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Eledyr said:
Okay.

I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing! :tyke:
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its not weird or bad that you're not rushing into a relationship. you wouldn't find the right partner if you did.
 
Wesleyy said:
its not weird or bad that you're not rushing into a relationship. you wouldn't find the right partner if you did.
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"Every journey has its final day healthy relationship takes time to build. Don't rush." - Zhongli
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On the recent discussion about trans and stuff. It's nice to know one of my favourite vtubers came out as trans and felt comfortable with it. :totodiLUL:
I don't know how to show a youtube video lol
(Albeit a bit late to discover their coming out but nice to know anyways :D)
 
Flufekinsdworb said:
Is this everywhere? I live in Seattle
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The thing you quoted is a bit of a generalization, but yes, this came out of a few executive orders that came out recently. It doesn’t necessarily ban trans people from public education, but it’s acting as a methodology of erasure. The executive order for the education boils down to a few major bullet points:
-removal of DEI programs and teachings in all government funded education programs
-students must not be addressed by their preferred pronouns/gender. They must be addressed with their legal name/sex.
-schools found to not be following the executive order have the potential to lose government funding.

Now, there are a few loopholes. For example, if a student has legally changed their gender/sex, then the school has no choice but to abide by their legal documentation. I’m sure that if they don’t, then that’s an immediate lawsuit. Though, not sure how easy it will be for legal documentation to change now.

The part about healthcare is true for government funded insurance (Medicare/Medicaid). They’re going to find some real fucking problems with this one though, as cis kids also need Hormone Therapy sometimes, which I believe that the executive order bans technically (some cis girls actually need some testosterone). If it doesn’t, then it’s blatant discriminative practices, and it will get shot down immediately.

I work in a private school in NYC, and we were told in a meeting that we’re not receiving any government funding, so we’re not ending any of our DEI initiatives or practices (thank fucking god because I would be quitting). We do have to be really careful about where we receive grants in the future, but that’s about it. I do know that a lot of public schools in the area are terrified that they have to end their practices and change their teaching because of this.

Also, why are you replying to posts from 2018? Lol
 
Style_Dota said:
The thing you quoted is a bit of a generalization, but yes, this came out of a few executive orders that came out recently. It doesn’t necessarily ban trans people from public education, but it’s acting as a methodology of erasure. The executive order for the education boils down to a few major bullet points:
-removal of DEI programs and teachings in all government funded education programs
-students must not be addressed by their preferred pronouns/gender. They must be addressed with their legal name/sex.
-schools found to not be following the executive order have the potential to lose government funding.

Now, there are a few loopholes. For example, if a student has legally changed their gender/sex, then the school has no choice but to abide by their legal documentation. I’m sure that if they don’t, then that’s an immediate lawsuit. Though, not sure how easy it will be for legal documentation to change now.

The part about healthcare is true for government funded insurance (Medicare/Medicaid). They’re going to find some real fucking problems with this one though, as cis kids also need Hormone Therapy sometimes, which I believe that the executive order bans technically (some cis girls actually need some testosterone). If it doesn’t, then it’s blatant discriminative practices, and it will get shot down immediately.

I work in a private school in NYC, and we were told in a meeting that we’re not receiving any government funding, so we’re not ending any of our DEI initiatives or practices (thank fucking god because I would be quitting). We do have to be really careful about where we receive grants in the future, but that’s about it. I do know that a lot of public schools in the area are terrified that they have to end their practices and change their teaching because of this.
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Christ, this is already going to be a mess. It's good that your school isn't ending the practices, and I hope other places hold the line and don't bow to this nonsensical attempt to destroy the government. I plan on teaching myself after I finish school (though, preferably out of the country) and I know for a fact that I will not hide reality from the kids I may interact with in my student teaching phase. I also would never mis-gender a student either. Might get in trouble, but I sure as hell won't let them dictate what kids need to learn about the world. They can eat me.

On a similar note, waking up every morning to some new asinine things happening with Musk or Trump is oh so fun. I haven't been this stressed in years, I've barely slept for the past three days. I feel like my head is going to explode. Four (or, god forbid, more) years of this is going to kill my mental health more than ever, jesus. All I can say to everyone is stay strong and don't let them deny your existence. The LGBTQ+ community is a hell of a lot stronger than these fools think it is, and it's not going to break because of some rich drug addict with a room temperature IQ and his orange hand puppet.
 
i accidentally asked someone out this friday but she still thinks im biromantic (she's on free trial of ren) so she thought it was a date. being gay is wild bc why is my rizz so good when im not trying but when it comes to men (my taste is trash) i have horrible rizz. i literally tried sliding into an actor's dms with "do you do weddings? like as the groom" and HE DIDNT REPLY like how do you say no to that line ever (and before any of you say shit i want you to know i have a positive sliding into dms success rate my lines actually work sometimes)

on another note men are so confusing bc how are you gonna message me for hrs everyday and then ghost me for like a week. like how are you gonna keep repeating this cycle PLEASE decide what you want
 
