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Cancel cult said:
Anyways, Trump is banning trans people from military service. Now, the transphobia is disheartening, but lets look at it a different way:


TRANS PEOPLE CANT BE DRAFTED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now you don't have to die for a country that fucking hates you. They thought they were dealing a big blow to us, but guess what fuckers, you just saved us from the trenches of WWIII.
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And banned trans from public schools + access to healthcare for trans people till 19 through federal funds and also the 2 genders on passports and visas executive order, so basically the same gender "culture wars" the republicans have already done on state level for the last 6 years.
 
Faux Focalors Furina said:
With people mentioning trans and military service, any thoughts on the openly-trans character in Squid Game (Player 120 aka Hyun-Ju who was a former special forces soldier in the lore,) and despite the actor being biologically male. Do you think the character is a good representation for trans people out there?
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As a korean trans person I think it's pretty good representation and that it was handled pretty well, although this might just be my bias as squid game kinda fucking slaps
 
Faux Focalors Furina said:
With people mentioning trans and military service, any thoughts on the openly-trans character in Squid Game (Player 120 aka Hyun-Ju who was a former special forces soldier in the lore,) and despite the actor being biologically male. Do you think the character is a good representation for trans people out there?
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I have not watched it squid games, but seeing this video (Lily Simpson is normally quit critical in the way trans women are represented in media), I would say it was quite positive.
(Also sub to Lily, they make great content!)
 
RainebowValiant said:
As a korean trans person I think it's pretty good representation and that it was handled pretty well, although this might just be my bias as squid game kinda fucking slaps
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Oh! Didn't know you are korean lol
kjdaas said:
I have not watched it squid games, but seeing this video (Lily Simpson is normally quit critical in the way trans women are represented in media), I would say it was quite positive.
(Also sub to Lily, they make great content!)
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Glad to know there is some positive feedback from the representation! ^^
As I know it's hard to represent the trans community especially with some casualties they got (I.E MrBeasts former friend allegations and stuff)
 
It's really great to hear about people taking the first steps to being who they truly want to be. I truly admire those with the courage to do so. I'm going to be a bit too honest here myself as well, but I think some here may understand it a bit themselves so I feel like I can say it openly. I've always wanted to make the jump myself. Nothing ever felt right, I hated being born male and have dealt with a lot of mental issues over the years because of it. It just never sat right for me even growing up. Unfortunately, I don't have the same courage that others do. I've always been afraid of how I would look afterwards and that I won't fit the image I have in my mind, as vain as that sounds. I'm afraid people will look at me with disgust and that I'll be cut off by the few family members I have left. So here I am, basically in purgatory. I don't have it in me to become who I want to be, so I've basically just accepted that who I am now is who I will be forever, no matter how much I don't like it. That's all the more reason I find people that can do it admirable and braver than I could ever be, and I wish them all the happiness in the world.

tl;dr: I'm a wuss and trapped
 
Elyk said:
It's really great to hear about people taking the first steps to being who they truly want to be. I truly admire those with the courage to do so. I'm going to be a bit too honest here myself as well, but I think some here may understand it a bit themselves so I feel like I can say it openly. I've always wanted to make the jump myself. Nothing ever felt right, I hated being born male and have dealt with a lot of mental issues over the years because of it. It just never sat right for me even growing up. Unfortunately, I don't have the same courage that others do. I've always been afraid of how I would look afterwards and that I won't fit the image I have in my mind, as vain as that sounds. I'm afraid people will look at me with disgust and that I'll be cut off by the few family members I have left. So here I am, basically in purgatory. I don't have it in me to become who I want to be, so I've basically just accepted that who I am now is who I will be forever, no matter how much I don't like it. That's all the more reason I find people that can do it admirable and braver than I could ever be, and I wish them all the happiness in the world.

tl;dr: I'm a wuss and trapped
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I believe in you!

P.s I might lore drop my own experiences later
 
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HailFall said:
I really do not like the word queer as a blanket term. Not everyone is comfortable with that word, and in my opinion it's a slur. I think it's ok to call yourself queer if you want but I don't like forcing it on others. In my opinion queer is just as offensive as (BAN ME PLEASE) and I wouldnt call anyone queer unless you are sure they are okay with it.
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I know this was so long ago but I was just looking back at this and thinking, some people use gay as a blanket term, so…
 
Okay.

I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing! :tyke:
 
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Eledyr said:
Okay.

