I completely agree with the sentiment of never giving up. They'll try their hardest to push people down, to make them feel like they don't matter or shouldn't exist, but they are dead wrong if they think they can trample over people's rights without a fight. Whoever you are, you, as a person, matter. No matter what anyone says. The LGBTQ+ community will always overcome the bigotry just as they always have. That, for me at least, is the true idea of the American dream. Where people can be themselves and live their lives how they truly want to without judgement. I and I'm sure countless others would die fighting for that dream and for the rights that people deserve. History will not look back kindly on these people and their attempt strip rights from others, that's for damn sure.
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Update 3/3: It started (BBC)
Alright if you're from Thailand go at it
I know it is frustrating to hear so many unfortunate news, but please know that your identities are always valid no matter what they say. The world has never been kind to the LGBTQIA+ community, but that hasn't stopped us from shining bright in our lives. In fact, we celebrate pride because we are proud of ourselves even in the toughest situations. Even when the world goes against us, we still have ourselves to hold onto, and this is no time to give up. If they want to revert our progress, it's fine. One day, we shall rewrite history and be known as the brave soldiers who never surrender. We are not losing this one.
Thank you togekiss. Can you Air Slash paraflinch homophobia to death
Hold on, let me find my Choice Scarf.
My apologies, I didn't mean to get overly memey in a serious thread. I will refrain from doing so in the future.
In more serious news, Costco not bending the knee is nice to see. This entire attack on DEI federally and elsewhere is absolute insanity. People still don't realize or understand how important diverse perspectives in the workplace having is, instead they're trying to get rid of it entirely. Having a mixture of people from different racial, gender, and LGBTQ+ backgrounds is insanely helpful. It allows one to understand things differently with the added points of view. In the end, the culture war nonsense drags on, and I'm afraid for how much worse it will become. It's only been a week, but man it feels like it's been years already. They're targeting all federal employees in roles they see as "DEI" as well. What a farce.
hiiiii so i finally had it in me to see an informed consent clinic that specialises in gender affiming care, and in about a months time theyre ready to prescribe me estrogen and spiro. to say i expected them to be ready this fast is an undertsatement, some of my friends here waited 6 months to get e, i know many in other countries that are on years long waitlists, so i just couldnt believe it at all when they said they would be ready after they sent me for bloodwork. really makes me wish i had done it much earlier but im at least glad i told myself to do it sooner than later. if you have access to these informed consent places and theyre accepting clients, do it now. just do it please for ur own health.
now thing for me is im also gonna travel back home for about a month and thought it would be easier on me to start after i get back given all the traveling and family there. my home country is generally more tolerant about this but the families definitely arent esp if it happens to be "one of them", but regardless, i cant wait for whatll be in the future for me, even though im aware this is kind of an awkward time to say this considering the extent the usa is trying to erase our existence. for my friends there or in any unaccepting places, youll all be okay youll all get thru this, ily all cant wait for u to be able to express ur true selves <3
now thing for me is im also gonna travel back home for about a month and thought it would be easier on me to start after i get back given all the traveling and family there. my home country is generally more tolerant about this but the families definitely arent esp if it happens to be "one of them", but regardless, i cant wait for whatll be in the future for me, even though im aware this is kind of an awkward time to say this considering the extent the usa is trying to erase our existence. for my friends there or in any unaccepting places, youll all be okay youll all get thru this, ily all cant wait for u to be able to express ur true selves <3
chat i finally came out to my parents as trans (theyre supportive but its still hard to get that out (esp in the current state of the US))
Alright, im gonna do an absolute trauma dump here. Ive never been this public on the internet so here goes.
Warning: themes of self harm and suicide
Whilst my story had a happy ending, most dont and not everyone is as fortunate as me. If you see homophobia occuring, report it to someone you trust, or stand up for the person by messaging them privately or speaking to them privately. As small as that act may seem, it could save someones life.
Warning: themes of self harm and suicide
Ever since i was a child, maybe since i was 11, i always knew i wasnt interested in women. For a few years maybe up until i was 13 which is when i moved, i thought i was asexual. I grew up in a family where on the outside my parents and siblings seemed like they were perfect, and always seemed to support LGBTQIA+ people. This was untrue, this was just to seem oh so amazing. (I came from a lower-middle class background in austria, so i wasnt rich and my family felt obsessed with social stasus and fitting in with the norm). I moved to the UK at 13 and was enlisted in a UK unisex school. The school was catholic so very hostile to anyone who wasnt straight, or on the binary gender spectrum. being asexual made me super super shy and reserved, and i essentially had no social life. One of my 2 friends at the time leaked the fact that i was asexual around the year and faced relentless bullying and started to self-harm myself. During that period, i realised that i didnt have no sexual attraction. I thought i was trans. Coming to this realisation took me a long time since i was always taught trans = evil and i would be bullied beyond belief if people knew that. During that time period i tried to make my voice higher pitch (puberty did not help with that) and i started to grow out my hair. When i was 15/16 i realised that i wasnt trans. I just tried to normalise in my head that i was attracted to men. I realised i was gay, and at that point, i told all my friends. How naïve that was. The same thing happened again. I became a shell of myself, i became depressed. All the while my brother had a girlfriend, mentioning how i was such a loser for not having one etc. At this point my parents could tell something was up and started to put me into therapy. Therapy helped me so much and i realised i was definitely gay. Within a year i had a boyfriend. I always had the issue of my parents finding out and he used it against me. I realised i was being abused and spiraled into depression and self-harm again. I felt lime my whole life was groundhog day. When i was 16/17, i went through so much emotional turmoil and trauma with my best friend dying + my breakup with my toxic ex bf, and the constant pressure from my family. All i did was study. Looking back that was the best thing i possibly could have done. One i was finally freed to go to university and left everyone from school behind, my life was back on track. I had started to get over the grief of the loss of my best friend, i moved away from my family and i had a stable boyfriend who i loved. In university the homophobia stayed at a constantly awful level. I couldnt take it. I wanted to kill myself due to the hate i was experiencing. Now lets go back to modern day and see how things have changed. Im still experiencing a great deal of homophobia online and on campus, but its not as bad. Im still with my boyfriend who i still love, and the situation at home is improving. A cousin came out as trans, and my parents and siblings tolerated it. Im still absolutely not comfortable to come out to them, but i feel safer. I feel like ive been released from the chains of homophobia, i dont let it effect me anymore. Everything is falling into place.
