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hiiiiiii im rin and ive been slowly trying to come out over uh, the past while lol. i think most of this site knows im trans but there were other parts that i was hesitant to come out to. id try to like hint on it with my discord bio more and more or server names but it was only a few days ago that i changed my discord name to my name and i put pronouns in my bio after much encouragement from friends, some on this site some not on this site.
it was rly scary still and tbh people are slow to catch on but still, it feels so nice to really show who i am rather than hide it for like two-three plus years and i cant thank all my friends enough for it, ily all so much <3. honestly it was so unhealthy to be closeted for this long because of how id get frustrated yet could not fault anyone for any deadnaming or anything so i wish i listened to some of my friends sooner rather than get scared over whatever irrelevants finding out or smth lol.

i also decided i want to transition irl but i have no idea when i would be able to start. i expect to go back home around october for world cup along with other personal shit happening before then so these are not rly ideal times. i also know like 0 people irl who would have any knowledge on who to contact or what to do here to get hrt or how long the wait is so it feels like im on my own for now ;; . but i dont want to worry about that rn because i will get there eventually somehow i know it ><
 
NaboGaming said:
my parents, after around a year of being out, have started gendering me correctly!! this is huge and im so happy :3
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(okay if this looks sarcastic i am so sorry this is meant to be silly and genuine, that's a huge progress leap :D)
 
NaboGaming said:
my parents, after around a year of being out, have started gendering me correctly!! this is huge and im so happy :3
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Congratulations! That's got to feel absolutely wonderful to have that type of validation, I'm really happy for you!

Mova said:
my parents refuse to correct themselves still after seven years
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How do you like to be addressed pronoun-wise? Obviously none of our validations can compare to the validation that being gendered correctly by a parent can give, but it might help you feel a bit better if you talk about who you are here!
 
Morkal said:
Congratulations! That's got to feel absolutely wonderful to have that type of validation, I'm really happy for you!



How do you like to be addressed pronoun-wise? Obviously none of our validations can compare to the validation that being gendered correctly by a parent can give, but it might help you feel a bit better if you talk about who you are here!
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I use they/them first, but she/her is sometimes acceptable. I only use he/him in front of my parents because I know they'll get it wrong even after I ran away from home for a month, about two years ago. They didn't learn shit.
 
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I keep hearing about this, and I was even banned from a Discord server I frequented for even bringing it up, but is this new wave of gender reassignment on youth a good thing? I see stories occasionally pop up about it going pretty poorly, and it makes me kind of question it. I don't strictly think that the surgery in general is a bad thing, opposite really, but it makes me question whether or not it should be done so young
 
Bug Maniac Aydon said:
I keep hearing about this, and I was even banned from a Discord server I frequented for even bringing it up, but is this new wave of gender reassignment on youth a good thing? I see stories occasionally pop up about it going pretty poorly, and it makes me kind of question it. I don't strictly think that the surgery in general is a bad thing, opposite really, but it makes me question whether or not it should be done so young
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1) how young do you think it's done? if it's before late teenage years or so that's bunk, at most you get on puberty blockers (basically holding off on puberty for a few years) and continue at a later point (even this isn't necessarily the easiest)

2) regardless of the age, are you familiar with just how ludicrously hard (and in the US, expensive) these gender affirming surgeries are? good article covering it. You basically have to go through the nine circles of hell

3) detransitioners/people who regret it are very rare


it's also worth noting that such rhetoric is consistently used by conservative media that often in the same breath is arguing for us to be legislated out of existence, and such things are part of the greater hysteria that encourages hate crimes vs trans people
 
Bug Maniac Aydon said:
I keep hearing about this, and I was even banned from a Discord server I frequented for even bringing it up, but is this new wave of gender reassignment on youth a good thing? I see stories occasionally pop up about it going pretty poorly, and it makes me kind of question it. I don't strictly think that the surgery in general is a bad thing, opposite really, but it makes me question whether or not it should be done so young
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There’s not 1 regret rate there’s 2 and the second is trans people who regret not transitioning earlier. Our current model (while needing improvement) has brought better results then a more restrictive one.
 
so my mother has sent me off on a little bit of a gay quest

figure out on what it truly means to be a woman and I earn her complete support (not that she doesn't already; she just can't fully commit because i'm a little out-of-the-know and whatnot.)

and admittedly i might need help with that i have zero idea on where to start
 
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Hi there, I have some unresolved coming out of the closet, so that ends today, because I have an important announcement

it was a ordinary day in the middle of March, except for some reason the temperature decided that it didn't want to warm up, and ended up creating one of the most elongated winters in my memory, I was just walking home after getting out of school, and I had an interesting thought pop up into my head, what is my gender expression, now for a while, I just accepted the fact that I'm Male due to that being the gender I was assigned at birth, but on this day, it was peculiar, since this one made me truly question what my gender is, I have almost no connection to masculinity due to the fact that I love not conforming, and also, to me, caring about how masculine I am is just straight up pointless, and also my gender played almost no role for a great amount of my life, as I didn't think of myself as a dude, I just thought of myself, as Joey, aka myself, and nothing else, I realized that I feel much more interested in my gender expression now than I did back then, in other words, I realized right then and there that I'm Non-Binary
 
Ur local kangaroo said:
Hi there, I have some unresolved coming out of the closet, so that ends today, because I have an important announcement

it was a ordinary day in the middle of March, except for some reason the temperature decided that it didn't want to warm up, and ended up creating one of the most elongated winters in my memory, I was just walking home after getting out of school, and I had an interesting thought pop up into my head, what is my gender expression, now for a while, I just accepted the fact that I'm Male due to that being the gender I was assigned at birth, but on this day, it was peculiar, since this one made me truly question what my gender is, I have almost no connection to masculinity due to the fact that I love not conforming, and also, to me, caring about how masculine I am is just straight up pointless, and also my gender played almost no role for a great amount of my life, as I didn't think of myself as a dude, I just thought of myself, as Joey, aka myself, and nothing else, I realized that I feel much more interested in my gender expression now than I did back then, in other words, I realized right then and there that I'm Non-Binary
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also, i figured i might as well ask something thats been bothering me for a while. what are the deal with pronouns. dont get me wrong, i get the dysphoria thing, but i dont know why people are fixed on pronouns. this is a genuine question, and i am not projecting any hate towards any individual, but i dont even get why pronouns exist in the first place, let alone why people care about them. i really really really dont want anyone to think this is hate. i dont think anyone has the right to tell you how you should present yourself, but i just want to understand this better
 
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They exist as a function of language so that you don't need to say people's names all the time - "I met John at John's house and John told me that John would be picking up John's daughter from school today" just sounds awkward. Their existence being gendered (he/she/they most commonly) means that people are going to want to others to use the pronouns that match the gender they identify with. Choosing what pronouns you like is not really all that different from picking a username, it's just a way of saying that I want people to call me X. Don't overthink it too hard.
 
Lily said:
They exist as a function of language so that you don't need to say people's names all the time - "I met John at John's house and John told me that John would be picking up John's daughter from school today" just sounds awkward. Their existence being gendered (he/she/they most commonly) means that people are going to want to others to use the pronouns that match the gender they identify with. Choosing what pronouns you like is not really all that different from picking a username, it's just a way of saying that I want people to call me X. Don't overthink it too hard.
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thx, but not overthinking things is something i am incapable of.
 
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