Like many men I once believed that women were fundamentally disadvantaged in American society. I of course thought these injustices should be corrected as quickly as possible. I have recently come to think that men too face serious problems in western society. Most of these opinions were formed from my own personal experiences however I have since read a lot of articles/books on the subject. Anyway these are some things I think are unfair. (note I linked to some articles throughout the post)
Men are drafted, women are not
Men are expected to pay on dates
Men are expected to “protect” women often to their detriment (i.e. save the women and children first on a sinking ship)
Men are presented terribly in our popular culture (“Boys are stupid throw rocks at them” – Men appear stupid and loutish on television sitcoms) (http://open.salon.com/blog/jodi_kasten/2009/05/27/equal_rights_for_men)
Men are heavily discouraged from adopted feminine manners and dress wear as women are not discouraged from the converse. Men more or less cannot wear skirts/dresses/make-up and expect to live a normal life. Men are considered “pussies” if they are emotional. I think this is rather unfair and that men’s lack of clothing choices reflects a lack of expression in other areas.
(http://www.nationalcenterformen.org/page20.shtml)
Men really have few reproductive rights. This one hits home for me. Me and my girlfriend are having sex. I do not want children. However if she got pregnant I would have no recourse to pay child support if she went to term with the child. She has more choices. She alone decides whether to put the child up for adoption or to abort and I have no say. Since we are not married I would have rather unequal rights to see my son/daughter.
I disagree about many women’s inequalities in the workplace. I have never personally heard anyone, in my entire life, openly discuss discrimination against women. In no organization I have been a part of have women had any trouble being elected to office. I agree the “wage gap” statistic is compilled unfairly. It merely compares the AVG wage of full time working men to full time working women. It makes no allowances for education or extra hours at the job nor seniority. I think, for better or worse, women make different lifestyle choices then men and this affects their salary. Article going in more depth:
http://www.swifteconomics.com/2009/09/21/lies-damned-lies-and-statistics-the-wage-gap/ )
Divorce courts are extremely unfair to men. I do not see why if both parents are competent and willing that custody is not presumed to be a straight 50/50 split between each parent. However the current going rate is the father gets every other holiday and every other weekend. I think this is horrible and the risk of losing my kids like that is too great for me to currently entertain the idea of having children. Also child support and alimony can get out of hand. Men have been put in jail for being unable to pay. Support is based on “inputted income” which is what the court thinks you could make. Many cases show women getting very large divorce settlements after short, child-less marriages.
(http://www.ukmm.org.uk/issues/dar-by-sb.htm)
(http://www.glennsacks.com/fathers_bear_the.htm)
((http://www.ukmm.org.uk/issues/lawtest.htm)
We’ve all heard that women should be believed if they claim to have been raped or sexually harassed. I think this goes against the central notion of our legal system. Everyone, no matter what they are accused of, should be presumed innocent. In addition women almost certainly do make false accusation since it can easily work in there favor during a dispute or divorce preceding. The penalties for falsely accusing someone are low so it would seem like it would be abused. This video explains why many rape accusations must be unfounded. ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RliMu2JxVr0&feature=player_embedded )
Finally I don’t like a lot of feminist scholarship. I have bought and read many well regarded texts (Women: A Feminist Perspective, Paradoxes of gender, etc) and found they appeal very strongly to emotion not reason. Obviously women have experiences they need to let out but I don’t think laws should be based on feelings. This is a great article by Christina Hoff summers on her experiences with Feminist scholarship. (http://chronicle.com/article/Persistent-Myths-in-Feminis/46965/)
In conclusion women have the right to be treated the same as men but men also have the right o be treated the same as women. In mathematics the only too things that are equal are things that are exactly the same. Obviously men and women aren’t the same (though I think in all important ways they are) but legally no distinctions should be made. Feminism has been a great force for good in our world and in many countries much still needs to be done but I think in some ways its gone too far.
Generally good page - http://www.ukmm.org.uk/
Decent page - http://www.themenscenter.com/National/national10.htm
Great site in general ( http://www.nationalcenterformen.org/index.shtml )
edit:
When I said being sent to jail for rape is just as bad as being raped I meant being sent to jail for aa rape you didn't commit. It was a mistake to not make that very clear.
