1) Along with the first thing I know, Is this also true if you make a Ditto hold it and breed it with a Male? Are there any other benefits to using an Everstone in some way? I got like 6 from the Underground. :\
Worked for me. The only other use for everstone I've had was training Eevee to level 36 for batonpass without having it evolve into either Espeon or Umbreon
2) Is there any way to kinda "force" the Egg to be a Male or Female when you get it? How about Ability?
Not that I know of. IIRC the Ability and Gender are set in stone once the egg is made.
3) IV's. How does it work exactly with breeding? From my understanding, you breed 2 parents with high IV's and it takes like 2 from each of the parents and passes it on. Something like that. Clarification would be excellent.
http://www.smogon.com/forums/showthread.php?t=20653
4) Is there anything else that could help me out here?
Ditto. Er, no pun intended.