CaptKirby once paid a hooker with food. He's just jaded because it turns out she worked in pies per hour, and he only gave her half of one.
You are a silly :3
There are few things I find more asinine than the assumption that men do every single solitary thing because they expect to be repaid in sex. That is a ludicrous anti-male stereotype propagated by feminist "thought."
No. I disagree totally - men do not do every single solitary thing because they expect to be paid in sex, but some men definitely do expect to be paid in sex for some things (buying meals, drinks, etc).
To most men a woman is more likely to be considered a good mate based on their performance in a kitchen rather than their performance in a bed, but feminists have never figured that out because they are so busy cursing their empty beds as they bitch about how horrible men are. The feminist movement is, if anything, as hypersexualized as society, maybe even moreso. When I was in college you couldn't turn around without seeing a "Women's Center" poster that in some way, shape, or form involved sexual activity, interracial dating, or something or other in the context of sexual relations and the courting process.
You are a silly, DK! 1. Please don't bore us all with the feminists are craaaazy man haters cos they can't get laid nonsense 2. I would like my partner (be it man or lady) to be good in the bedroom as well as the kitchen, but I can make do with one, the other, or neither; 3. I am very sorry for your experiences with the Women's Centre and I can't talk for it - but I am sure they did a lot more than silly dating exercises.
Point 2 a little more seriously; feminism is about the status of women, right? As a feminist, and a lady (though I don't like the term lady because blah blah blah but I'll ignore that for now) I would like a partner that doesn't expect me to do the cooking because I am a woman, or have sex on his terms because his pleasure is more important than mine (and believe me I have slept with about five hundred million people that are of that mindset, and dated a few as well). Ah, the innocence of youth.
But it seems like the message is everything traditional is "degrading to women." Politeness is degrading, impoliteness is degrading. Cooking good family meals is degrading. Working in a largely-male environment is degrading. Working in a largely-female environment with a male boss is degrading. Women are told they are being degraded so often it is a marvel any well-balanced, thoughtful ones remain.
Not at all. I like to think I am fairly well balanced and thoughtful!
I think politeness is.. not degrading, but can be harmful to women because they are so often taught to be polite and mindful of others feelings in a way men often aren't. This starts from the playground (and is directly relevant to your paragraph below, so I'll deal with it there).
Cooking good family meals is fun! I, for example, enjoy it immensely and made the most FUCKING AWESOME lasagne ever the other night. It took me like, two hours to make - I did the sauces myself and everything - and it turned out pretty fucking A! I made this for my boyfriend, because I love him and he had had a hard couple of days at work, so instructed him to get his feet up and watch his terrible American football (that bit is almost a lie, I made him put my soaps on first) and I cooked him dinner. I often do this!
Everyone should be able to cook. That's simple enough.
However - if my boyfriend expected me to put dinner on because cooking is what women do so he doesn't need to concern himself with it really? That would be problematic. He would be dumped.
Feminists are quite reasonable people really :(
I'll say one thing for men: If men have a problem with you, they will inform you promptly and tell you to shut the fuck up or, worst case scenario, slug you and let it go. Women seem to have this toxic cattiness towards each other that refuses to let anyone else live in peace so long as they personally are in a bad mood.
Again, not an evil of feminism really, who are generally actually quite pleasant people not prone to the bitchiness and cattiness prevalent in society. But it's socialisation - you said it yourself!
I used to watch it on the playground and feel sad. Girls are in bitchy little cliques - guys just get on with it. It comes back to the politeness thing - as a woman you're supposed to be nice, and the caring gender, and mindful of others feelings, and not into confrontation (that is aggressive and apparently male). So there is no confrontation, really - there's just bitchiness, and shit, and all that goes with. And we grow up like it.
It's stupid. Men and women are not the same, they are hardly even "equal" in any respect, save their species. Countless studies are available on gender differences on topics varying from how men and women process information and which features naturally attract or repulse them. We as a society seemed to have tried to micro-manage everything so that men and women have to in some way do 50% shared work on every single thing, inside and outside the home and/or office. That arrangement really doesn't work for most people, and it's foolish to pretend it does.
If most men did 50% of the work in the home I would be very impressed.
(This is where I put my feminist smugface on again; my boyfriend does the majority of housework. aha. he is subjugated by my EVIL FEMINIST WAYS)
There are some subjects that don't merit national focus and attention, and the Gender Wars is one of them. If you can't resolve differences in your relationship, what makes you think Cosmopolitan can teach you 6 ways to improve your sex life? Too many prying eyes, in my humble opinion.
Cosmopolitan is one of the least feminist things ever.
1. They take date-rape very unseriously and consider it the ladies' fault.
2. It is all about how to be sexual (but not TOO sexual!) and please your man. Masturbation (unless you are doing it in front of your man) is frowned upon. Lesbianism is ignored. PLEASE YOUR MAN, LADIES, 50 WAYS TO GIVE A BETTER BLOWJOB. What if you don't like giving blowjobs? Well. You should. You're supposed to be pleasing your man, remember - men like blowjobs yes? But what if your guy doesn't? No mention of that, either.
What I am trying to say there in a very waffly way is simply that magazines like Cosmo are basically about man-fucks-woman-in-societally-normal-way. "Men like blowjobs" = "all men like blowjobs". It's unhealthy.
3. Pointless fucking airbrushed beauty SHITE. GET THIN GET RICH GET PRETTY GET A MAN
oh, fuck off, cosmo.
The only "problem" is that too many people think they're fucking Martha Stewart or Dr. Phil and that only their sagely advice can make your home a better place. Their "solutions" almost always appeal directly to feminine biases at best and banal whining at worst. Never could I imagine them telling a woman on a rampage against her husband to just stuff it, take a chill pill, and try improving themselves before they bring their train wreck personality down on everyone else.
my boyfriend tells me regularly!
you know, whatever works for you is fine. if you want to stay at home and do the dishes, do them! if you wish to have twelve children and devote your life to raising them with love, care and affection, do that! if you want to run a bank, do that also! you see? it should be about personal choices, not gender choices.
