Four days ago Star Lord from marvel was confirmed bi in the comics which is admittedly not much and it is made worse since Chris Pratt dabbles with religious fundamentalism.
i wish all bisexual men a very pleasant evening
also has there been literally any bi man rep recently in any sort of media because i can't think of even one
Four days ago Star Lord from marvel was confirmed bi in the comics which is admittedly not much and it is made worse since Chris Pratt dabbles with religious fundamentalism.
- The state of being queer is not inherently political.
- I hinted at it in the last paragraph of my initial post, but, since it is being used as a talking point here, I won't mince my words. Feeling the way you feel doesn't mean you should be forcefully indoctrinated into any sort of political coalition. It is of course absolutely encouraged for people to get into politics, queer and otherwise, but this does not justify forcing it upon people.
i wish all bisexual men a very pleasant evening
also has there been literally any bi man rep recently in any sort of media because i can't think of even one
Are you in cahoots with that many aromantics and asexuals to where you're THAT offended by Crux's assertion that LGBT communities shouldn't center asexuals in their politicking? Or, maybe, just maybe, do you find the assertion that you're not queer just by virtue of being, and must politically act as such, at odds with your core identities?
Is the underlined portion meant to relate to asexuality specifically? If it is, I don't understand how "being" ace is any different than "being" gay or trans.
I am sorry your experiences with this world building and community have led you to believe as such, Valk. I hope you find space and community which leads you to believe more strongly about their enmeshment. Universalizing your own experiences for dramatic effect (in the weirdest place for a gotcha, too) however, seems to be the most self-aggrandizing action on this page.
Sometimes all it takes is hearing the term, and that's greatSorry to interrupt the discussion but I realized I never came to say hi to the LGBTQ+ gang here. I'm Nol, I'm aromantic and bisexual, and I'm very happy to see a thread for this kind of representation on Smogon!
Figuring out my place took me forever because I wasn't aware there was a word for aromantic until I took a Psychology course in my freshman year of college and we talked about sexuality and how romantic and sexual attraction aren't necessarily always the same, and my professor brought up aromanticism and what it means, and it all kind of clicked for me from there.
Glad to meet you all!
makes me all the more interested in what you would have to say or a fresh pov if you wanted to, but either way hi!I wanted to discuss stuff here but i realized that my pov is honestly irrelevant as I live in a country thats completly different from the us, both in lgbt politics and how lgbt groups discuss
I guess its just hard for me because, since my only contact with non-brazilian lgbt stuff is the internet, theres probably a lot of gaps on my knowledge on what groups from these countries belive is best for them.makes me all the more interested in what you would have to say or a fresh pov if you wanted to, but either way hi!
What's the reason that they don't like being associated with blue? Something with blue being a traditional color for baby boys or something?sure, i could come in and say, just a random example of course, that brazilian trans women usually hate being associated with blue, but it may be of little value if american trans women love the association and embrace it. who am I to say theyre wrong? I dont really want to step on toes with assumptions that probably arent correct, or arent very useful.
oh that was just a random thing i made up for the sake of argument. I dont think disliking blue is a big community thing, just a individual'sWhat's the reason that they don't like being associated with blue? Something with blue being a traditional color for baby boys or something?
So, I've been thinking this over the past night. Well, actually, that'd be a lie...this has been going on for years. But I think I'm approaching the light at the end of the tunnel.
I've always identified as Biromantic and transgender, but never really been sure about what my sexuality actually is. I kind of defaulted to bisexual considering my romantic orientation, but it doesn't seem to be the truth. To clarify, my sexuality hasn't played a role in my romantic orientation nor my gender identity. It's hard to explain, everyone has their own stories.
Ever since I experienced trauma at a young age I've never really...felt anything, sexually. Even with pornographic material, there's just nothing. All it does is drive me back into the rut. I've tried to get help for this, but mental health services in the UK are awful. Hell, they got the police involved when I first came out about it without my permission. I've since made leaps on my own in overcoming that trauma these past few years, but...
I've been beginning to think that this thing with my sexuality isn't just my trauma anymore. Surely there's something there? Am I asexual? Or is it my standards? Is the answer right in front of me?
I guess these aren't questions anyone but me can answer, considering how personal this is. Just needed to write this somewhere, I suppose? It's a weird situation and I'm not really sure where to go from here. I'll probably work it out as I go about my life, no need to force it.
