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My apologies, I didn't mean to get overly memey in a serious thread. I will refrain from doing so in the future.
In more serious news, Costco not bending the knee is nice to see. This entire attack on DEI federally and elsewhere is absolute insanity. People still don't realize or understand how important diverse perspectives in the workplace having is, instead they're trying to get rid of it entirely. Having a mixture of people from different racial, gender, and LGBTQ+ backgrounds is insanely helpful. It allows one to understand things differently with the added points of view. In the end, the culture war nonsense drags on, and I'm afraid for how much worse it will become. It's only been a week, but man it feels like it's been years already. They're targeting all federal employees in roles they see as "DEI" as well. What a farce.
hiiiii so i finally had it in me to see an informed consent clinic that specialises in gender affiming care, and in about a months time theyre ready to prescribe me estrogen and spiro. to say i expected them to be ready this fast is an undertsatement, some of my friends here waited 6 months to get e, i know many in other countries that are on years long waitlists, so i just couldnt believe it at all when they said they would be ready after they sent me for bloodwork. really makes me wish i had done it much earlier but im at least glad i told myself to do it sooner than later. if you have access to these informed consent places and theyre accepting clients, do it now. just do it please for ur own health.
now thing for me is im also gonna travel back home for about a month and thought it would be easier on me to start after i get back given all the traveling and family there. my home country is generally more tolerant about this but the families definitely arent esp if it happens to be "one of them", but regardless, i cant wait for whatll be in the future for me, even though im aware this is kind of an awkward time to say this considering the extent the usa is trying to erase our existence. for my friends there or in any unaccepting places, youll all be okay youll all get thru this, ily all cant wait for u to be able to express ur true selves <3
now thing for me is im also gonna travel back home for about a month and thought it would be easier on me to start after i get back given all the traveling and family there. my home country is generally more tolerant about this but the families definitely arent esp if it happens to be "one of them", but regardless, i cant wait for whatll be in the future for me, even though im aware this is kind of an awkward time to say this considering the extent the usa is trying to erase our existence. for my friends there or in any unaccepting places, youll all be okay youll all get thru this, ily all cant wait for u to be able to express ur true selves <3
chat i finally came out to my parents as trans (theyre supportive but its still hard to get that out (esp in the current state of the US))
In yet another fairly major move out of Thailand, HRT is now free for all trans citizens as part of the country's healthcare system. As things continue to move in the wrong direction over here it's nice to see somewhere on the planet where LGBT rights are being advanced to a fairly major degree
to everyone in this thread getting on hrt (congrats!!!) or who will be starting at a later date im going to give you the two pieces of advice you need more than anything these next few months. no this has nothing to do with the current landscape this is literally just what your doctors will forget to tell you. this specific post is targeted to the trans girlies
you need to drink a dumb amount of water. Like, your water intake is probably going to increase at least 50%. Most common testosterone inhibitors are also diuretics, which means you WILL have to pee a lot and you WILL be dehydrated if you don't drink enough water. Take it from me, these first 3 months on spiro have been hell between the muscle cramps, headaches, and general fatigue brought on by dehydration. get into the habit of drinking lots of water.
the most important one that i have seen many of my friends regret: FAT REDISTRIBUTION REQUIRES CALORIES. you will be tempted to minimize your caloric intake and pray for your body to just redistribute the existing fat on your bones. This is not nearly as effective! Your diet should change for the better, not for the worse! Obviously your mileage will vary, and it is definitely possible to get fat redistribution you're satisfied with even at a large caloric deficit, but it is significantly easier to get fat where you want it if you eat a healthy diet!
big gimmicky out stay safe girlies my leg hurts from my cramp last night
you need to drink a dumb amount of water. Like, your water intake is probably going to increase at least 50%. Most common testosterone inhibitors are also diuretics, which means you WILL have to pee a lot and you WILL be dehydrated if you don't drink enough water. Take it from me, these first 3 months on spiro have been hell between the muscle cramps, headaches, and general fatigue brought on by dehydration. get into the habit of drinking lots of water.
the most important one that i have seen many of my friends regret: FAT REDISTRIBUTION REQUIRES CALORIES. you will be tempted to minimize your caloric intake and pray for your body to just redistribute the existing fat on your bones. This is not nearly as effective! Your diet should change for the better, not for the worse! Obviously your mileage will vary, and it is definitely possible to get fat redistribution you're satisfied with even at a large caloric deficit, but it is significantly easier to get fat where you want it if you eat a healthy diet!
big gimmicky out stay safe girlies my leg hurts from my cramp last night
no i will take HRT and eat shake shack and be a fat fuck
good advice though i dont drink enough water so when i get on HRT ill make sure to try
does it have to be specifically water? asking for my fellow milk guzzlers.
milk is not a substitute for water
Adding a little bit more on to this: fat redistribution predominantly works for new fat after a certain period of time being on HRT (about a year). The best thing you can actually do is weight cycle. Try to lose weight then gain a bit of weight then repeat the process. This is the best known methodology from all of my friends that have transitioned.
