Missed Opportunities

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In this thread we post and discuss those moments or events in our lives that we feel held missed opportunities, or for those times when we wonder what our life might be like if we had done something differently.

For me, I often feel that if I just manned up and found the courage to do half the things I imagine, my life would be a lot more exciting. Like last night at a concert, there was this incredibly cute girl who I'd constantly find smiling back at me whenever we made eye contact (sometimes for a good few seconds). But good old me didnt have the balls to do anything, and ended up going home without even her name or number.

I have some more examples that are probably less superficial and mediocre, but this is the one that is mostly on my mind atm.
So TL;DR post missed opportunities/things you regret not doing. I'm interested to hear everyone's.
 
I regret taking the scholarship I'm on right now.

There are no real perks, it is not prestigious, I pushed the reset button on my life, it far from covers expenses and I will continue to be unhappy for another two years.

Not all opportunities are worth taking.
 
no regrets

i kinda regret not being as outgoing during my uni years but... thats not really a choice i had to make, as much as a learning experience i went through.
 
Regrets?

Not studying for a midterm, so I got a B in the class, fucking my chances at Valedictorian.

As of now, that's more or less it.
 
i think the real reason regrets are kinda bullshit is that hindsight is 20:20 whereas at the time there is this great unknown in front of you and the decision you make is ultimately the one that makes the most sense to you at the time.
 
The things I regret are normally those extreme things like going on crazy courses that have you 80 feet in the air and then they drop you. Of course, there might still be some time for me... If I get over my fear of heights.
 
Not taking running (cross country/track) seriously until my junior year of high school. I started it in 7th grade but pretty much blew it off for four years, when I finally realized I had some potential.
 
>Have a girlfriend
>Have attractive female friend at the same time
>Attractive female friend wants to hang out, invites me to go to the beach with her
>Asks if it's ok if she doesn't wear a swimsuit
>Don't pursue and decide to stick with current girlfriend

Now I'm broke up with the current girlfriend and the attractive female friend has been fucked twice since the missed opportunity.
 
i don't consider myself having any regrets, simply because it's dumb to be sore about a decision you made when there's nothing you can do about it now, and if it was something you WANT to regret, then at least you can learn from it and better apply yourself in the future! although my ONE stupid little regret that i have, which i will always bring up, is the one time i was caught in a mall parking lot and ended up buying a $40 subscription to a magazine that never once made it to my mother's house. just, ugh , ahaha, i used to have such a problem turning down people i didn't know because i would just feel too bad?? i regretted it immediately after i handed the money away too, since i was going into a store to buy a gift for someone and then i didn't have enough money for the quality of what i wanted. pretty stupid day.

also, as far as bad decisions ago, if i have to regret something, i would much rather chastise myself for action rather than inaction.
 
Years of working in call centres have honed a very polite but firm demeanour toward people trying to solicit me

And if someone calls my house and tries to sell me something I don't need/want, I just put the phone straight down, saves my time and theirs, lol
 
I don't really have any large things to regret, since I am so young, but I have a habit of looking back at my day and thinking of one little random thing I could have done differently.
Like, things that wouldn't really have an impact at all in the long run, but could have potentially changed a conversation. Little stuff like that. It's kinda interesting to me, like what little tiny things could have changed my day?
But it's not necessarily regrets, just thinking. I dunno. I think it's kinda cool.
 
I regret posting in this thread. No point on moaning about something that went wrong and what would have been, learn from it and be about what is going to be.
 
I dont find I regret inaction or not doing something, it just always leaves me wondering what I missed out on, or how my life would be different if I had chosen the other path at the crossways as such. Fishy is right though; what's done is done and that you can only learn from experiences.


monkfish said:
i think the real reason regrets are kinda bullshit is that hindsight is 20:20 whereas at the time there is this great unknown in front of you and the decision you make is ultimately the one that makes the most sense to you at the time.
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I think this rings true more than anything too.
 
The thing about this is that if you would've done something significant differently in your past, at the present, things could potentially be entirely different. It seems stupid to say something like "Oh I should've slept with that girl when I had the chance" because that would ultimately change your life and hers, whether it be minimally by just wasting the nighttime together and being stored in your memory, or it could've made a huge difference if she got pregnant or if one of you transferred an STD, so on and so forth. So if you think "Oh I wish I did that differently," think about everything else in your life and if you would want that all to be different. That's just my view
 
I think one of my biggest missed opportunities was that I didn't come out in high school. I probably should have, and would have probably made me feel better on the inside, but I just didn't have the courage to do so. There were only a couple of other guys in the school that were "out" and a couple that were possibly gay but wouldn't come out same as me (though unlike with me most people suspected that they were gay anyway so it probably wouldn't have made a difference with them). I guess I was always scared about how my friends at the time would have reacted, I know that almost all of them would have been supportive, but you just never really know until you do it.

Also, my town isn't what you would call "gay friendly" either, and while it is definitely getting better, especially since my freshman year of high school I can see a huge difference in the behavior of people around town (I'm now a sophomore in college), you can still feel the hatred people give off when you mention that someone is gay. And it wasn't only the random asshole homophobes in high school or around town either, but a number of my cousins and stuff on my mom's side of the family are pretty adamantly anti-gay. They've gotten better since I've come out, but I just didn't want to still be in high school when I came out and still be in close proximity to not only the homophobes in town but my family as well.

idk, it would definitely be interesting to go back in time and come out when my mom first asked me if I was gay back in my sophomore year of high school, but at the time I was just not brave enough to face the world.
 
(hugs Oglemi) I think you're safe where we're living right now, though. College people seem more accepting of people with different affiliations.

As for me, my biggest regret was not searching hard enough to find more close friends. This I can fix, but it's tough for me to do so. I have 2-3 close friends in person, 2-3 close friends online, and 6-7 close family members. This may seem like a lot, but one can never have enough friends, especially of girls my own age :).

Never regretted staying on Smogon, though.
 
When I was 9, the movie Small Soldiers came out and Burger King had this promotional burger called the rodeo burger(I think); I absolutely loved that burger. During that time, every time my family went to Burger King, I would always order the rodeo burger, it was that good. Well, this one day, we went to Burger King and while in line my dad asked me what I wanted. I was about say a Rodeo Burger, but I quickly changed my and decided to get a chicken sandwich instead. Well the following week, we went to Burger King again, and when I told the cashier I wanted the rodeo b. To this day, BK has never served that burger again and I so regret getting that chicken sandwich. :(

Seriously, I don't regret anything. Mulling over it now won't change anything. All you can do now is learn from the past and make a better future for yourself.
 

Reading about other people's experiences coming out always makes me so glad I live where I do.

I wish I realized that I'm transgendered sooner, and regret not coming out faster when I did. I understand that the first isn't something I can really blame myself for, but if I did both sooner I'd have saved myself a huge amount of anxiety grief and worry, not to mention actually getting into counselling sooner, I could be so much further along in the transition ;_; (I am impatient as hell). I have no idea why I was so terrified of telling my friends and parents but it is the greatest relief getting it out. But oh god am I still scared shitless of telling my brother @_@. I'm looking at a future regret of not telling him right now, but that sure as hell isn't changing anytime soon.
 
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