Whilst my story had a happy ending, most dont and not everyone is as fortunate as me. If you see homophobia occuring, report it to someone you trust, or stand up for the person by messaging them privately or speaking to them privately. As small as that act may seem, it could save someones life.
In yet another fairly major move out of Thailand, HRT is now free for all trans citizens as part of the country's healthcare system. As things continue to move in the wrong direction over here it's nice to see somewhere on the planet where LGBT rights are being advanced to a fairly major degree
to everyone in this thread getting on hrt (congrats!!!) or who will be starting at a later date im going to give you the two pieces of advice you need more than anything these next few months. no this has nothing to do with the current landscape this is literally just what your doctors will forget to tell you. this specific post is targeted to the trans girlies
you need to drink a dumb amount of water. Like, your water intake is probably going to increase at least 50%. Most common testosterone inhibitors are also diuretics, which means you WILL have to pee a lot and you WILL be dehydrated if you don't drink enough water. Take it from me, these first 3 months on spiro have been hell between the muscle cramps, headaches, and general fatigue brought on by dehydration. get into the habit of drinking lots of water.
the most important one that i have seen many of my friends regret: FAT REDISTRIBUTION REQUIRES CALORIES. you will be tempted to minimize your caloric intake and pray for your body to just redistribute the existing fat on your bones. This is not nearly as effective! Your diet should change for the better, not for the worse! Obviously your mileage will vary, and it is definitely possible to get fat redistribution you're satisfied with even at a large caloric deficit, but it is significantly easier to get fat where you want it if you eat a healthy diet!
big gimmicky out stay safe girlies my leg hurts from my cramp last night
you need to drink a dumb amount of water. Like, your water intake is probably going to increase at least 50%. Most common testosterone inhibitors are also diuretics, which means you WILL have to pee a lot and you WILL be dehydrated if you don't drink enough water. Take it from me, these first 3 months on spiro have been hell between the muscle cramps, headaches, and general fatigue brought on by dehydration. get into the habit of drinking lots of water.
the most important one that i have seen many of my friends regret: FAT REDISTRIBUTION REQUIRES CALORIES. you will be tempted to minimize your caloric intake and pray for your body to just redistribute the existing fat on your bones. This is not nearly as effective! Your diet should change for the better, not for the worse! Obviously your mileage will vary, and it is definitely possible to get fat redistribution you're satisfied with even at a large caloric deficit, but it is significantly easier to get fat where you want it if you eat a healthy diet!
big gimmicky out stay safe girlies my leg hurts from my cramp last night
no i will take HRT and eat shake shack and be a fat fuck
good advice though i dont drink enough water so when i get on HRT ill make sure to try
does it have to be specifically water? asking for my fellow milk guzzlers.
milk is not a substitute for water
Adding a little bit more on to this: fat redistribution predominantly works for new fat after a certain period of time being on HRT (about a year). The best thing you can actually do is weight cycle. Try to lose weight then gain a bit of weight then repeat the process. This is the best known methodology from all of my friends that have transitioned.
Personal note, I’m switching to mono therapy today! So excited to be getting off of spiro
Anyways, Trump is banning trans people from military service. Now, the transphobia is disheartening, but lets look at it a different way:
TRANS PEOPLE CANT BE DRAFTED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now you don't have to die for a country that fucking hates you. They thought they were dealing a big blow to us, but guess what fuckers, you just saved us from the trenches of WWIII.
TRANS PEOPLE CANT BE DRAFTED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now you don't have to die for a country that fucking hates you. They thought they were dealing a big blow to us, but guess what fuckers, you just saved us from the trenches of WWIII.
trump isnt limiting trans rights, he’s actively enabling them without realisinng. sucks for the trans people who want to br drafted tho
With people mentioning trans and military service, any thoughts on the openly-trans character in Squid Game (Player 120 aka Hyun-Ju who was a former special forces soldier in the lore,) and despite the actor being biologically male. Do you think the character is a good representation for trans people out there?