I'm not entirely sure if this was directed at me, but I value this perspective. I've struggled with my situation for years, and opening it up to more thoughts and viewpoints will be helpful for figuring myself out. I defaulted to my trauma being a contributing factor, but as you're implying, I could be too reductionist in thinking. Never did I want to imply that what became of me is any kind of flaw, but in hindsight, I think that's actually where I'm failing the most, like I did a few years ago with everything else. Hell, even writing that sentence, you can probably see that problematic thinking.I'm really deeply sorry to read that these things happened to anyone and I hope you're healing. I just have to say that I do not agree with any suggestion that trauma and abuse change or influence your sexuality. I may have clashed with rosa a bit in past pages, but this is not really about that, and I would like to foreclose that reading of this post as much as possible. I just want to say for all the young folks questioning their sexuality: you are a lesbian even if you feel perfectly comfortable 'around' men, and you can be all manners of identities irrespective of your comfort levels around men. You can hate men and still be bisexual or straight or w.e, even while being a man yourself. While it is true that an individual's sexual identities are likely to change over time, it is also unfair to attribute anyone's sexuality to a traumatic experience, as though if that experience had not occured you would be straight. This is a typical conservative narrative of sexuality, which locates being gay as the pathological consequence of trauma, some type of flaw masking a person's innate heterosexuality.
I don't really think that karma was trying to say that abuse resulted in a change of sexuality. What I got from the post was more along the lines of karma being unsure whether responses and emotions experienced while experiencing things that should be arousing to bisexual people, or lack thereof, were because of actually being asexual or because the trauma was overriding what should normally be felt. You know, like when people can't get in a sexual mood because their mind is weighted down by feeling bad or remembering bad memories, but in this case it's the thing that's supposed to be arousing bringing bad memories. What seems to be the basis of the post is asking a question: are my reactions the reactions of an asexual person, or a defensive mechanism?I'm really deeply sorry to read that these things happened to anyone and I hope you're healing. I just have to say that I do not agree with any suggestion that trauma and abuse change or influence your sexuality. I may have clashed with rosa a bit in past pages, but this is not really about that, and I would like to foreclose that reading of this post as much as possible. I just want to say for all the young folks questioning their sexuality: you are a lesbian even if you feel perfectly comfortable 'around' men, and you can be all manners of identities irrespective of your comfort levels around men. You can hate men and still be bisexual or straight or w.e, even while being a man yourself. While it is true that an individual's sexual identities are likely to change over time, it is also unfair to attribute anyone's sexuality to a traumatic experience, as though if that experience had not occured you would be straight. This is a typical conservative narrative of sexuality, which locates being gay as the pathological consequence of trauma, some type of flaw masking a person's innate heterosexuality.
I understand the sentiment and thank you for it, but this isn't what I was saying...I said already that I have made massive leaps in getting over my trauma on my own, which included seeing other professionals. COVID-19 made it difficult, but I'm getting by. I still get traumatic flashbacks from time to time; those will never go away on the basis that I cannot reverse what happened to me.I don't really think that karma was trying to say that abuse resulted in a change of sexuality. What I got from the post was more along the lines of karma being unsure whether responses and emotions experienced while experiencing things that should be arousing to bisexual people, or lack thereof, were because of actually being asexual or because the trauma was overriding what should normally be felt. You know, like when people can't get in a sexual mood because their mind is weighted down by feeling bad or remembering bad memories, but in this case it's the thing that's supposed to be arousing bringing bad memories. What seems to be the basis of the post is asking a question: are my reactions the reactions of an asexual person, or a defensive mechanism?
Also karma, I would really like to tell you to try to talk to a professional about this, or since you said you already did, to try to find others until you can find one that works for you. Everybody here wants to help you, as well as give advice and insight, but the vast majority of us users on a public forum are still not educated/experienced/knowledgeable/acquainted with your personal situation enough to give you surefire advice about such difficult topics. I would also like to wish you luck in figuring it all out, and wish you all the best when you do![]()
Oh sorry, I did mean that maybe it would be wise to talk to a professional about the lack of sexual attraction, since they probably have experience talking about such things, and it might help to talk about such topics to people who have seen other people who are also were in a similar situation. It doesn't really have to be a long process, you can just go for a couple of sessions to bounce some ideas of off someone who is anonymous, educated on the topic, experienced and willing to give you the atmosphere to air your toughts on the subject and offer additional insight for some more introspection. Something like help for reaching the conclusion you would have probably reached by yourself, but easing the process along.I understand the sentiment and thank you for it, but this isn't what I was saying...I said already that I have made massive leaps in getting over my trauma on my own, which included seeing other professionals. COVID-19 made it difficult, but I'm getting by. I still get traumatic flashbacks from time to time; those will never go away on the basis that I cannot reverse what happened to me.
What I was saying is that I am not sure if my lack of sexual attraction is actually rooted in what happened to me. Myzozoa gave a sound response in that I may be thinking too reductionist when relating it to my trauma, and I believe that thinking without my trauma in mind will help me figure out if this is the case.