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Does anybody else really want kids?

Do you want kids

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tbh I would like to have kids, but I fear I would be a terribad parent

I'd probly only be able to handle 1, but I wouldn't want that kid to be lonely

my crippling self-doubt (coupled with my loneliness) will prob keep me from having kids for a while
 
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Admitting all the stress and work they cause, I'm still convinced that nothing else in life can make you feel as happy or fulfilled. I'm 29 years old and I could die happy right now after the summer I spent camping and floating with my 6 year old.
 
Shiruba said:
5) Too many people in the world. Seriously. There are so many people out there starving and dying from hunger and malnutrition every day, and we use our likely shitty genes to make more fat first-world kids, especially when so many kids are in foster homes these days? Not to mention that we are seriously running out of energy sources, and the CO2 emissions are through the roof. The last thing I want to do is add to the problem. Seeing those kids with ribs and hipbones sticking out of them like they belong in a museum, or kids rotting in a foster home because nobody wants them [I've met some people from foster homes, they're no bueno, though it's anecdotal evidence, true]. I'd feel terrible making more kids when there's one in a foster home somewhere that just wants a good family more than anything. As for not appreciating you and wanting to find their "real" parents [imo the real parents are the ones that raised you, but I digress], well, like I said, teenagers hate you regardless. It just takes a different form in this case.
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Actually, first world countries generally have declining populations. Immigration prevents it from happening in the US, but it is a huge problem in Japan, and noticeable in European countries as well. Unless you have more than 2 kids, you aren't contributing to the population expansion. Even if you do, its not a big deal because having many kids isn't the norm in first world countries.
 
Soul Fly said:
this should really be in cong tbh.

Very Heartening to read some of the responses here.
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yeah I realized after a couple responses. I was/am pretty drunk though so I figured it's safer to shitpost in firebot if that's what's happening

but that's not what's happening. I'm sure someone will move it eventually


mattj said:
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Admitting all the stress and work they cause, I'm still convinced that nothing else in life can make you feel as happy or fulfilled. I'm 29 years old and I could die happy right now after the summer I spent camping and floating with my 6 year old.
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yeah see when you do stuff like this
fuck man
I can't have kids
but then you're all like "but bro look how rad kids are!!!"
and I'm like

fuck man
 
mattj she is so adorable! Im happy for you :)

Dont have any sisters (just 2 bros) so if I do ever do decide to have kids I hope its a daughter.
 
It is people like mattj that make me want kids more and more, seeing how amazing it could be to be a father, I am only 16 and my mind is subject to change but for a while my mind is set on me wanting to be a father, 3 or less, preferably boys, I fear I would spoil the girl to much.
 
I'm about to turn seventeen, but I've already decided that if I ever want to have a child, I want kid. Singular. Honestly, having more than one child looks to be a real hassle from my perspective, and having grown up as an only child I think the experience is pretty nice. Sure, sometimes I wish I had a sibling but overall I definitely liked being an only child, and I think I'd like raising only one child as a parent. That is, if I decide to have a child because I am definitely waiting until I'm married, settled, and financially stable before taking on that challenge. But again, only one would be preferable.

If my future wife is going to have twins hopefully one eats the other in the womb or something.
 
I definitely want like at least 3 kids; the relationship between me and my youngest sister (10 year difference) is really cool and honestly I feel like parenting would be by far the most rewarding way to spend that part of my life.

Also all of my offspring will have kickass names.
 
I sort of want kids. I mean on one hand, kids are cool and do adorable things from time to time. On the other hand, they are poop machines for two years or more, cost shitloads of money, you have no guaruntee you'll do a good job raising them or they will turn out to be useful members of society, they pretty much pause your life for 18 years while you make sure this living breathing mass survives until it's ready to be left on its own. You have to buy food or an extra mouth, you have to buy clothes for an extra body. It's so much responsibility.

I'm irresponsible. I want a kid to do dad things with. It seems like being a dad would be awesome and I already have so many dad jokes ready, but I don't think I want kids. I'll just be the fun uncle or something.

Also the world is kind of a shitty place right now, I don't think I want to be responsible for making something else have to live in it.
 
I'm torn over this. First off, who knows if I'll ever get the chance to have a child? I've never had the incentive or the courage to ever get romantically involved with a woman. I have made several female friends over the course of this year, but there's no way it's going further than that. Remaining a virgin for the rest of my life is a scarily real possibility. I still have the rest of my life ahead of me and everything, but right now the most likely chance I have of becoming a father is if I become a sperm donor. I definitely don't want to become a father that way though. I kinda want to have an emotional attachment to the mother.