I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing! :tyke:
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I don’t really know what to say, I have wondered if I was aromantic before, it’s kinda weird for me, because I do want to date people, I’m just a gay guy in 8th grade so not very many options there, I don’t know how friendship distance equates to relationship distance and the idea that they equate might be because you are aromantic? I dunno
 
OldM8 said:
The term "Heteroflexible" is generally taken to mean people who are exclusively attracted to the "opposite" sex, but will have sex with people of other sexes purely for fun or other reasons. An astonishing number of people don't seem to understand the simple concept that you don't necessarily need to be physically attracted to someone in order to have or enjoy sex with them. A persons sexual orientation and sexual behaviour can be wildly different.

It never ceases to amaze me just how ignorant, dismissive and toxic members of the so-called TBGL+ community are towards those who don't fit neatly into their precious little pre-defined boxes. You'd think that after all they've experienced, they would be empathetic and supportive of alternative identities, but nope, here they are (such as the above posts from Oddish and Sandshrewz) trying to pick apart people who identify as a group that they simply don't understand. "You're not actually what you think you are, I'd know, cuz I'm Bi, and Bi is realz". Of course, they then procede to paint themselves as victims of "bi-erasure" (because as we all know, daring to identify as an even more invisible group is an assault on their own identity and position in the pecking order) completely oblivious to the fact that in reality, they are the ones who are bullying and seeking to assimilate the identities of others.
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I agree but also I don’t bc this post is kinda misleading how society pressures everyone to fit into the box. This is like the queer one where I feel people are being very nitpicky and feel a bit odd, like also I might be wrong in this situation (probably) but like you describe it as if heteroflexible is bisexual but heteroromantic and bisexual also means Biromantic, so are you saying that there is also biromantic and heterosexual, and so there is also biromantic and homosexual (this might be it) and every stuff. Because I like the idea of everyone having a romantic orientation and a sexual orientation but heteroflexible doesn’t seem like the word for that. I guess most of my beef is with the word, I don’t think it fits.
 
Eledyr said:
Okay.

I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing! :tyke:
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its not weird or bad that you're not rushing into a relationship. you wouldn't find the right partner if you did.
 
Wesleyy said:
its not weird or bad that you're not rushing into a relationship. you wouldn't find the right partner if you did.
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"Every journey has its final day healthy relationship takes time to build. Don't rush." - Zhongli
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On the recent discussion about trans and stuff. It's nice to know one of my favourite vtubers came out as trans and felt comfortable with it. :totodiLUL:
I don't know how to show a youtube video lol
(Albeit a bit late to discover their coming out but nice to know anyways :D)
 
Flufekinsdworb said:
Is this everywhere? I live in Seattle
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The thing you quoted is a bit of a generalization, but yes, this came out of a few executive orders that came out recently. It doesn’t necessarily ban trans people from public education, but it’s acting as a methodology of erasure. The executive order for the education boils down to a few major bullet points:
-removal of DEI programs and teachings in all government funded education programs
-students must not be addressed by their preferred pronouns/gender. They must be addressed with their legal name/sex.
-schools found to not be following the executive order have the potential to lose government funding.

Now, there are a few loopholes. For example, if a student has legally changed their gender/sex, then the school has no choice but to abide by their legal documentation. I’m sure that if they don’t, then that’s an immediate lawsuit. Though, not sure how easy it will be for legal documentation to change now.

The part about healthcare is true for government funded insurance (Medicare/Medicaid). They’re going to find some real fucking problems with this one though, as cis kids also need Hormone Therapy sometimes, which I believe that the executive order bans technically (some cis girls actually need some testosterone). If it doesn’t, then it’s blatant discriminative practices, and it will get shot down immediately.

I work in a private school in NYC, and we were told in a meeting that we’re not receiving any government funding, so we’re not ending any of our DEI initiatives or practices (thank fucking god because I would be quitting). We do have to be really careful about where we receive grants in the future, but that’s about it. I do know that a lot of public schools in the area are terrified that they have to end their practices and change their teaching because of this.

Also, why are you replying to posts from 2018? Lol
 
Style_Dota said:
The thing you quoted is a bit of a generalization, but yes, this came out of a few executive orders that came out recently. It doesn’t necessarily ban trans people from public education, but it’s acting as a methodology of erasure. The executive order for the education boils down to a few major bullet points:
-removal of DEI programs and teachings in all government funded education programs
-students must not be addressed by their preferred pronouns/gender. They must be addressed with their legal name/sex.
-schools found to not be following the executive order have the potential to lose government funding.

Now, there are a few loopholes. For example, if a student has legally changed their gender/sex, then the school has no choice but to abide by their legal documentation. I’m sure that if they don’t, then that’s an immediate lawsuit. Though, not sure how easy it will be for legal documentation to change now.

