence doesn't live up to my "belief" in them.
This is my biggest weakness as a leader, and I have to learn to keep myself in check to be more of a "realist." Always more to work on... eh?
At first I became really focused on improving my social skills, learning to "act" more humbly, and how to show respect for people-- it a way it was a facade, but I really wanted to learn how to treat people well while still being confident and genuine. Eventually "pretending" gave way to genuinely respecting. To me, rather than learning to humble myself-- it was easier to learn to appreciate the amazing things about other people, and let those feelings through. People really are amazing.
I used these skills to turn myself from the isolated prick everyone on my wrestling team hated, to the captain of the team that revamped the whole team's attitude, and left a team that would continue winning repeated state championships every year after I graduated (too bad I didn't get to be on such a team myself! doh!). It all starts at the base-- learn about the people. What do they do? Why do they want to do it? What are their motives, interests? Show you care, and people care in response-- for instance, I made detailed mental profiles of every member of the team, including all the middle school wrestlers that would succeed me after I graduated, and trained with/hung out with the majority of them outside practice and off-season.
After graduating from highschool, I learned to appreciate people even more. In college, I studied abroad several times, in Europe and mostly throughout Japan. I gained a great respect for culture, for seeing how "the other person" does things, and matured some more with that appreciation.
After awhile, I realized Smogon, too, was a group of people that I was around and cared about. Instead of just being in auto-pilot, acting like a douche who cared little for the site, I decided to be serious in caring about Smogon. Really, Smogon is just like any other group-- if you show "you care," and ask "what can I do for you," doors will eventually open. It's not a bunch of cold elite pricks; you just have to care enough to care.
I still have a lot of things to focus on.
Actually, one of my biggest strengths is also my biggest weakness right now-- I "appreciate" folks too much. I have pretty inflated self-confidence, and my "method for being humble" is basically to see the best and highly appreciate the best in other people. Rewording this in a bad way-- I tend to over-inflate my expectations, and impress those expectations on others. People feel a lot of pressure and stress to try and live up to the incredible portrayal I make of them, because I blow up the value of their good aspects too big. Basically, I have a way of stressing people out because their self-confidence doesn't live up to my "belief" in them.
This is my biggest weakness as a leader, and I have to learn to keep myself in check to be more of a "realist." Always more to work on... eh?