Dear people of Smogon, I need your opinion on a matter that is very important to me. Now this story is hard to explain as it spreads out over a matter of two years. I will try to shorten it as best as I can.
- My female friend who I shall call "Brenda" for the sake of this thread has an odd characteristic. She overreacts to everything involving even the slightest amount of drama.
- My male friend who I shall call "Bob" fell in love with Brenda.
-Over the course of a year Brenda finds out that Bob likes her. Brenda had already disliked Bob, and this only made matters worse.
-Brenda flips out and starts being a total bitch to Bob for several weeks. Finally, Brenda decides to just ignore Bob.
-Now let us jump ahead a few weeks later. Bob is still not over Brenda. The fact that she completely blew him off without giving any reasons is tearing him up inside. He constantly wants me to talk to Brenda and force her to give reason. Brenda constantly refuses to speak about the matter.
- A few days back Bob again started asking me to get Brenda to talk to him. I said "no" since I knew Brenda would just refuse. Than Bob said something that kind of forced me into a corner. He mentioned suicide. Now I know Bob well and I was sure he was joking, or at least not serious about killing himself.
- I figured it was just a clever ploy to force Brenda to talk to him. After all, suicide is not something that can be taken lightly. I decided to finally listen to Bob and get Brenda to talk to him.
-I start texting Brenda telling her to get online. She is not home so I am forced to tell her the situation on the phone. She refuses as I expected, so I then tell her about Bob threatening to commit suicide. I mention that I felt he wasn't serious, but that it can't be ignored.
The thing is, Brenda still refused knowing full well that refusing could possibly lead to Bob committing suicide if he were serious. Both Bob and I could not believe it. How could anyone be so heartless? Luckily Bob was not serious and the fact that Brenda refuses has changed his previous love of Brenda into hatred.
This is where the point of this thread comes out. The fact that Brenda would so casually dismiss a life is shocking to me. I thought she would agree to talk to Bob after I mentioned the suicide issue. Yet she still refused. I have a feeling that when I see her in school again it is going to be awkward. I want to talk to her about her behavior. I want to know that she is really not so heartless. I also do not want to offend her.
So people of Smogon. Does anyone have some advice as to how I should approach her about this?
- My female friend who I shall call "Brenda" for the sake of this thread has an odd characteristic. She overreacts to everything involving even the slightest amount of drama.
- My male friend who I shall call "Bob" fell in love with Brenda.
-Over the course of a year Brenda finds out that Bob likes her. Brenda had already disliked Bob, and this only made matters worse.
-Brenda flips out and starts being a total bitch to Bob for several weeks. Finally, Brenda decides to just ignore Bob.
-Now let us jump ahead a few weeks later. Bob is still not over Brenda. The fact that she completely blew him off without giving any reasons is tearing him up inside. He constantly wants me to talk to Brenda and force her to give reason. Brenda constantly refuses to speak about the matter.
- A few days back Bob again started asking me to get Brenda to talk to him. I said "no" since I knew Brenda would just refuse. Than Bob said something that kind of forced me into a corner. He mentioned suicide. Now I know Bob well and I was sure he was joking, or at least not serious about killing himself.
- I figured it was just a clever ploy to force Brenda to talk to him. After all, suicide is not something that can be taken lightly. I decided to finally listen to Bob and get Brenda to talk to him.
-I start texting Brenda telling her to get online. She is not home so I am forced to tell her the situation on the phone. She refuses as I expected, so I then tell her about Bob threatening to commit suicide. I mention that I felt he wasn't serious, but that it can't be ignored.
The thing is, Brenda still refused knowing full well that refusing could possibly lead to Bob committing suicide if he were serious. Both Bob and I could not believe it. How could anyone be so heartless? Luckily Bob was not serious and the fact that Brenda refuses has changed his previous love of Brenda into hatred.
This is where the point of this thread comes out. The fact that Brenda would so casually dismiss a life is shocking to me. I thought she would agree to talk to Bob after I mentioned the suicide issue. Yet she still refused. I have a feeling that when I see her in school again it is going to be awkward. I want to talk to her about her behavior. I want to know that she is really not so heartless. I also do not want to offend her.
So people of Smogon. Does anyone have some advice as to how I should approach her about this?