First Dates

[moot]

Mine - surprisingly - was at a metal festival in Belgium. But we're both metal fans and we live quite far apart (and we met on the net) so it was the easiest thing to do...

was that this girl, altmer? :}

 

[Altmer]

yah but that picture was taken a month later i think

 

[Playa]

My first date was years ago hell, I still remember it tho. Pretty much, you want to take them to a movie, then treat them to dinner. During dinner, its easier to get conversations going and asking that person more about themselves. After the first date, things naturally progress ;)

If you took them to dinner on your first date then you must've been pretty old ;p

 

[Objection]

Totally 100% wrong!

As suspected.

The best bit about a new relationship is finding things out about the person; if I may get a bit soppy and poetic, devouring them, exploring them.

So ... are you going to say that this won't be an awkward situation? Because even without the colourful vocabulary, it sounds like an awkward situation to me, and wanting an awkward situation makes as much sense as wanting to be raped.

Also, I thought you "got to know" the person when you were "just going out", or was that another predictable misconception on my part?

 

[pokepwn7]

My first date was about two years ago. I took a her to a movie than we want to a nice quiet italian restaurant. After that we garbed a coffee and watched the sun set over our local lake. Than I drove her home. We are still dating to this day.

 

[jumpluff]

I have never been on a date and have never really expected to go on many, so I haven't devoted much thought to this, but I've never heard of dates to book stores! The library doesn't sound so horrible, but a book store? Does your local book store have an adjoining café or something?

 

[akuchi]

As suspected.



So ... are you going to say that this won't be an awkward situation? Because even without the colourful vocabulary, it sounds like an awkward situation to me, and wanting an awkward situation makes as much sense as wanting to be raped.

Also, I thought you "got to know" the person when you were "just going out", or was that another predictable misconception on my part?

I honestly feel sorry for you at this point! ..or at least I did, until you brought the flippant and irrelevant rape reference into it. gj.

It's not awkward, it's exciting! Really, really exciting. It's fun, it's sexy, it's.. pff it's just lovely. Finding out exactly what this person you've (I'm assuming) got some feelings for is like! Everything about them.. favourite food, hopes for the future, 'that-one-time-they'. People's quirks, desires, fears; and that's before you even go into the physical side of it. Ceaseless flirting and being made to laugh, and knowing you make someone else laugh! And as to the first physical things, y'know; finding out what someone looks like with no clothes on, how they kiss, etc etc use your imagination (and yes this SO is first date material).

If it's awkward, you're on the wrong first date. Bail.

 

[Objection]

It's not awkward, it's exciting! Really, really exciting. It's fun, it's sexy, it's.. pff it's just lovely. Finding out exactly what this person you've (I'm assuming) got some feelings for is like! Everything about them.. favourite food, hopes for the future, 'that-one-time-they'. People's quirks, desires, fears; and that's before you even go into the physical side of it. Ceaseless flirting and being made to laugh, and knowing you make someone else laugh! And as to the first physical things, y'know; finding out what someone looks like with no clothes on, how they kiss, etc etc use your imagination (and yes this SO is first date material).

I'm kind of hoping that this paragraph starts sincerely and gets more and more sarcastic towards the end with sarcasm levels peaking by the final bit in brackets.

Everything you described before the physical aspects sounds like ... well, a regular friendship. This in turn suggests that "girlfriend" basically means "female friend you kiss and fuck". No doubt you or someone else is gonna say "NO ITS NOT LIEK DAT AT ALL!!!!!" or words to that effect.

 

[Mountain Dewgong]

I honestly feel sorry for you at this point! ..or at least I did, until you brought the flippant and irrelevant rape reference into it. gj.

It's not awkward, it's exciting! Really, really exciting. It's fun, it's sexy, it's.. pff it's just lovely. Finding out exactly what this person you've (I'm assuming) got some feelings for is like! Everything about them.. favourite food, hopes for the future, 'that-one-time-they'. People's quirks, desires, fears; and that's before you even go into the physical side of it. Ceaseless flirting and being made to laugh, and knowing you make someone else laugh! And as to the first physical things, y'know; finding out what someone looks like with no clothes on, how they kiss, etc etc use your imagination (and yes this SO is first date material).

If it's awkward, you're on the wrong first date. Bail.

Quoted for the truth.

I kinda miss the exciting, heart-flittering, nervous first dates. My current girlfriend of over 8 months was a great friend (if not my best friend) before we got together. Turns out she really liked me all along. But at a party we were at, it turned sour so we huddled into my car as we were both to drunk to drive and it was cold so we snuggled up and I kissed her, one thing led to another and here we are. Not exactly romantic, as I heard some girl got bottled at the party we were at after we left, but it sure lead to a great relationship.

And Akuchi, I totally agree with you about the mundane things. It's so nice to like do everyday things with your significant other, shopping, television, walking the dog or even doing the dishes. Including them in your daily routine is a great feeling.

 

[Nerdling]

Last first date was walking on bloor and stopping if we found something interesting, smoking along the way and drinking wine discreetly hidden in an opaque water bottle. We only stopped when with each other

Classy...

My girlfriend and I baked cookies together.

 

[akuchi]

I'm kind of hoping that this paragraph starts sincerely and gets more and more sarcastic towards the end with sarcasm levels peaking by the final bit in brackets.

Everything you described before the physical aspects sounds like ... well, a regular friendship. This in turn suggests that "girlfriend" basically means "female friend you kiss and fuck". No doubt you or someone else is gonna say "NO ITS NOT LIEK DAT AT ALL!!!!!" or words to that effect.