Personal note, I’m switching to mono therapy today! So excited to be getting off of spiro
Anyways, Trump is banning trans people from military service. Now, the transphobia is disheartening, but lets look at it a different way:
TRANS PEOPLE CANT BE DRAFTED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now you don't have to die for a country that fucking hates you. They thought they were dealing a big blow to us, but guess what fuckers, you just saved us from the trenches of WWIII.
TRANS PEOPLE CANT BE DRAFTED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now you don't have to die for a country that fucking hates you. They thought they were dealing a big blow to us, but guess what fuckers, you just saved us from the trenches of WWIII.
trump isnt limiting trans rights, he’s actively enabling them without realisinng. sucks for the trans people who want to br drafted tho
With people mentioning trans and military service, any thoughts on the openly-trans character in Squid Game (Player 120 aka Hyun-Ju who was a former special forces soldier in the lore,) and despite the actor being biologically male. Do you think the character is a good representation for trans people out there?
And banned trans from public schools + access to healthcare for trans people till 19 through federal funds and also the 2 genders on passports and visas executive order, so basically the same gender "culture wars" the republicans have already done on state level for the last 6 years.
As a korean trans person I think it's pretty good representation and that it was handled pretty well, although this might just be my bias as squid game kinda fucking slaps
I have not watched it squid games, but seeing this video (Lily Simpson is normally quit critical in the way trans women are represented in media), I would say it was quite positive.
Oh! Didn't know you are korean lol
Glad to know there is some positive feedback from the representation! ^^
As I know it's hard to represent the trans community especially with some casualties they got (I.E MrBeasts former friend allegations and stuff)
It's really great to hear about people taking the first steps to being who they truly want to be. I truly admire those with the courage to do so. I'm going to be a bit too honest here myself as well, but I think some here may understand it a bit themselves so I feel like I can say it openly. I've always wanted to make the jump myself. Nothing ever felt right, I hated being born male and have dealt with a lot of mental issues over the years because of it. It just never sat right for me even growing up. Unfortunately, I don't have the same courage that others do. I've always been afraid of how I would look afterwards and that I won't fit the image I have in my mind, as vain as that sounds. I'm afraid people will look at me with disgust and that I'll be cut off by the few family members I have left. So here I am, basically in purgatory. I don't have it in me to become who I want to be, so I've basically just accepted that who I am now is who I will be forever, no matter how much I don't like it. That's all the more reason I find people that can do it admirable and braver than I could ever be, and I wish them all the happiness in the world.
tl;dr: I'm a wuss and trapped
tl;dr: I'm a wuss and trapped
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I know this was so long ago but I was just looking back at this and thinking, some people use gay as a blanket term, so…
Okay.
I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing!
I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing!
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I don’t really know what to say, I have wondered if I was aromantic before, it’s kinda weird for me, because I do want to date people, I’m just a gay guy in 8th grade so not very many options there, I don’t know how friendship distance equates to relationship distance and the idea that they equate might be because you are aromantic? I dunnoOkay.
I'm 26 now, and it's the moment where I start to question myself about my life. See, whether it be subconscious or not, I always found it difficult to create proximity with people. Even just making friends was always a difficult task for me, especially when I was younger (it became easier with time though). What does it have to do with this thread? Well, as far as I can tell, I've never really be looking actively to have a girlfriend. I'm heterosexual and I'm deeply convinced in that. No, the issue is that, I don't really succeed in finding anyone that can "connect" with me, if that make sense. And... I'm very fine with that! I don't find any urge to get into a relationship, I could definitely see myself staying single for a long time, without any regrets. I don't really know how to interpret that, and what my question is: am I distant with people because I had social anxiety before, or... Am I aromantic? I'm kind of confused. Not that I'm bothered by it though, as mentioned I'm perfectly fine with that and would like to know if some other people have experimented the same thing!
I agree but also I don’t bc this post is kinda misleading how society pressures everyone to fit into the box. This is like the queer one where I feel people are being very nitpicky and feel a bit odd, like also I might be wrong in this situation (probably) but like you describe it as if heteroflexible is bisexual but heteroromantic and bisexual also means Biromantic, so are you saying that there is also biromantic and heterosexual, and so there is also biromantic and homosexual (this might be it) and every stuff. Because I like the idea of everyone having a romantic orientation and a sexual orientation but heteroflexible doesn’t seem like the word for that. I guess most of my beef is with the word, I don’t think it fits.