As for wanting to have a child, I dunno. The responsibility of caring for and developing an entire human being scares me. If I make a mistake somewhere, that could potentially mess up someone for years to come. Also, I fucking hate babies. They poop all the time and their crying is the most infuriating sound in the world. I don't want to deal with that shit. It'll be great if I could skip ahead to when they're 5, but I can't do that. I'm stuck with an annoyance for several years. On the other hand, there's something very heartwarming about the concept of a child. They're essentially half-you, half-someone else. It's hard to not get emotionally attached to them, and I do like the idea of hanging out and bonding with a child of my own. But right now, it's just an uncertain pipe dream of mine.
 
anybody who wants crotchfruit or already has it is dumb in my book


the world is religious enough for there to be people willing to have 12 person families to keep the human race going
 
In a democracy, the only rational decision is to have as many kids as possible.

In seriousness though, I want kids. I want babies. Every time I see a couple with a young kid I'm like "THAT. I want that." I'm 19 atm so obviously not considering having kids just now, but after I graduate college I would be so down.
 
Having kids requires having a relationship.

I have no intentions of ever being in a relationship.

I have no intentions of having kids. QED.
 
Not me. I'd be a horrible parent, and even if I wasn't, I really don't like kids. However, I'm not one of those "childfree" idiots that hate kids and think no one should have them.
 
Ace Emerald said:
Actually, first world countries generally have declining populations. Immigration prevents it from happening in the US, but it is a huge problem in Japan, and noticeable in European countries as well. Unless you have more than 2 kids, you aren't contributing to the population expansion. Even if you do, its not a big deal because having many kids isn't the norm in first world countries.
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Yes, you are, actually. You're still contributing to using more food and more fossil fuels and energy than you would if you hadn't made the kid yourself. Particularly since first-world people tend to use more energy because using transportation, food, clothing, toys, other things that went through a lot of transportation, etc. I do understand that it makes some people fulfilled, though. Not me. Personally, I find romantic relationships >>>>> kids, though I've obviously never had the latter and thus can't relate, but jeez.

You can't pick your kid, they might turn out to be completely different from you, and I don't find that kids and parents become friends all that often. Idk. To me, nothing's better than teaming up with your best friend and facing the world together. imo, a relationship is not something you seek, it is something you find, innocuous at first, perhaps, but then it blossoms into something so much more amazing. There's that love and that sense of "yeah, you're great, we work together and we're awesome and we can accomplish anything when we focus," and just that idea that you've got so much in common and can do things that just make life so much fun - whatever interests that you happen to share [personally happened to score one that's interested in competitive Pokemon, yesssss], and working out any differences you have, which are hopefully few, as when you have to make a big effort for your relationship to "work," I feel, then it's not really great to continue. It's supposed to be fun and loving and awesome, not a chore - that's what school and work is for [and hopefully your work is fun, too, but you do need to pay the bills]. Most of us here are generally fortunate enough to not have our parents or anyone else pick who we marry, so we can marry whomever we want, and that's the coolest thing. Kids, yeah, they're transient, they leave eventually, and the freer spirits may never come back, but if you get a good person to marry or just be with if you don't want to actually marry them, I think that's what'll really stick to you and make life worth living. Because, really, what's life if you don't enjoy it, you know?
I didn't start to like the Lati twins because of some cheesy "soul twin" idea, nope.

Also sex. You can't have sex with your kids. Unless it's lolicon. Self-explanatory, there's a reason that there's a multi-billion dollar industry surrounding sex. It's fucking awesome. No pun intended. It's not like you need to be in love with someone to have sex with them - clearly, the youth of today are proving this more and more - but that doesn't mean it can't help you feel really close, particularly with that pillow talk and snugs that come after. Half of the babies in the world are born just 'cuz people make them by accident due to a rumbly in their tumbly that makes them want to go bumbly.
[sorry if this counts as derailing the thread]
 
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Shiruba said:
Yes, you are, actually. You're still contributing to using more food and more fossil fuels and energy than you would if you hadn't made the kid yourself. Particularly since first-world people tend to use more energy because using transportation, food, clothing, toys, other things that went through a lot of transportation, etc.
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If you're only replacing yourself and your partner, than the population hasn't expanded. Sure your child will use more resources than a third world child with 7 siblings will, but the population of the world hasn't changed because you'll die and this kid is your replacement. And not having kids is a huge problem in Japan which really needs to be fixed in the next 30 years. The answer to the population question isn't "Don't have kids" because that doesn't really help.
 
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