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pets passing away
- Thread starter Shiv
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sorry to hear about that
I've had a dog once, for about 5 years, one day, my dad decided to take my dog for a walk, and he decided not to put a leash on him, probably the worst thing he did in that day, the dog was usually obedient and would come back when you called him, but that day, he just snapped and ran away, later that night I was told by my neighbor he was ran over by a car, I don't know if it's was true or not, but the fact is, he's gone now. I dealt with it in a very mature way, I didn't even shed a tear for the dog, but I was really saddened, it'll get easier as time passes.
I've had a dog once, for about 5 years, one day, my dad decided to take my dog for a walk, and he decided not to put a leash on him, probably the worst thing he did in that day, the dog was usually obedient and would come back when you called him, but that day, he just snapped and ran away, later that night I was told by my neighbor he was ran over by a car, I don't know if it's was true or not, but the fact is, he's gone now. I dealt with it in a very mature way, I didn't even shed a tear for the dog, but I was really saddened, it'll get easier as time passes.
Well, a few years later, I got a new dog, and if you're planning on getting one, you'll just have an instinct to be a lot more careful on what you feed it, how you treat it, etc. I know this from experience.
I don't trust anyone except my neighbour to take care of my dog when I'm traveling, but I'm sort of drifting away from the topic.
The sad part about this is that, recalling that moment, is depressing now, I guess I hadn't really thought about it very well.
I don't trust anyone except my neighbour to take care of my dog when I'm traveling, but I'm sort of drifting away from the topic.
The sad part about this is that, recalling that moment, is depressing now, I guess I hadn't really thought about it very well.
My poodle who I've had since I was five died last summer. It wasn't of old age or anything, she could have lived another 8 yeards or so. She learned how to get out of our back yard and she loved to run around in the wilderness and chase birds. I saw her get out one morning and I put her back in the house and yelled at her not to do it again. Then I went to Wal-Mart with my mom. When I came home, my Uncle said she was gone, and he heard her squeel like she got attacked by a Coyote or wolf or something. It was the saddest day of my life, even sadder than when my grandparents died. I asked how she got outside in the first place, and my mom said she let her out in the back yard, not knowing she could get out. I know it's not really her fault, but I still cant forgive my mom for killing my little Chloe.
Advice? Don't be afraid to cry. Crying lets your emotions come free. If you bottle it up you'll always be sad about it. Im not sure if I should give advice though, I just waited out the depression which lasted for months.
Advice? Don't be afraid to cry. Crying lets your emotions come free. If you bottle it up you'll always be sad about it. Im not sure if I should give advice though, I just waited out the depression which lasted for months.
Is it the first time you've dealt with something like a death in the family? If it is, then that's probably why it feels so weird. The first time you have to deal with this is definitely weird, because like, y'know, one day your dog is there and then the next day, you're like omg...they're not here anymore...
Maybe making some kind of dedication for your doggy with your family, with all the good memories you all had together could help. It doesn't have to be something complicated, just maybe look through all your photos of your dog, or make a slide show or something.
Maybe making some kind of dedication for your doggy with your family, with all the good memories you all had together could help. It doesn't have to be something complicated, just maybe look through all your photos of your dog, or make a slide show or something.
Shiv, my dog of 7 years passed away from renal failure too. (12th Aug 06). I was really distraught by the entire ordeal and well... I guess after some time, it gets less hard. It's nearing one year tho and so I'm slightly on the down side these few weeks. Talking helps. And having someone who had a similar experience to talk to will definitely help a lot. That said, if you need someone to talk to and all, drop me a PM.
very weirdly enough, I have had many many cats, probably more a dozen and I only recall one of them dying.
We always gave them to someone at some point, lost them by moving or we have them already.
and I still have my dog :)
I'd feel pretty awful if one of my cats died though and I would be devastated if my dog did
We always gave them to someone at some point, lost them by moving or we have them already.
and I still have my dog :)
I'd feel pretty awful if one of my cats died though and I would be devastated if my dog did
In February of 2006, my parents put our family dog down. He was 13 years old, and I had just moved back into their house. I cried a lot that day, and that's basically the only time I've truly cried since my grandfather died in 2001. A pet really does become part of the family, almost like another child. It will be a long time before you can walk in the house and not expect your dog to be there... but it will happen, with time. I still miss my dog, and on occasion when I visit my parents house I'll look at his old spot near the window and think of him. The best thing to do when pets die, I've found, is to just go on with your life. The loss is great, but nowhere near the pain you'd feel if a human family member died. Just remember what you still have, and all the good times with your dog, and live.
