Serious Relationships and Sex Ed Thread

So legality is the final stance on any issue for you? Regardless of culture? To be honest, a lot of laws are pretty arbitrary and terrible. Who says 18 is the legal age? What is the difference between 17 and 18? Why not make the legal age 19? Why should you have to be 21 to drink alcohol? Why not 20? Why not 50? To base your ethics solely on the laws of where you live seems like a feeble minded way to live.

On this particular issue, I'd go with legality. So 16.

And I could drink from 18 :p
 
In Hungary (where I lived most of my life), legal sex age is 16 and legal drinking age is 18. Not like anyone gives a crap, 13-14 are running around drinking and some of them even having sex.
 
Well this thread took a few unexpected left turns. I wasn't quite ready to ever try and understand why one would play gay chicken. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking the players of the game, it just doesn't make sense to me. If you're comfortable with your sexuality, why strive so hard to prove it?

In Hungary (where I lived most of my life), legal sex age is 16 and legal drinking age is 18. Not like anyone gives a crap, 13-14 are running around drinking and some of them even having sex.

Happens over here in the states too, all the time. When I was 13 I barely had masturbation figured out, and nowadays I wouldn't be that surprised to meet a preteen who can drink me under the table and has probably banged more people than I have. Creepy.

Soooo...back to relationships. What are peoples opinions on cheating?

Avoid it like the plague. It's a huge can of worms that just...doesn't go away.

If your partner cheated would it immediately mean an end to the relationship? Do circumstances / the extent matter? Have you cheated? Do you / would you feel bad about it?

I've been on both sides of this fence. Stepped out of my relationship only once. I was at a party, way more wasted than I should have been, and one thing led to another. I couldn't even really go through with it and I ended up bailing on the situation once I realized what I was doing. I buried that secret as deep as I could and it drove me insane for the longest time. And then later on down the road the girl I was with stepped out on me, and had the fortitude to tell me what she did. This resulted in almost a year of trying to make a relationship that was riddled with mistrust work. Not a healthy situation by any means. I'd never do it again. Wouldn't want to play that game with someone I call myself actually wanting to be with for some random sex.
 
A genuine query, a person under 16 having sex with a person under 16, does this mean they're raping each other?

Well, they're not raping each other that's for sure. I'm not actually sure about the consequences of this happening, it's certainly illegal. I think the parents could get convicted and could get a parenting order or whatever.
 
You know what? I dont really know why people were complaining at the beginning of this thread about it just being people posting their sexual experiences. It was far more interesting and entertaining to read peoples stories than "the discussion" that has replaced the stories as of late

Edit: actually its more like replaced by same question in different form. Question, answer, repeat.

Tell me a story vader
 
ok Nina this one is for you

The first time I had sex was at my friend's house for new years. Everyone had gone to bed and my gf at the time and I were in the basement on a futon. I was pretty good at fingering but oral I had no idea what I was doing. Then my penis entered her vagina and we humped for a while. I lasted 16 whole minutes (a record in this thread if I'm not mistaken) and then I jizzed with the force of 1000 white hot suns. Apparently we woke my friend's Dad up (2 floors up!) but everyone else was trashed and didn't hear a thing. He just gave me props the next time I saw him. And that concludes the great legend of ala's virginity.

tru story

in b4 cool story bro where da dragons at
 
man, girls losing their virginity is far less glamorous, or even fun at all. busting a hymen and bleeding, most of the time. though nowadays girls can be athletic/active enough to just bust their hymen doing random shit, and the first time isn't all that bad! lucky you, lacrosse girls!!

i lost my virginity when i was barely sweet and 16, and i'm pretty sure my 18yo boyfriend was timing it just so, because he was a smart and good boy. we had gotten through our dry humping phase, and probably like a week after my birthday we were in his bedroom and he pulled out a condom and i thought "this is it, this is what all the teen dramas on television wait for in a dimly lit room and intensely romantic music"

it was uncomfortable at first, and once he pushed and thrusted enough to bust my hymen, it was kind of okay? it was painful for a little bit, but certainly unlike anything i had ever felt before. he came, and i sort of waddled to the bathroom as quickly as i could since i was bleeding a bit and it was dripping down my legs. gee, romantic.

it's always better after the first time though! but our sex life was still pretty dull. we basically only had sex after school and before he went to work, or if we hung out on the weekends. no exploration or anything really, just missionary all the time. he didn't even enjoy blowjobs all that often, which i found kind of weird i guess, since that was something i wanted to learn about and get better at.

my first kiss was pretty cute actually! although also kind of inappropriate. i was 14 and had been flirting with some 18 year old dude i hung out with via a mutual friend when they all played dungeons and dragons together (god what was i doing) and i tagged along just for this guy. we were at a CHURCH retreat of all things one day, and as i walked him off to his car he kissed me while seated, then drove off. i walked back to the group with hearts twirling over my head.

all our subsequent kisses were terrible though. too much tongue, he smelled funny, just wasn't that great. but i was so flustered since he was an older dude and i had no idea what i was doing, so whatevs!!
 
my first time wasn't too typical

for one thing, i didn't come. apparently when you're on stimulants for a few years and masturbate super hard, it can make you less sensitive! so i stopped masturbating for a few weeks and that issue cleared right up! i now can come during vaginal sex about half the time. it's great because i can last 15-20 minutes before i go too soft or get exhausted.

my girlfriend was also a virgin and while it was literally too tight to do anything but her on top for a few minutes, there was no sign of a hymen at all. nothing broke, nothing bled, and we've never heard from it since. very weird! we took it hella slow and used a lot of lube and it worked out okay
 
Through all of my relationships and experiences, I have several stories.

