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and indeed it now turns out she isn't great at the whole "standing up for trans rights" thing either. wonderful.
turns out the best way to get people to (temporarily) accept a trans person is if you let them walk all over you
Due to The Horrors of the political climate I've been thinking about if I'll ever get to transition or not, and at times it gets pretty scary. The news of yesterday hasn't helped :/
I decided to drop my pronouns from my Discord account because I don't know if it's ever going to happen (and The Horrors admittedly have me spooked), and I got immediately misgendered (though not blaming them, they wouldn't know) like 3 times and it made me sad.
I don't really have a point to this post, just kinda a vent; apologies.
I decided to drop my pronouns from my Discord account because I don't know if it's ever going to happen (and The Horrors admittedly have me spooked), and I got immediately misgendered (though not blaming them, they wouldn't know) like 3 times and it made me sad.
I don't really have a point to this post, just kinda a vent; apologies.
Hey so I’m kinda just gonna rant for a second. It’s so unbelievably exhausting having to constantly interact in spaces that do not want me there. People consistently say hurtful, inconsiderate, and willfully ignorant comments then when I defend myself it’s a problem.
People will actively participate in bigotry in so many different ways then play victim about it. It’s always I’m doing too much, or I’m not handling stuff that right way when I explicitly get thrown under the bus. This policing of how I’m supposed to interact with bigotry is so tiring.
People always treat me differently because I’m very vocal about standing for myself and people of other communities whether or not they look like me/or apart of the same group. It feels very isolating when you’re the only one in the room who will say something against toxic behavior. Lately it feels things get exponentially worse and frankly I’m at a limit. Trying to exist independently of the bigot’s gaze feels more impossible than ever. Micro aggressions feel like the norm interaction making me simply not want to interact with anyone out of fear that they’ll just say something to demean, undercut, and, or backhanded. Rant over. Thanks.
People will actively participate in bigotry in so many different ways then play victim about it. It’s always I’m doing too much, or I’m not handling stuff that right way when I explicitly get thrown under the bus. This policing of how I’m supposed to interact with bigotry is so tiring.
People always treat me differently because I’m very vocal about standing for myself and people of other communities whether or not they look like me/or apart of the same group. It feels very isolating when you’re the only one in the room who will say something against toxic behavior. Lately it feels things get exponentially worse and frankly I’m at a limit. Trying to exist independently of the bigot’s gaze feels more impossible than ever. Micro aggressions feel like the norm interaction making me simply not want to interact with anyone out of fear that they’ll just say something to demean, undercut, and, or backhanded. Rant over. Thanks.
It took me (way) too long to realize that you dont have to change your personality to match your prefferred gender and that people will actually support you even if you are a masculine transfem or a femminine transmasc. And the people who wont, wouldnt have anyways.
I used to just suppress my entire personality exclusively to ask more femminine and thats just not good. Im glad i realized this even if it took forever. ^-^ (short message but like ion got much to say :P)
I used to just suppress my entire personality exclusively to ask more femminine and thats just not good. Im glad i realized this even if it took forever. ^-^ (short message but like ion got much to say :P)
I feel incredibly conflicted at the moment but I feel that I'm making steps in (somewhat) of a right direction. To be honest, I've never really thought about my sex as it never mattered to me for a long long time. It was just "that one thing" that I never really thought about and even when I tried to last year, I didn't feel like I got anywhere (though partially maybe because my mind was tackling so many other important things at the time that I deemed more important).
I feel like I made somewhat good progress recently though. I feel comfortable with going by she/her pronouns and I've asked some places I'm in to call me by said pronouns. I would certainly be an understatement to say that I'm slightly conflicted (That doesn't even begin to scratch the surface...) but no matter what the end result of this might be I'm happy that not only have I made this (to me) important step and that the people who are around me are incredibly supportive. Or rather that those are online. I live in a... relatively transphobic town so. That probably won't be happening irl. For a while.
I feel like I made somewhat good progress recently though. I feel comfortable with going by she/her pronouns and I've asked some places I'm in to call me by said pronouns. I would certainly be an understatement to say that I'm slightly conflicted (That doesn't even begin to scratch the surface...) but no matter what the end result of this might be I'm happy that not only have I made this (to me) important step and that the people who are around me are incredibly supportive. Or rather that those are online. I live in a... relatively transphobic town so. That probably won't be happening irl. For a while.
Oh well, Harris lost... I'm like a month late for this but I can see how this is very much a very bad thing.
I shall wish all of you guys and gals good luck for the next 4 (Or maybe less if sth happens to trump)years.
(Btw, I heard that trump hosted gay weddings on his house, but I might be blind again. but if this is true, that would be pretty ironic considering his transphobic voters.)
I shall wish all of you guys and gals good luck for the next 4 (Or maybe less if sth happens to trump)years.
(Btw, I heard that trump hosted gay weddings on his house, but I might be blind again. but if this is true, that would be pretty ironic considering his transphobic voters.)
