Yeah say that I have no life, unable to move on or whatever... but last year I did something terrible (Can't reveal... really personal...) and my best friend was the one in trouble. No, I did not put the blame on her, people just suspected she did it. I did admit I was the guilty person, not her, and I apologized to her but we never really talked much. Then I moved out to another school, found her on Facebook, added her, then I got blocked by her. It is not the block that hurts, it is the fact she apparently is still mad at me (Although she never really showed it...) about that incident, and she happens to be my best friend. And I can't keep contact anymore because she blocked me... how to get over this? I just want to move on with my life but I don't know how.
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Advice needed... how do I get over it?
- Thread starter The 1 and Only Lady Gaga
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As a general tip, if you blame something unspeakable on your best friend, they're not exactly going to forgive you quickly. You shouldn't expect her to. It's rather unlikely she'll be your "best friend" anymore. You fucked up.
As for moving on, get her out of your mind. She doesn't seem to want anything to do with you, so do what you can to avoid thinking of her until you're not emotionally attached anymore.
As for moving on, get her out of your mind. She doesn't seem to want anything to do with you, so do what you can to avoid thinking of her until you're not emotionally attached anymore.
While obviously a sarcastic answer, it's not completely without merit. Burying yourself in a project or something is probably the quickest way to get over someone. Just be sure the project is something you can give up and / or continue to live without. Example: Don't pick up WoW if you're a grad student.
You gotta accept reality and move on. It is her right to not like you anymore, just as it's your right to not like her anymore. There are too many things that you can do beside worrying about a lost cause. This would be a great opportunity to personally reflect and find ways to improve yourself.
No I didn't blame her, other people did, because they assumed she did it. So yeah, but I will get over it...
I already got a new best friend, thanks guys.
Best friends are not made overnight. Often it seems destined, but you have to give it time.
I would go talk to your old best friend in person and force the issue of whatever happened that shouldn't have (more info would be wonderful). Get it out there and force an opinion out of her. AFTER you know what that person thinks, you can move on with your life. The doubt is what kills me. I was suicidal for about a week a year ago. The only thing that stopped me was that it would hurt, and I'm a wimp. But after I talked to the person, I decided that I could move on and live life well.
If you can get over it, do so and keep it in mind for the future. When someone gets wrongfully blamed, step up and inform whoever is placing that blame that it was you. This might make you a stronger person in the future.
If you're dead to her, make her dead to you.
Yeah I guess.
To help me get over it, I was listening to these songs:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6z4xPU0eMPg
Ashley Tisdale - Over It
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZMQbnc2hM4&feature=related
Jordan Pruitt - Over It
Although ironically she should be listening to them because I was the one who hurt her... indirectly.
Haha funny, it's not that she will pick up though.
Very funny. Not. Post something that makes sense.
I've had this happen to me before a few times, but I have a mindset that's used to cutting losses whenever necessary, so it was no biggy. My advice is to reframe your thinking into something like this:
1) Whatever happened, I've apologized, and I stand by my apology.
2) If she won't accept it, then there is nothing further that I can do.
3) Her mental state is not my responsibility.
4) I shouldn't be dependent on her approval to prosper as a human being.
You can stop here, or you can indulge in a bit of catharsis. Tell yourself that she's a douche, and that you deserve better. One thing's for certain, though: don't listen to music that resembles what you're going through. All it does is make those thoughts more salient in your mind.
1) Whatever happened, I've apologized, and I stand by my apology.
2) If she won't accept it, then there is nothing further that I can do.
3) Her mental state is not my responsibility.
4) I shouldn't be dependent on her approval to prosper as a human being.
You can stop here, or you can indulge in a bit of catharsis. Tell yourself that she's a douche, and that you deserve better. One thing's for certain, though: don't listen to music that resembles what you're going through. All it does is make those thoughts more salient in your mind.
Move on, things like these happen, We don't live in a perfect world.
Try to participate in activities that will take your mind off of what happened. Such as: Playing Pokemon, hanging with friends, seeing a movie, watching funny T.V. shows/videos, etc.
Maybe some psychological counseling could help too if your mood doesn't seem to be improving.
Try to participate in activities that will take your mind off of what happened. Such as: Playing Pokemon, hanging with friends, seeing a movie, watching funny T.V. shows/videos, etc.
Maybe some psychological counseling could help too if your mood doesn't seem to be improving.