My sister took the family dog when she got married and moved out. My parents work a lot so I suppose this was the best for my dog (Venus). She's a dauchshound / irish corgi mix. Cute as a button, but she's getting up there in age (14-15 years). She's always had a good bit of health trouble, but she's still hanging on. I know when she passes that I'll be torn apart a bit inside. I suppose the only good side of the situation is that she's been with my sister for about 3 years, and the distance has already created a separation of emotion. Man, just writing this makes me sad.
Sorry to hear that. There are a huge amount of support groups and hot-lines for grieving pet owners if you feel you're having a really hard time and need understanding people to talk to. I've only ever lost reptiles and rodents, which is sad but not the same as losing something like a dog or cat that you're bonded with. Just remember she lived a long, happy life. If you feel you didn't always give her enough of your time, you can make it up with your other dog, it'll help you feel better.
It's rough, man. People who don't have pets don't really understand that it's not like "an animal dying", it's like having a part of the family die, and having a big piece of your life amputated. My family cat (15) died 2 years ago, and it's rough. We have a new cat though, and she's really sweet! I still remember all the good times with my old cat, and I mean I still think about him sometimes and cry a little, but time heals these wounds in my experience. I figure that dead people live on in those who remember them, so just remember the good times.
It's worse I find if you have two pets. One died, and I couldn't be around the other because he was always like: "Where's my buddy?" and acting strange.
When I was 11 or 12 (can't even remember now), our cat died... she was REALLY old, like 16 or 17 (or possibly older, my parents got her as a stray), and it sucked a lot... I was at the vet's office when we put her down, but I couldn't be in the room.
It helped a lot that we got some new cats 3 months later... would have been sooner but we were out of town for 3 weeks shortly afterwards (yeah, our cat's dead and we're off on a vacation... okay, it was mostly because my dad was on a business trip). Having something to refill the void can take the sting out.
It helped a lot that we got some new cats 3 months later... would have been sooner but we were out of town for 3 weeks shortly afterwards (yeah, our cat's dead and we're off on a vacation... okay, it was mostly because my dad was on a business trip). Having something to refill the void can take the sting out.
Yeah, it's true, but we chose to wait a few months before we replaced it. As a kid I guess it's different and you just miss having a friend, but I think that if I got a new cat right away, it'd just make me feel worse. It's like... the whole period of time after you break up where you just really don't feel like being in a relationship.
thanks a lot again, this has helped a bit. anyway, the 'wheres my buddy' issue doesn't arise because Snowy (the dog that passed away) was 11 years old while Buddy (the one thats still here) is almost 2. they didn't really hang around much because of the age difference. what really screwed me over was that i've had him as a child and i can't even remember a time period where I was without him. My earliest memories are with him. when you put a dog down, atleast you know its going to happen and can somehow be prepared to an extent. he had a skin infection for 10-15 days now and hadnt really been eating the past two but he was getting medication and stuff so this thing was pretty sudden. we just got the reports today (we'd got the test done a couple of days back) which said his kidneys were pretty screwed but before we could do anything, he'd gone.
im basically feeling really bad because since my grandad isn't really well and the dog had been having a skin disease we had to keep him on the ground floor so that my grandad wouldn't have problems so it resulted in him being alone a lot of the time. i guess my only concern was that i hadnt spent enough time with him and that somehow brought this up.
im basically feeling really bad because since my grandad isn't really well and the dog had been having a skin disease we had to keep him on the ground floor so that my grandad wouldn't have problems so it resulted in him being alone a lot of the time. i guess my only concern was that i hadnt spent enough time with him and that somehow brought this up.
I have lost two pets in my time, one of which I had an actual bond with. I'm not a person to shed tears, but internally I felt as much grief as the family member whose mourning was on display. Since then, whenever I have had a pet to get close to, I have reminded myself that I will outlive it so as to minimize the pain of that eventuality. As with any grief, the best you can do in its midst is continue living, whatever that may entail, and with time, it will fade away.
I just went through the same thing with a parakeet I've had for 11 years. Although a bird isnt considered a big a pet as a dog I was still pretty close to it. I always left its cage door open so it could fly around whenever it wanted to, and I was the one who always took care of it.
Anyways the day it died (the day D/P were released in the US ironically) I was pretty sad. My bird didn't exactly die a nice death and basically spent the day bleeding to death whileI was at EMT class. I was pretty troubled by it all and kept thinking about the whole thing over and over again. But I buried him in the back yard and smoked a cigarette for him and it really helped me to get over it.
