I'll give my own experience here because I feel like it'll be an interesting perspective. In elementary I was consistently too short to really have more than a few friends (I was easy pickings), that said I did have one close friend. We remained that way until high school. Middle school was out right terrible for me because one of my friends had massive anger issues and would usually get explosive. When high school came around, I slowly became more confident in my self. I managed to refine my writing (which is to this day my passion), learn how to act and learn how to sing. I joined a club for four years, went to every debating meet that my school attended through the club (atleast all the ones that didn't require going to California) and made my best friends there (who have stayed friends with me until this day). And at the end of my time in high school I managed to get accepted into a multi-disciplinary arts class which only takes around thirty students per year. To top it off I was elected "Next Shakespeare" by my class when the head of the poetry club (which I was not apart of) turned the superlative down for a different one. I had in no way shape or form campaigned for it and while I can't shake the feeling that it was a sarcastic vote I'm kind of proud that I won something while making fun of everyone campaigning for the superlatives.
That said, I don't really keep in touch with anyone from my high school anymore. The ones from the club I joined ended up screwing me over when board elections came (the previous board had allowed the vote to be stacked towards two specific people and my best friend in the organization refused to even vote for me), the arts class had been in heavy cliques and while I still see and talk to people from it, I don't as much as I should. I go to a large acting school, so the competition is intense enough that the most practice I give my voice is commentating battles.
That said, popularity is a blurry subject. I was both popular and a loner at the same time- both by choice at times and other times forced. I was popular to the extent that I'm funny (enough that an off hand remark caused my Sociology teacher to stop class so that he could laugh) and because I'm smart (for about half a semester I had a permanent sub in an english class so a few of the people in the class who attended trade school turned to me for help. For that half of the semester I essentially taught all of them). I was a loner to the extent that there were some annoying people I didn't really want to be around (there were alot of annoying people) and that I come off as weird. I tend to be some one of emotions (I believe that all reason stems from emotions, so to be reasonable you must first embrace your emotions) and yet I keep myself calm. At times I'm out right hammy. Other times I'm sitting in a corner writing poetry and sarcastic short stories that other people read as morbid (I had a writing proffesor comment how I tend to turn morbid things into something funny) and because I didn't date anyone in high school (despite people showing interest) some of my peers assumed I was gay and attempted to ostracize me for that reason (I'm not).
So really the conclusion I've drawn is that popularity is an illusion. Its something we like to use to pretend that we have friends when we're not yet sure who our friends are (High School tends to do that). By the time some one gets older they tend to know more about themselves and they're thrown into a situation with people who just learned more about themselves and they tend to decide that popularity doesn't mean anything anymore (colleges can have tens of thousands of students- it's impossible to have everyone like you). Just remember, there is happiness pass the popularity pond.
It'd be this one, sorry but the idea that a group of people hate on someone for looks or especially grades is a little ridiculous. Having said that, middle school kids and even to some extent high school kids are the nastiest pieces of shit around. Once I went to university I never looked back, but high school etc was a meh time for me too.Being in high school now, I don't really have any problems socially. I've managed to keep my "good girl" reputation and I have a nice circle of friends who aren't exactly in the popular crowd, which is a good thing because I don't exactly want to be popular. Most of the "popular" kids at my school are assholes and I don't want to be like them.
Middle school was a different story. Let me tell you, being labeled the overly shy and cautious girl sucks big time, especially in the middle school years. A lot of girls hated my guts (for no apparent reason) because they were either jealous of my looks, my grades, or thought I would be an easy target. I did have a small group of friends, but it didn't stop the bitches at my middle school. Worse 3 years of my life, but middle school pretty much sucks anyway.
From my experience, high school is a lot better than the pre-teen years. A lot of people mature and really don't care anymore about what others think, as I have. If people have a problem with me, that's their problem, not mine.
This to literally the highest degree of anything that can be measured in degrees. I'm not bullied very often(if at all, actually), but I see several people who are in my school and godDAMN they can be fucking brutal. Literally nothing is off limits for these pricks. It's horrifying how many of these bullies basically have a superiority/god complex.It'd be this one, sorry but the idea that a group of people hate on someone for looks or especially grades is a little ridiculous. Having said that, middle school kids and even to some extent high school kids are the nastiest pieces of shit around. Once I went to university I never looked back, but high school etc was a meh time for me too.
I am a much stronger person for what I've been through and for that I'm thankful.
I am super socially awkward, not gay though. Anyway, I go to a private school, and we are split into groups, but some of the preps(suits us better) are friends with the jocks. The jocks only like me because I'm sort of good at defense in basketball, but other than that I suck at sports. Overall, I don't think we bully each other that much more than friendly teasing and semi-rivalries.idk I had almost no friends in high school bc I was not only gay but really really weird and socially awkward but my life is awesome in college/work and I have a ton of friends. Just be yourself high school isn't the world or anything remotely close. You'll be glad you did when you get into the real world.
Since when does socially awkward equate to gay, or is even a stereotypical characteristic of gay people, which by itself wouldn't even be accurate since stereotypes are so often untrue?I am super socially awkward, not gay though. Anyway, I go to a private school, and we are split into groups, but some of the preps(suits us better) are friends with the jocks. The jocks only like me because I'm sort of good at defense in basketball, but other than that I suck at sports. Overall, I don't think we bully each other that much more than friendly teasing and semi-rivalries.
Are you kidding me? That would be amazing--I couldn't go back to high school even if you paid me.
I never said it did. I was saying that sometimes people treat gays as socially awkward outcasts. I don't have a gay in my grade, but when people call each other (BAN ME PLEASE) I have a basic idea what it means and that they are using it as a derogatory word. Please don't read into things. To be clear to everybody, I am not anti-gay, I just said I'm not gay.Since when does socially awkward equate to gay, or is even a stereotypical characteristic of gay people, which by itself wouldn't even be accurate since stereotypes are so often untrue?