Ren said:
i accidentally asked someone out this friday but she still thinks im biromantic (she's on free trial of ren) so she thought it was a date. being gay is wild bc why is my rizz so good when im not trying but when it comes to men (my taste is trash) i have horrible rizz. i literally tried sliding into an actor's dms with "do you do weddings? like as the groom" and HE DIDNT REPLY like how do you say no to that line ever (and before any of you say shit i want you to know i have a positive sliding into dms success rate my lines actually work sometimes)

on another note men are so confusing bc how are you gonna message me for hrs everyday and then ghost me for like a week. like how are you gonna keep repeating this cycle PLEASE decide what you want
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gimme some lines im trynna up my succes rate
 
Wesleyy said:
gimme some lines im trynna up my succes rate
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you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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ye i give up
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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ohhhh so thats the origin of the construction worker line. i always knew it as "cause you're fucking BUILDING"
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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> "guys why do i have no rizz"

> "YOU SMELL LIKE BURNT PLASTIC"
 
Ren said:
you should sell hot dogs cause you sure know how to make a wiener stand
do you do weddings? like as a groom/bride/spouse
the billboard charts must be wrong because you're not #1 on the hottest singles list
were you born in a pile of sugar or did life just make you sweeter?
are you a whale? because i need you whale-y badly
you smell like burnt plastic, but luckily for you i'm into recycling
do you run track? because i relay want you
hey, are you the current? because i think i'm being pulled towards you
what's the difference between my heart and a ferrari? a ferrari doesn't belong to you. yet, anyway
i think my heart thinks it's a phone because it's calling you over and over again.
are you a construction worker? because i can see us building a solid foundation
(act really paranoid and when they ask why) i'm trying to make sure no cops come and get me for stealing you. masterpieces are supposed to be in museums
what's the difference between me and medicine? i can make you feel better whether you're sick or not
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Good to know that it doesn’t matter if you’re gay, straight, lesbian, bi, pan, etc, there’s always the constant fact that Pokemon players have L rizz
 
I regret legally changing my sex.

"I regret ..." sometimes feels like a dirty phrase in this community. Like somehow it has awful implications to say you think you made the wrong choice about something. That I'm supposed to stay chin-up defiant, unwavering, saying I'd do it all over again, or else I'm letting Them win or just self-hating.

But I do. This sucks. I'm in the most terrifying, paralyzing, uncertain position imaginable. I don't regret transitioning, I don't regret changing my name. I regret that a single meaningless letter change on a handful of documents has ultimately become a major sacrifice. I'm stuck in this terrible paralytic state where all I want out of my life is freedom and mobility, and I'm restricted in ways that I think we don't yet fully understand. I'm worried I won't be able to reenter the country if I leave because I'll be told my passport is somehow invalid. I'm worried that getting a job or insurance and the like will be even harder than it already is. I'm worried that I can rarely choose the closet for personal safety anymore.

I don't like it, I don't like the freedom it has stolen from me, I hate all the uncertainty, and I hate how I prioritized meaningless external validation over the practical needs of my life. I don't know what the hell I was thinking.
 
Robyn said:
I regret legally changing my sex.

"I regret ..." sometimes feels like a dirty phrase in this community. Like somehow it has awful implications to say you think you made the wrong choice about something. That I'm supposed to stay chin-up defiant, unwavering, saying I'd do it all over again, or else I'm letting Them win or just self-hating.

But I do. This sucks. I'm in the most terrifying, paralyzing, uncertain position imaginable. I don't regret transitioning, I don't regret changing my name. I regret that a single meaningless letter change on a handful of documents has ultimately become a major sacrifice. I'm stuck in this terrible paralytic state where all I want out of my life is freedom and mobility, and I'm restricted in ways that I think we don't yet fully understand. I'm worried I won't be able to reenter the country if I leave because I'll be told my passport is somehow invalid. I'm worried that getting a job or insurance and the like will be even harder than it already is. I'm worried that I can rarely choose the closet for personal safety anymore.

I don't like it, I don't like the freedom it has stolen from me, I hate all the uncertainty, and I hate how I prioritized meaningless external validation over the practical needs of my life. I don't know what the hell I was thinking.
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So a few thoughts: to me it's not really worth it if you're fem passing/presenting, because like, having a fem presentation but a masc legal designation can cause a lot of problems in the other direction in terms of how people interface with you (and keep in mind, the gender designation is really only an issue if you're interfacing with the federal government, though I don't know what state you're in, and as far as we know, they cannot revoke or invalidate *existing* passports). I will grant though, and I didn't really think of this because I would never, ever consider returning to the closet, even at gunpoint, that changing your legal designation makes the closet much harder, because you can always change your presentation.

I understand where you're coming from, I really do, though, it's really hard and scary for all of us and I hate that we're having to deal with this.
 
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