This bitch finally got her name and sex legally changed! Through the roof! I’m in the process of changing all of my documents; did social security and my license yesterday, finishing my paperwork for my birth certificate today.
Getting my BA done in 12 days, and in the process of scheduling my ffs consultation.
I’ve been putting my big girl pants on and really been pushing myself the last couple of days. Proud of how much I’ve done
Getting my BA done in 12 days, and in the process of scheduling my ffs consultation.
I’ve been putting my big girl pants on and really been pushing myself the last couple of days. Proud of how much I’ve done
Great job!!! I did this about two weeks ago too :)
Will hopefully have my new ID sometime next week
Very excited to finally be able to show it and not have to cringe !
Alright, I know we are all feeling down due to... recent events, but lets focus on some good news. I know it is a little late, but I still see people denying it, so allow me to point out the fact that WE HAVE OUR FIRST OFFICIAL LGBTQ+ MAJOR CHARACTER IN POKEMON.
First of all, she is incredibly trans coded. I mean her ace is Sylveon for crying out loud. In addition, shes gay as hell. Now, I have seen some people say that her interaction with Carmine was not inherently gay. And I am inclined to agree. A woman calling another woman pretty is not inherently gay. However, as for the interaction with the players mom:
There is no heterosexual explanation for this. We win these.
First of all, she is incredibly trans coded. I mean her ace is Sylveon for crying out loud. In addition, shes gay as hell. Now, I have seen some people say that her interaction with Carmine was not inherently gay. And I am inclined to agree. A woman calling another woman pretty is not inherently gay. However, as for the interaction with the players mom:
There is no heterosexual explanation for this. We win these.
I said official. Don't worry, we all know the truth, Game Freak is just too much of a coward to say it.
james walked so penny could flirt with femme NPCs in public
Imagine telling this girl 11/2 years in the future she would get her dream come true and get estrogen.
Anyways, i finally obtained hrt please clap
holy shit, congradulations! (was going to insert clapping emojis, but they won't work for some reason)
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Congrats, we welcome you into our domain ^^
Congrats girl, it’s fucking magical
This is a bit of a mopey, poorly put together collection of vent bullet points that don’t make much sense but I feel like I want to go through with it anyway.
-I am so pissed that there seems to be no casual way to be non binary like being a man or a woman, like I really would like to identify that way but I couldn’t without flipping my life around
-The fact I may live the rest of my life as a woman is making me sick to my stomach
- I still feel like I’m completely crazy, mentally ill, and making this up whole gender thing up since I learnt about transgender and nonbinary labels early in my life and I don’t know if I’m just copying/pretending for some skewed-up reason
- I used to be very confident in my label as a lesbian but tbh I just feel gross calling myself that now or more specifically I wouldn’t describe my attraction to women as lesbian but not straight either
- I don’t really “feel” like a woman but what does that even mean
- I don’t even know if I have or ever had attraction to ANYONE anymore or if I’m just a huge fan of telling crude jokes to make other people react
-I just wanna be happy and stop having outbursts towards my friends
-I’m such an asshole
-I am so pissed that there seems to be no casual way to be non binary like being a man or a woman, like I really would like to identify that way but I couldn’t without flipping my life around
-The fact I may live the rest of my life as a woman is making me sick to my stomach
- I still feel like I’m completely crazy, mentally ill, and making this up whole gender thing up since I learnt about transgender and nonbinary labels early in my life and I don’t know if I’m just copying/pretending for some skewed-up reason
- I used to be very confident in my label as a lesbian but tbh I just feel gross calling myself that now or more specifically I wouldn’t describe my attraction to women as lesbian but not straight either
- I don’t really “feel” like a woman but what does that even mean
- I don’t even know if I have or ever had attraction to ANYONE anymore or if I’m just a huge fan of telling crude jokes to make other people react
-I just wanna be happy and stop having outbursts towards my friends
-I’m such an asshole
Just as a follow up to this, currently recovering from my surgery! If anyone has chest dysphoria, if you have the resources to get this, you 100% should. I woke up from my anesthesia, looked down and instantly started crying from happiness.
The first few days SUCK though, and you literally can’t do anything, so make sure that you have a good support system to help you.
Hey, I wanted to ask a question that I had after argument I had.