I guess what helped me the most was actually smoking a cig lol. I did it with the intention that while I smoked it I would only think of my bird, but when it went out that was it; I would put it behind me. And it really did work. I still think of my bird now and then, but it wasnt haunting me like it was when it first happened. So basically what Im saying is do something that will commit your time completly to the memory of your pet (like taking a walk), but when this activity is done put it behind you.
And about regretting not spending the time with it, don't. The reality is that people are busy and can't always spend the time they want with others, especially their pets. I know I wasn't spending as much time as I would have liked to with my bird when it died, but thats just how it played out. An important thing about dealing with a death, and life in general IMO, is to not spend times on the what ifs. If you do itll only eat away at you, and you'll waste time refelcting on the past when you should be out living. And this might even lead to more regret over things you missed out on while you were stuck in the past, effectivly creating a snow ball effect. I've gone through it before, not for my pet, and it sucks. You'll end up feeling worse in the end then you did to begin with, and you have lots of lost time to boot. In the end you gotta put it behind you; realize whats done is done and that you can't change it now.
Anyways the day it died (the day D/P were released in the US ironically) I was pretty sad. My bird didn't exactly die a nice death and basically spent the day bleeding to death whileI was at EMT class. I was pretty troubled by it all and kept thinking about the whole thing over and over again. But I buried him in the back yard and smoked a cigarette for him and it really helped me to get over it.
I guess what helped me the most was actually smoking a cig lol. I did it with the intention that while I smoked it I would only think of my bird, but when it went out that was it; I would put it behind me. And it really did work. I still think of my bird now and then, but it wasnt haunting me like it was when it first happened. So basically what Im saying is do something that will commit your time completly to the memory of your pet (like taking a walk), but when this activity is done put it behind you.
And about regretting not spending the time with it, don't. The reality is that people are busy and can't always spend the time they want with others, especially their pets. I know I wasn't spending as much time as I would have liked to with my bird when it died, but thats just how it played out. An important thing about dealing with a death, and life in general IMO, is to not spend times on the what ifs. If you do itll only eat away at you, and you'll waste time refelcting on the past when you should be out living. And this might even lead to more regret over things you missed out on while you were stuck in the past, effectivly creating a snow ball effect. I've gone through it before, not for my pet, and it sucks. You'll end up feeling worse in the end then you did to begin with, and you have lots of lost time to boot. In the end you gotta put it behind you; realize whats done is done and that you can't change it now.
I had to put my dog to sleep at the start of the year, also due to renal failure. Even typing this I'm starting to get watery eyed, and it's been almost 8 months. I comfort myself with the fact that my dog had a very happy life with me, and that I was able to ease the pain she was feeling at the end of her life. She gave me a bit over 7 years of companionship, pillow warming and foot licking, so being able to give something back to her when she needed it most was only natural. Time lessens the sting of it, but if you're anything like me it'll probably take some time before you can even talk about him without crying. Just take solace in the fact that he loved you, and that you gave him a good life.
I had the same regrets about not spending enough time with my dog, but no matter how much time you had spent with him you'd still wish you had done more.
I had the same regrets about not spending enough time with my dog, but no matter how much time you had spent with him you'd still wish you had done more.
my first dog died 2 years ago this November, it was kinda crazy, my dad called me crying (he had been sick for a bit) and they decided to put him down that Friday (I was going home for it), and he ended up just going silently Wednesday night, the night before a HUGE calculus test. Anyways, I got the call and ended up crying all night, went to class, cried throughout it, (worst Math grade I've had in my life, I didn't even bother finishing the test); then went home right after. Anyways, it was pretty traumatic, and everytime I go home I expect to see him, and I get a new pang each time.
Now my other dog is getting old, he's a little dog, so I got to keep him when I moved to college, but yeah, I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it when he dies. He's my junior cuddle-buddy, aka shadow dog, if he's not within 2 feet of me, he's probably into something he's not supposed to be into, but yeah, :( I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm sure, as with any loss, that time will eventually give you some healing.
Now my other dog is getting old, he's a little dog, so I got to keep him when I moved to college, but yeah, I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it when he dies. He's my junior cuddle-buddy, aka shadow dog, if he's not within 2 feet of me, he's probably into something he's not supposed to be into, but yeah, :( I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm sure, as with any loss, that time will eventually give you some healing.
i dont' want to bring up any painful memories or anything, but i'm awfully curious as to how your bird died ):
we had a budgie that had to be put to sleep due to kidney failure. he wasn't tame at all though and just made noise so we didn't miss him too much.