And lastly... this may not be the experience for everybody else, but I feel like I have to say it: college students in America are often troublingly infantile for their age. I don't know how it is in Europe, and I never went to college in India, but the general sense I get from most of my peers is a lack of seriousness and intellectual sincerity. There's people who are only getting degrees to make stacks of cash, which to each his own, but those of us who are here to legitimately deepen their understanding of their chosen fields and broaden their intellectual horizons are out of luck - especially in the humanities. It's no skin off my back if you want to use four years of English education to write a thesis on Harry Potter Fanfiction (a real example), but there are far too many people who have no conviction, no real intellectual ambition, too many people who "like to read" but "don't have the time these days", too many people who "love film" but think Wes Anderson is a good director, and so on -- it's all shallow and performative, and I don't understand why these guys are spending all this money to be here in the first place. I've yet to find a single kindred spirit at what is supposedly one of the best schools for the humanities in the nation, and the very best for Philosophy, and as a result I fear I'm losing out on the "networking" aspect of college - the age of the Great American University might just be over, or perhaps only open to Ivy Leaguers.
People are majoring in the humanities to make stacks of cash? Are you sure about that?
OK but seriously I just want to start off by saying that I'm not trying to demean the experience you've had and that I'm sorry you've experienced what you have in your college life. That said, I'm not sure your conclusion about American college students (this paragraph I'm quoting) and eaglehawk's is necessarily a fair one. I think your ideal of what a typical college student is not a very realistic one and your expectations of what college should be for students are not necessarily realistic either.
eaglehawk's position that there is an existing juvenile attitude at colleges due to the fact that more of the middle class enrolls in college (I'm not even sure that's necessarily true) seems well and good until you think about the fact that well...the students who are enrolling in college are in the age range 18-22. While I think what henry's saying could be worded better, his general sentiment is correct imo. Are we trying to say that college in the past was more studious, contained more students of the kind that NJ talks about? Maybe. Perhaps it was only the very best who were going to university, the ones NJ speaks of. Or perhaps it is about the same as it is now. Looking at the present, if eaglehawk's quote is right and truly 92% of Americans are getting college diplomas or whatever, then it shouldn't be all the at surprising that not everyone is an intense scholar as NJ feels they should be. the american population is wide and varied and not everyone is a genius. Of course students are going to "infantile"! Many are leaving their bubble of home for the first time and are having their first experience of the world. I think it is asking a lot to expect most students to be the same, and this is including the Ivies or whatever. I think you would be surprised to find that many people at so-called Ivies are not as smart as you might think them to be or that many only want to use the reputation of that school to find that high-paying job...you would probably be surprised to know that many people at ivies are more interested in learning if the class has a curve rather than truly learning the material...college doesn't last forever...
NJ, you seem to have a certain expectation of what a student should be like. And I don't want to take anything away from your opinion, that's fine, I respect that. But I get the sense that when you say people have "no conviction, no real intellectual ambition" you are saying that you have a very high expectation of what a student at a university should be and that not many qualify. And I think your idea of what college should be and what students should be is a strong bias that prevents you from seeing the reality that people have different reasons for going to college and perhaps they don't necessarily line up with your view of what college should be. Maybe partly that is because you haven't found the right people who share your views. And I think unquestionably you are in a difficult position given your status as an international and transfer student in finding those people. I totally empathize with that. But I feel as a result you are blaming your alienation on the fact that everyone else is too "infantile" and not up to your standard. And that's not really fair to everyone else.
Academic competition is meaningless. School is not a competition. There are many reasons as to why people attend university, some good, others maybe not so much. wanting to learn a lot is totally cool. same for just wanting to be able to find a good job. If you are truly interested in "legitimately deepen[ing] their understanding of their chosen fields and broaden their intellectual horizons" then you should pursue that. if other people don't share that view, then that's cool too, it shouldn't effect you at all. IMO I think you are making the mistake of taking your personal social experience in college so far and expecting that everyone should be conforming to that view. in reality, people go to college for many reasons and you will not agree with the choices that people make but ultimately that is unimportant. what is important is that you make the choices that allow you to experience college in the way you want to.