Men are drafted, women are not
Men are expected to pay on dates
Men are expected to “protect” women often to their detriment (i.e. save the women and children first on a sinking ship)
Men are presented terribly in our popular culture (“Boys are stupid throw rocks at them” – Men appear stupid and loutish on television sitcoms) (http://open.salon.com/blog/jodi_kasten/2009/05/27/equal_rights_for_men)
Men are heavily discouraged from adopted feminine manners and dress wear as women are not discouraged from the converse. Men more or less cannot wear skirts/dresses/make-up and expect to live a normal life. Men are considered “pussies” if they are emotional. I think this is rather unfair and that men’s lack of clothing choices reflects a lack of expression in other areas.
(http://www.nationalcenterformen.org/page20.shtml)
Men really have few reproductive rights. This one hits home for me. Me and my girlfriend are having sex. I do not want children. However if she got pregnant I would have no recourse to pay child support if she went to term with the child. She has more choices. She alone decides whether to put the child up for adoption or to abort and I have no say. Since we are not married I would have rather unequal rights to see my son/daughter.
I disagree about many women’s inequalities in the workplace. I have never personally heard anyone, in my entire life, openly discuss discrimination against women. In no organization I have been a part of have women had any trouble being elected to office. I agree the “wage gap” statistic is compilled unfairly. It merely compares the AVG wage of full time working men to full time working women. It makes no allowances for education or extra hours at the job nor seniority. I think, for better or worse, women make different lifestyle choices then men and this affects their salary. Article going in more depth:
http://www.swifteconomics.com/2009/09/21/lies-damned-lies-and-statistics-the-wage-gap/ )
Divorce courts are extremely unfair to men. I do not see why if both parents are competent and willing that custody is not presumed to be a straight 50/50 split between each parent. However the current going rate is the father gets every other holiday and every other weekend. I think this is horrible and the risk of losing my kids like that is too great for me to currently entertain the idea of having children. Also child support and alimony can get out of hand. Men have been put in jail for being unable to pay. Support is based on “inputted income” which is what the court thinks you could make. Many cases show women getting very large divorce settlements after short, child-less marriages.
(http://www.ukmm.org.uk/issues/dar-by-sb.htm)
(http://www.glennsacks.com/fathers_bear_the.htm)
((http://www.ukmm.org.uk/issues/lawtest.htm)
We’ve all heard that women should be believed if they claim to have been raped or sexually harassed. I think this goes against the central notion of our legal system. Everyone, no matter what they are accused of, should be presumed innocent. In addition women almost certainly do make false accusation since it can easily work in there favor during a dispute or divorce preceding. The penalties for falsely accusing someone are low so it would seem like it would be abused. This video explains why many rape accusations must be unfounded. ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RliMu2JxVr0&feature=player_embedded )
Finally I don’t like a lot of feminist scholarship. I have bought and read many well regarded texts (Women: A Feminist Perspective, Paradoxes of gender, etc) and found they appeal very strongly to emotion not reason. Obviously women have experiences they need to let out but I don’t think laws should be based on feelings. This is a great article by Christina Hoff summers on her experiences with Feminist scholarship. (http://chronicle.com/article/Persistent-Myths-in-Feminis/46965/)
In conclusion women have the right to be treated the same as men but men also have the right o be treated the same as women. In mathematics the only too things that are equal are things that are exactly the same. Obviously men and women aren’t the same (though I think in all important ways they are) but legally no distinctions should be made. Feminism has been a great force for good in our world and in many countries much still needs to be done but I think in some ways its gone too far.
Generally good page - http://www.ukmm.org.uk/
Decent page - http://www.themenscenter.com/National/national10.htm
Great site in general ( http://www.nationalcenterformen.org/index.shtml )
edit:
When I said being sent to jail for rape is just as bad as being raped I meant being sent to jail for aa rape you didn't commit. It was a mistake to not make that very clear.