Yes, but what are the chances that both of you adhere to each other's lists? Relationships are a two-way street.
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Well, think of it this way:
If one of someone's dealbreakers is that they'll never date a smoker, then they will find a non-smoker to date. The probability that the nonsmoker will have a criterion on their list that says they absolutely want to date a smoker is pretty small.
If one of someone's criteria is that their future partner cannot be a religious nutbag, they will start dating someone who isn't a religious nutbag. And the non-religious nutbag they end up dating likely won't want a religious nutbag either.
Someone wants to date someone who likes video games, and the person they end up dating likes video games. They have a lot of fun playing video games together once they end up dating.
And so on. These lists are pretty good filters, actually. The only thing that might be non self-selecting is the aesthetic stuff, but that tends to be more negotiable anyway, and no one is going to start dating a person who they're not at least somewhat attracted to.
Of course, adhering to the standards doesn't always produce perfect results, because no one is perfect. And most of the time, one person is more into the other person than the other person is into them, probably because the other person sees something in their partner that's somewhat of a turn-off for them. But when both partners meet each other's lists perfectly, the relationship has a pretty good chance of actually working out, because people who share similar values get along well. And if partners share similar lists, they probably also share similar values.
So while someone with a long list might end up alone for long periods of time, once they find someone who does adhere to their list, they are much more likely to be in a happy relationship with that person than someone who will date anyone who walks down the street based on attraction alone.