I recently broke up with a girlfriend that I have been... seeing off and on for the last two months. The relationship was fine, nothing was going wrong, we were healthy sexually, and we were both sweet to each other and didn't want to hurt the other.
Only problem is that the last couple months I've been struggling with my identity and I finally came out as gay to her two days ago. I've never really felt like I've ever had more than a maternal compassion toward a female, despite what I might want to delude myself into thinking when it comes to relationships, and I just did not have any more desire for 'the fairer sex' any longer. The way I saw it was as a stroke of compassion, to keep from stringing her along any farther and hurting her even worse when she got ridiculously serious (as she would, knowing her personality type; we dated for a month about two years ago and she was throwing around the L word). She's not taking it well; she went into shock at school and missed four periods, but I talked to her yesterday and sorted things out and things seem to be okay for now. I just have felt really swamped the last two days and needed to get it off my chest ok!!!
Only problem is that the last couple months I've been struggling with my identity and I finally came out as gay to her two days ago. I've never really felt like I've ever had more than a maternal compassion toward a female, despite what I might want to delude myself into thinking when it comes to relationships, and I just did not have any more desire for 'the fairer sex' any longer. The way I saw it was as a stroke of compassion, to keep from stringing her along any farther and hurting her even worse when she got ridiculously serious (as she would, knowing her personality type; we dated for a month about two years ago and she was throwing around the L word). She's not taking it well; she went into shock at school and missed four periods, but I talked to her yesterday and sorted things out and things seem to be okay for now. I just have felt really swamped the last two days and needed to get it off my chest ok!!!