The part about healthcare is true for government funded insurance (Medicare/Medicaid). They’re going to find some real fucking problems with this one though, as cis kids also need Hormone Therapy sometimes, which I believe that the executive order bans technically (some cis girls actually need some testosterone). If it doesn’t, then it’s blatant discriminative practices, and it will get shot down immediately.

I work in a private school in NYC, and we were told in a meeting that we’re not receiving any government funding, so we’re not ending any of our DEI initiatives or practices (thank fucking god because I would be quitting). We do have to be really careful about where we receive grants in the future, but that’s about it. I do know that a lot of public schools in the area are terrified that they have to end their practices and change their teaching because of this.
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Christ, this is already going to be a mess. It's good that your school isn't ending the practices, and I hope other places hold the line and don't bow to this nonsensical attempt to destroy the government. I plan on teaching myself after I finish school (though, preferably out of the country) and I know for a fact that I will not hide reality from the kids I may interact with in my student teaching phase. I also would never mis-gender a student either. Might get in trouble, but I sure as hell won't let them dictate what kids need to learn about the world. They can eat me.

On a similar note, waking up every morning to some new asinine things happening with Musk or Trump is oh so fun. I haven't been this stressed in years, I've barely slept for the past three days. I feel like my head is going to explode. Four (or, god forbid, more) years of this is going to kill my mental health more than ever, jesus. All I can say to everyone is stay strong and don't let them deny your existence. The LGBTQ+ community is a hell of a lot stronger than these fools think it is, and it's not going to break because of some rich drug addict with a room temperature IQ and his orange hand puppet.
 
i accidentally asked someone out this friday but she still thinks im biromantic (she's on free trial of ren) so she thought it was a date. being gay is wild bc why is my rizz so good when im not trying but when it comes to men (my taste is trash) i have horrible rizz. i literally tried sliding into an actor's dms with "do you do weddings? like as the groom" and HE DIDNT REPLY like how do you say no to that line ever (and before any of you say shit i want you to know i have a positive sliding into dms success rate my lines actually work sometimes)

on another note men are so confusing bc how are you gonna message me for hrs everyday and then ghost me for like a week. like how are you gonna keep repeating this cycle PLEASE decide what you want
 
Ren said:
i accidentally asked someone out this friday but she still thinks im biromantic (she's on free trial of ren) so she thought it was a date. being gay is wild bc why is my rizz so good when im not trying but when it comes to men (my taste is trash) i have horrible rizz. i literally tried sliding into an actor's dms with "do you do weddings? like as the groom" and HE DIDNT REPLY like how do you say no to that line ever (and before any of you say shit i want you to know i have a positive sliding into dms success rate my lines actually work sometimes)

on another note men are so confusing bc how are you gonna message me for hrs everyday and then ghost me for like a week. like how are you gonna keep repeating this cycle PLEASE decide what you want
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gimme some lines im trynna up my succes rate
 
Wesleyy said:
gimme some lines im trynna up my succes rate
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you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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ye i give up
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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ohhhh so thats the origin of the construction worker line. i always knew it as "cause you're fucking BUILDING"
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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> "guys why do i have no rizz"

> "YOU SMELL LIKE BURNT PLASTIC"
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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Good to know that it doesn’t matter if you’re gay, straight, lesbian, bi, pan, etc, there’s always the constant fact that Pokemon players have L rizz
 
I regret legally changing my sex.

"I regret ..." sometimes feels like a dirty phrase in this community. Like somehow it has awful implications to say you think you made the wrong choice about something. That I'm supposed to stay chin-up defiant, unwavering, saying I'd do it all over again, or else I'm letting Them win or just self-hating.

But I do. This sucks. I'm in the most terrifying, paralyzing, uncertain position imaginable. I don't regret transitioning, I don't regret changing my name. I regret that a single meaningless letter change on a handful of documents has ultimately become a major sacrifice. I'm stuck in this terrible paralytic state where all I want out of my life is freedom and mobility, and I'm restricted in ways that I think we don't yet fully understand. I'm worried I won't be able to reenter the country if I leave because I'll be told my passport is somehow invalid. I'm worried that getting a job or insurance and the like will be even harder than it already is. I'm worried that I can rarely choose the closet for personal safety anymore.

I don't like it, I don't like the freedom it has stolen from me, I hate all the uncertainty, and I hate how I prioritized meaningless external validation over the practical needs of my life. I don't know what the hell I was thinking.
 
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