Genuinely interested if anyone actually bothered visiting those pages I linked. I can only assume no since people are being "BUT WHAT ABOUT THE BOYS" or seemingly thinking that there's some sort of legal action that would ban music videos, or thinking this is purely about a word. From the studies linked in the pdfs:
Honestly, all this is showing me is that #banbossy probably wasn't the best tagline to go for, if only because people are fucking morons and will not do the research and assume you want to send people off to jail for daring to use a word for any reason. I've spent entirely too much time on researching this shit, and I don't even HAVE kids. Hopefully someone will actually read this... but then again, reading the headline to the article/post and making up all your conclusions right there IS much easier.
By middle school, girls are 25% less likely than boys to say they like taking the lead.1
Ninety-two percent of girls believe they can learn the skills required to lead—yet only twenty-one percent believe they already possess them.2
DID YOU KNOW? In a comprehensive study of adolescents and their families, parents of seventh graders placed greater importance on leadership for boys than for girls.4
DID YOU KNOW? The confidence gap starts young: Between elementary school and high school, girls’ self-esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys’.5
Parents often place greater value on the chores boys typically perform, like mowing the lawn, than on chores that girls usually do, like folding laundry or dishwashing.6
DID YOU KNOW? The wage gap starts at home: Girls get paid less than boys for household chores.7
DID YOU KNOW? Both boys and girls think it’s easier for men to become leaders.9
DID YOU KNOW? Girls are twice as likely as boys to worry that leadership roles will make them seem “bossy.”8
Research has shown that father figures can have a significant impact on a girl’s ability to trust, enjoy, and relate well to the boys and men in her life.10 Girls whose fathers are positively involved in their lives also tend to have higher self-esteem and be more willing to try new things.11
Sports can be particularly positive for girls. A survey found that more than 80 percent of senior women executives played sports growing up.12
DID YOU KNOW? When they participate in extracurricular activities, girls gain leadership skills that stay with them for life. Encourage girls to try something new and work to develop those skills!13
On average, kids consume technology and media for almost eight hours each day.14 That’s an education in and of itself. But what are girls learning? Research shows that males outnumber females by almost three to one in family films. Even more discouraging, female characters are almost four times as likely to be shown in sexy attire.15
DID YOU KNOW? Of the top one hundred U.S. films in 2011, women accounted for only 33% of all characters and only 11% of the protagonists.16
That's just from the parent's guide. It has problems listed that may be encouraging young girls to be less confident or to encourage them to lead or not settle for second best and solutions for both you and her to help overcome them, as well as activities you can all engage in as a family to help (which by definition includes involving your male children if you have any). The headings are:DID YOU KNOW? It pays to be gritty: One of the most common attributes in successful women is resilience.17
1. Encourage Girls and Boys Equally to Lead
2. Be Conscious of the Way You and She Talk
3. Make Your Home an Equal Household
4. Teach Her to Respect Her Feelings
5. Moms and Grandmoms: Model Assertive Behavior
6. Dads and Granddads: Know Your Influence
7. Seize the Power of Organized Sports and Activities
8. Get Media Literate—Together
9. Let Her Solve Problems on Her Own
#2 was probably the most interesting to me because it's something I've been aware of for a long ass time. It talks about how girls and women are more likely to soften their words to make themselves sound less confident. Starting sentences with apologies, or turning factual statements into questions. I've seen it with guys with shitty self esteem too, but experience and the confidence gap statistic from earlier show that it's far more common with girls. Also, for whoever said we should teach girls that bossy should be seen as a positive:10. Encourage Her to Step Outside Her Comfort Zone
Mah FREE SPEECH! MAH FREEDOMS! THEY WANT TO THOUGHT POLICE US!!!!! NOT DOING THE RESEARCH IS AN ACCEPTABLE FORM OF RESEARCH NOW!Talk About the Word “Bossy”
Calling a girl “bossy” when she asserts her voice—a word we rarely use for little boys—sends the message that girls should not speak up. Explain to the girls in your life that “bossy” is a word often used to make girls feel bad about speaking up. Brainstorm examples of moments when being “bossy” is a good idea. Talk about what you stand for as a family when it comes to speaking up and take steps to make sure the members of your extended community support your daughter when she speaks her mind.
Honestly, all this is showing me is that #banbossy probably wasn't the best tagline to go for, if only because people are fucking morons and will not do the research and assume you want to send people off to jail for daring to use a word for any reason. I've spent entirely too much time on researching this shit, and I don't even HAVE kids. Hopefully someone will actually read this... but then again, reading the headline to the article/post and making up all your conclusions right there IS much easier.