My most memorable was of a girl I met my third year of college. I had just gotten over finding out my girlfriend was banned from the guy's dorm since she was caught giving a guy a blowjob in the bathroom. Wasn't me. (word to the wise, always lock the door) Met a girl through a friend in band. She was.... energetic. That's the word. After talking for a few hours, she asked me if I wanted to date. I was taken back since I only knew her for a small time. Reluctantly, I said yes. This immediately was followed by tons of rolling around in her bed and experimenting.

This was all fine and dandy, but I was not looking for anything serious. I just needed someone to connect a little with. I found out that she had a different idea about what relationships were like. Five days in, we were eating lunch together, and she asked me, "What will you wear to our wedding?"

..... O.O Abort abort abort. We talked for a while, and we got through that. I knew I had to get out of this, but she was all kinds of losing her mind. Long story short, I finally decided to break the news after two weeks. When we went to the park so I could break us up, she thought I was going to propose. She didn't it well. She tried to date someone I knew that went to the air force to get back at me. I ignored it all. About two months later, her mom came and removed her from college for not going to class, getting knocked up, and forgetting who the father was....

I dodged a huge bullet with that one.
 
you and me baby ain't nothing but mammals so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel

That song sucks dick, OT

You know what? I dont really know why people were complaining at the beginning of this thread about it just being people posting their sexual experiences. It was far more interesting and entertaining to read peoples stories than "the discussion" that has replaced the stories as of late

Edit: actually its more like replaced by same question in different form. Question, answer, repeat.

I would do it but being made fun of on IRC isn't cool

If you deal with BS irl why would you invite it on Smogon

That was more interesting to me too.

On topic, I don't think having sex/dating people that are two or more years younger than you is ever cool unless the people are in their 20's. It's easy to be taken advantage of or take advantage of someone, they're still developing and really prone to naive idealizations of life/romance.
 
I had so many false starts because we were trying without lube and she was nervous and so she was too tight.

But we kept trying, got some lube and eventually got it done.
 
this one time i banged my boyfriend outside in the parking lot of the pizza place he worked at while he had a break.

he almost got poison oak in his pelvic region, good times!!
 
I lasted 16 whole minutes (a record in this thread if I'm not mistaken)

I definitely destroy that record if that's for sex in general. If it's for the first time though, I only lasted about 7 minutes. After that, it usually depends on what shape I'm in. I last a minimum of 20-25 minutes from intercourse if I'm in season and working out. If I'm extremely out of shape, that time decreases drastically.

My record though for intercourse was about.....I think over an hour. the entire sex act was two hours long though, so I'm not sure.
 
You guys are all fucking lying, or goddamn cinderblock men.

My first time I lasted like 2 minutes TOPS - vaginas feel too good and my penis was too sensitive.
 
Well there was a time I couldn't cum cause I had the ol' whiskey dick and that lasted like 45 mins before we gave up. She was so ashame
 
You guys are all fucking lying, or goddamn cinderblock men.

My first time I lasted like 2 minutes TOPS - vaginas feel too good and my penis was too sensitive.

i have a feeling you're going to regret this post, but whilst i have you:

how long do you last now?
 
I think the general rule is your age divided by half, plus 7.

I have a friend who is 19 and dating someone 28 but he looks heaps young, like early 20s and I think it's perfectly fine. in the end why should we even care anyway, it's not like it affects us in any way!

as for me, I'm 19, single and never had a bf, and a virgin aw. but I don't really care for a relationship and perfectly content with single life cos like I'm totes not ready for a relationship, I still have a long way in finding who I am as a person and what makes me happy and also needing to learn how to be independent and stuff idk.
 
also I think making love is a beautiful thing and should be treated as something special (i don't beleive in the whole chasity until marriage or whatever tho) just i think it should be saved for someone you truly love; hook ups and one night stands will never ever be something I would consider. don't get me wrong though, all my friends are like sluts and I still love them and I think it's super cool that they're comfortable with their sexuality. i mean we're all different and whatever floats our boats yew.
 
on another note i find it totally hilarious how you guys actually pay attention and remember how long you last, especailly for a first time. i mean wouldn't it be super awkward and uncomfortable, yet exciting and idk it would make sense if how long you last is the last thing on your mind.

i mean you guys are all like I LASTED 2 MIN, I LASTED 7 MIN, I LASTED 16 MIN as if u timed it or something. is that actually normal omfg this is too funny

obv i don't have the experience myself but it sounds ridiculous and im sure u guys understand it if u look at ur posts from an outside perspective
 
You guys are all fucking lying, or goddamn cinderblock men.

My first time I lasted like 2 minutes TOPS - vaginas feel too good and my penis was too sensitive.

It's like a tolerance. If you have a lot of it, it takes longer to feel the same pleasure. It usually takes me a very long time to cum from anything other than regular sex now,and sometimes i dont even cum at all. And 7 minutes is average for the first time.

I don't time it, I just know when the last time I looked at a clock was. I'm also pretty good at timing things, so I usually have a good sense of how long something lasts, hence why I said around. I did time it the first time though, because I was nervous.

Edit: oh and one night stands are fun. Just don't do it if you're a virgin. If not, it's good practice.
 
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