Chloe
NUPL Champion
Today is the day I finally find enough courage within myself to post on this thread. Everyday for the last month, I've clicked on this thread and stared at it for half an hour before deciding I wasn't ready to share anything about myself, however that changes today hopefully. So I'm trans-female, I found that out a while back and my life hasn't been the same since. I usually don't share much on forums/Showdown, however I felt that talking about it might help, also I'm not enjoying having to explain my situation every time someone sees Female on my profile. Here's my story.
I'm at a point where I don't know who to talk to. When I decide to talk to someone about it I get too embarrassed and end up having to deal with it myself. My family and friends are both extremely narrow minded when it comes to anything that defies their traditional beliefs. I am depressed all the time, hence I can't concentrate on anything else anymore and am relying on Showdown/Smogon to keep my mind off it.
I've always wanted to be a girl for as long as I can remember, thinking back to primary school (elementary school), I remember having some "weird obsession" with being feminine. My whole entire life has been encompassed by these thoughts however the discovery of my dysphoria was only recent. I don't know how to explain how I felt before but I can definitely explain my feelings now. I feel terrible all the time, which is distracting and not at all helpful to my studies.
I've grown up in a male-only strict Catholic school, which doesn't help much. I've heard one of my teacher's views on transgender people and his views aren't pretty. The school has a counselling system, which I've been tempted to go to, but I fear that even the counsellors will share similar views. I've tried going to friends but one of my friends has also verbally expressed negative views on transgender people. One of my closest friends (not the same one) noticed how depressed I was one day and persisted at harassing me until I told him what was wrong. I made a terrible mistake and told him and now he seems awfully evasive of me.
As for my parents, it only gets worse. My father constantly shares his 1960s ideologies, which are homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, etc. I've never been able to have a serious conversation with him about anything going on with me and thus I often just let him bring up stuff when we talk to avoid conflict. My mother's a bit better, however she still shares similar views and I still wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her about it either.
I've talked to a few people I know on showdown about it, which has seemed to ease the pressure a little bit, but I need to talk to someone irl that can help me do something about it, rather than just me wishing I was something I'm not 24 hours a day. Thanks to Rhythms, Dream Eater Gengar, baconbagon, GonxKillua for making my life that tiny bit better when I needed comfort in times of distress. I don't know how I'd still be this mentally stable without you all. I still feel the need to talk to someone offline, because this depression makes me feel like shit and there's only so much support someone on the other side of a computer screen can give.
I have considered talking to my parents about it, despite their negative views hoping that their opinion would change just for me, that they'd be accepting just for me. But then again, I freeze up and end up saying nothing. My parents have noticed my excessive sadness, and have questioned me about it, however I end up always coming up with an excuse because of the embarrassment my dysphoria causes me.
I don't know what else to do, but any sense of being feminine (whether it be clothing, pronouns, cosmetics, e.t.c) just makes me feel a bit better. However, those things alone don't solve the underlying problem which controls my everyday thoughts. I just want to be female.
Thanks for taking the time to read my post.
I'm at a point where I don't know who to talk to. When I decide to talk to someone about it I get too embarrassed and end up having to deal with it myself. My family and friends are both extremely narrow minded when it comes to anything that defies their traditional beliefs. I am depressed all the time, hence I can't concentrate on anything else anymore and am relying on Showdown/Smogon to keep my mind off it.
I've always wanted to be a girl for as long as I can remember, thinking back to primary school (elementary school), I remember having some "weird obsession" with being feminine. My whole entire life has been encompassed by these thoughts however the discovery of my dysphoria was only recent. I don't know how to explain how I felt before but I can definitely explain my feelings now. I feel terrible all the time, which is distracting and not at all helpful to my studies.
I've grown up in a male-only strict Catholic school, which doesn't help much. I've heard one of my teacher's views on transgender people and his views aren't pretty. The school has a counselling system, which I've been tempted to go to, but I fear that even the counsellors will share similar views. I've tried going to friends but one of my friends has also verbally expressed negative views on transgender people. One of my closest friends (not the same one) noticed how depressed I was one day and persisted at harassing me until I told him what was wrong. I made a terrible mistake and told him and now he seems awfully evasive of me.
As for my parents, it only gets worse. My father constantly shares his 1960s ideologies, which are homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, etc. I've never been able to have a serious conversation with him about anything going on with me and thus I often just let him bring up stuff when we talk to avoid conflict. My mother's a bit better, however she still shares similar views and I still wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her about it either.
I've talked to a few people I know on showdown about it, which has seemed to ease the pressure a little bit, but I need to talk to someone irl that can help me do something about it, rather than just me wishing I was something I'm not 24 hours a day. Thanks to Rhythms, Dream Eater Gengar, baconbagon, GonxKillua for making my life that tiny bit better when I needed comfort in times of distress. I don't know how I'd still be this mentally stable without you all. I still feel the need to talk to someone offline, because this depression makes me feel like shit and there's only so much support someone on the other side of a computer screen can give.
I have considered talking to my parents about it, despite their negative views hoping that their opinion would change just for me, that they'd be accepting just for me. But then again, I freeze up and end up saying nothing. My parents have noticed my excessive sadness, and have questioned me about it, however I end up always coming up with an excuse because of the embarrassment my dysphoria causes me.
I don't know what else to do, but any sense of being feminine (whether it be clothing, pronouns, cosmetics, e.t.c) just makes me feel a bit better. However, those things alone don't solve the underlying problem which controls my everyday thoughts. I just want to be female.
Thanks for taking the time to read my post.