tried reading through this thread; achieved about two pages before i remembered why i hated humanity so sorry if what i'm posting is already said/disagrees with someone else
It's obviously a huge tragedy that this Amanda Todd girl died, and everyone is feeling terrible, but if i see one more person blame one more person i will flip a table
Everyone, hindsight is 20/20 and nobody expected it to come to this I GUARANTEE. Even the people who bullied Amanda; even the people who blackmailed her; even her parents; fuck, even Amanda herself. I can speak from personal experience when I say that it's basically impossible to conceptualize someone's death in a real way, and this often leads us to do stupid things without considering the consequences.
In May, a girl at my school committed suicide. When it happened, everyone was completely stunned. She was kind to everyone, and we couldn't think of anyone who'd bullied her. We couldn't believe it would happen!
of course, there were blatantly obvious warning signs. She'd been hospitalized the previous year for anorexia and attempted suicide, and she'd recently been through a rough patch in her life - in the same week, she'd had sex with her boyfriend (she and her parents were both strong Christians), broken up with him, and lost the class president election to a kid whose campaign letter included the phrase "I am a narcissistic, power-hungry sociopath." Fuck, at cross country practice one Friday I even remarked "wouldn't be too surprised if she committed suicide!!1!" which was met with a hearty round of laughter. But nobody thought it would actually happen, we all ignored the problem in the hopes it would go away, and for a few weeks, it did. until she was found dead of drug overdose on the tenth of May.
Obviously, as soon as the tragedy struck, we all felt like assholes. Every single one of us knew we could have done something, anything. talked to her, invited her over. We /knew/, we /knew/ that she was going through hard times, and we pushed her aside because we didn't actually think anything bad could happen. not here, not in severna park!
I remembered every unkind thing I'd ever said to her. I remembered the time I gloated with my friend about how he'd beat her in the class election, and I hadn't felt bad. I remembered the cross country practice where we all called her a slut for sleeping with her boyfriend after one month. I remembered /spreading/ the rumor that she'd slept with her boyfriend after one month. I remembered every day we shared in Stats class, walking to the hole punch that she sat right next to, and I remembered walking coldly by and saying nothing.
Nobody emphasis NOBODY knew this would happen. Me, her closest friends, her ex-boyfriend, her twin sister. Nobody.
enough people have already stated that Amanda Todd is not to blame for this tragedy, but I'll assert the more controversial statement that neither is anyone else. surely, there was malicious intent. Surely, they should have been more aware of the possible consequences of their actions. But I know the feeling of being the complete asshole who feels 110% remorse after it's gone too far, and if i see one more person calling them insincere, i will eat their faces off.
that wasn't fun to write, not to mention completely incoherent. ah well, that's why i usually dont post in these threads