So how I understand it is that gender identity isn't defined by body or mannerisms or how people perceive you, but gender goes hand in hand with your expression, by the way you present yourself, via how you look, the clothes you wear, and how you act. Like you can be AMAB and be super femme, or more masc leaning, but still be transfem, without taking HRT or bottom surgery, and be happy with a good support group. But dysphoria is a real thing that can be plaguing even if you know your gender identity, as is gender envy which makes you want to look and possess a body that you don't currently have but would really like to. Even if you pass to yourself and to others, what pushes one to pursue HRT and/or bottom surgery to align with a gender identity they are comfortable with ? Basically I'm trying to say is : why change your body to conform to your gender identity/expression, even if it leaves you better off, when your gender shouldn't be shackled by your body ?
also merry chrimmas and happy holidays with the loved ones who support you :)
So how I understand it is that gender identity isn't defined by body or mannerisms or how people perceive you, but gender goes hand in hand with your expression, by the way you present yourself, via how you look, the clothes you wear, and how you act. Like you can be AMAB and be super femme, or more masc leaning, but still be transfem, without taking HRT or bottom surgery, and be happy with a good support group. But dysphoria is a real thing that can be plaguing even if you know your gender identity, as is gender envy which makes you want to look and possess a body that you don't currently have but would really like to. Even if you pass to yourself and to others, what pushes one to pursue HRT and/or bottom surgery to align with a gender identity they are comfortable with ? Basically I'm trying to say is : why change your body to conform to your gender identity/expression, even if it leaves you better off, when your gender shouldn't be shackled by your body ?
trans person : gender is beyond the body, I am free not having to consider myself AGAB, my body will not affect how I perceive myself, I am content.
also trans person : bro the gender envy is real they're so goals I WANT TO HAVE THAT BODY SO BAAAAAAAAD
also trans person : bro the gender envy is real they're so goals I WANT TO HAVE THAT BODY SO BAAAAAAAAD
free from body changing one's perception, yet yearning to change one's body to enhance one's perception LMAO
also merry chrimmas and happy holidays with the loved ones who support you :)
Hey, I wanted to ask a question that I had after argument I had.
So how I understand it is that gender identity isn't defined by body or mannerisms or how people perceive you, but gender goes hand in hand with your expression, by the way you present yourself, via how you look, the clothes you wear, and how you act. Like you can be AMAB and be super femme, or more masc leaning, but still be transfem, without taking HRT or bottom surgery, and be happy with a good support group. But dysphoria is a real thing that can be plaguing even if you know your gender identity, as is gender envy which makes you want to look and possess a body that you don't currently have but would really like to. Even if you pass to yourself and to others, what pushes one to pursue HRT and/or bottom surgery to align with a gender identity they are comfortable with ? Basically I'm trying to say is : why change your body to conform to your gender identity/expression, even if it leaves you better off, when your gender shouldn't be shackled by your body ?
trans person : gender is beyond the body, I am free not having to consider myself AGAB, my body will not affect how I perceive myself, I am content.
also trans person : bro the gender envy is real they're so goals I WANT TO HAVE THAT BODY SO BAAAAAAAAD
free from body changing one's perception, yet yearning to change one's body to enhance one's perception LMAO
also merry chrimmas and happy holidays with the loved ones who support you :)
because im happier with this body than i would be without it
An incongruince between ones gender and ones sex at birth can be distressing (dysphoric). The process of medical transition brings ones body more in line with their gender.Hey, I wanted to ask a question that I had after argument I had.
So how I understand it is that gender identity isn't defined by body or mannerisms or how people perceive you, but gender goes hand in hand with your expression, by the way you present yourself, via how you look, the clothes you wear, and how you act. Like you can be AMAB and be super femme, or more masc leaning, but still be transfem, without taking HRT or bottom surgery, and be happy with a good support group. But dysphoria is a real thing that can be plaguing even if you know your gender identity, as is gender envy which makes you want to look and possess a body that you don't currently have but would really like to. Even if you pass to yourself and to others, what pushes one to pursue HRT and/or bottom surgery to align with a gender identity they are comfortable with ? Basically I'm trying to say is : why change your body to conform to your gender identity/expression, even if it leaves you better off, when your gender shouldn't be shackled by your body ?
trans person : gender is beyond the body, I am free not having to consider myself AGAB, my body will not affect how I perceive myself, I am content.
also trans person : bro the gender envy is real they're so goals I WANT TO HAVE THAT BODY SO BAAAAAAAAD
free from body changing one's perception, yet yearning to change one's body to enhance one's perception LMAO
also merry chrimmas and happy holidays with the loved ones who support you :)
The blanket statement that gender should not be determined by our bodies alone is one that is true, but we live in a world where socially speaking our bodies determine how our gender is perceived by others and even ourselves. If taking HRT or undergoing the process of medical transition improves our perception (passing) in society, and/or improves our own dysphoria of ourselves, then it is a good step to do so.
The "Basically" spoiler is just not accurate - its a false perception and homogonizes a lot of trans people. I don't know anyone who considers both of those two statements simultaneously. "Gender is beyond the body" DOES NOT EQUIVOCATE to "my body will not affect how I perceive myself". Thats a giant leap.
(Speaking as someone who is very much what folks would call a "binary" and maybe "passing" trans woman, I could give a fuck about the fluidity or ambiguousness of gender. Im a woman plain and simple and generally want to have as close to a cis woman's body as I can.)
"Basically": Gender identity is not physical, its mental. When sex and gender identity don't align, that can be very negative for trans people. HRT/Transition fixes this.