If you're not best/very good friends with your lover then you're in the wrong relationship. And no, it wasn't sarcasm; I'm not against fucking on a first date, particularly where you've known the person involved for a while.
Perfect relationship, to me; someone you can talk to for hours and hours and hours and hours who is totally fuckable who you feel all warm and glowy about (who feels the same and treats you decently, etc).
nb: I tend to find the physical attraction part comes after.

 

[Objection]

If you're not best/very good friends with your lover then you're in the wrong relationship.

Not gonna argue with you there.

I tend to find the physical attraction part comes after.

I'm not exactly seeing why there would have to be a physical attraction in the first place, unless my statement

"girlfriend" basically means "female friend you kiss and fuck".

is also true. If you like, you can change it to "boyfriend" means "male friend you kiss and fuck".

EDIT: Given that my statement above is not true, the physical attraction part of a relationship is rather superfluous, isn't it?

 

[akuchi]

Um, no; feeling attracted to someone, feeling affection/love for someone, and fucking them are all very different things.

 

[mtr]

I typically just open up with coffee, unless I've known the person, in which case its sometimes a movie. It's a lot like leading with a Swampert: it's not original, but hey, it's standard for a reason.

 

[Kogssk]

I'd go with dinner and movie, or coffee.

 

[MrIndigo]

Not gonna argue with you there.



I'm not exactly seeing why there would have to be a physical attraction in the first place, unless my statement is also true. If you like, you can change it to "boyfriend" means "male friend you kiss and fuck".

EDIT: Given that my statement above is not true, the physical attraction part of a relationship is rather superfluous, isn't it?

Actually, that's exactly what a significant other is. It is a best friend with whom you want to/do have sex with.

As akuchi said; if you're NOT best friends with your S.O., you're in the wrong relationship.

 

[ivar]

Bbjection's cluelessness is legendary.

And hey it was classy nerdling you don't need to be at a restaurant or the zoo or some gimmick to be romantic. I jsut rely on my natural charisma.

 

[Doctor Heartbreak]

i made this post a year or so ago i think, i hope nobody minds if i repeat it:

hey dudes, don't knock the movie date!

first dates are pretty stressful, an excuse not to talk for a while is usually a relief, even if it's going really well. and it's not like you can't get to know each other there. there's more to knowing a person than hearing their life story - seeing how they react to a film can show you their sense of humour, whether they are sentimental or not, a lot of emotional reactions. and it will display your date as they really are, instead of how they are trying to represent themselves on a first date.

as long as you pair it with a dinner or some other conversation activity, you're fine.

it's also pretty clearly a "date" date, as opposed to something like a trip to the art gallery, which is easy to interpret (or pretend to interpret) as something less.

movie date owns


also, objection, no offense, but until you have not just had sex, but been in a loving sexual relationship, your opinion on it is worthless. like falling in love, sex is one of the very few things in life that has to be experienced firsthand. it is extremely emotionally complex and varying, and utterly alien to all other human forms of interaction - i've never seen language come even close to expressing what sex is. don't judge it 'til you've tried it, basically

 

[Oddish On Fire]

Soooo, I thought I would come here to brag about how awesome tomorrow's first "date" is going to be. My friend, his girlfriend, myself, and the girl I'm taking out are all going to my house, where my mom will be gone. We're getting an eigth of shrooms and a quarter of weed, and then we're going to grind up the shrooms and smoke it all. From there, we're going to see Avatar in 3D. Then, we're coming back to my house and..well...the couples will be splitting up.

Oh, and the girl I'm taking is my 24 year old boss who's engaged. This is going to be so hot.

 

[MrIndigo]

Soooo, I thought I would come here to brag about how awesome tomorrow's first "date" is going to be. My friend, his girlfriend, myself, and the girl I'm taking out are all going to my house, where my mom will be gone. We're getting an eigth of shrooms and a quarter of weed, and then we're going to grind up the shrooms and smoke it all. From there, we're going to see Avatar in 3D. Then, we're coming back to my house and..well...the couples will be splitting up.

Oh, and the girl I'm taking is my 24 year old boss who's engaged. This is going to be so hot.

I am incredibly unimpressed. I wouldn't even call that a date.

 

[zapzap29]

That sounds more like a Saturnalian Orgy.

 

[BigPDaMonsta]

teehee I can see the "date" in that. except, smoking shrooms sucks dude! regardless, I don't think an eighth is close to enough to split between four people!!!!! unless you got some real magical shit...

 

[ivar]

1/8 of shrooms is good for one person, not even close to four. You might as well save the money/buy more shrrooms.

 

[Objection]

also, objection, no offense, but until you have not just had sex, but been in a loving sexual relationship, your opinion on it is worthless. like falling in love, sex is one of the very few things in life that has to be experienced firsthand. it is extremely emotionally complex and varying, and utterly alien to all other human forms of interaction - i've never seen language come even close to expressing what sex is. don't judge it 'til you've tried it, basically

You know, someone else once wrote a longer version of that in response to one of my posts a long time ago, and I told them why I considered sex to be not that good despite having never tried it myself. It essentially comes down to me not liking any form of body contact beyond a high five (and that I have tried) and the fact that as far as I know, it is impossible to have sex without such body contact. Not saying that loving relationships are completely worthless, just wondering why they have to be sexual as well - that is, if they have to be sexual as well.

 

[cim]

You know, someone else once wrote a longer version of that in response to one of my posts a long time ago, and I told them why I considered sex to be not that good despite having never tried it myself. It essentially comes down to me not liking any form of body contact beyond a high five (and that I have tried) and the fact that as far as I know, it is impossible to have sex without such body contact. Not saying that loving relationships are completely worthless, just wondering why they have to be sexual as well - that is, if they have to be sexual as well.

I think you fundamentally misunderstand sex if you think orgasms aren't that much different than hi-fives.